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Why? Bc if we don’t identify it as trauma, it flys under the radar as acceptable behavior for generations and gets labeled as “normal” Bc we don’t know any different. ⁣ ⁣ For many, many years, I never thought I had experienced trauma. I thought trauma was severe physical, sexual abuse or extreme physical neglect. In my mind if it wasn’t those 3 things, it wasn’t trauma. ⁣ ⁣ Using this definition of trauma left me confused about my behaviors, memories, feelings, and so many things.⁣ ⁣ I spent so much time trying to forget things that happened in my childhood and move on in an effort to convince myself that “it wasn’t that bad”. ⁣ ⁣ But trust me, that didn’t help. It only caused me to self-destruct and continue to use the behaviors I learned as a child to hurt others as an adult bc again, I thought they were “normal”. ⁣ ⁣ Unfortunately, when we define trauma as only the “Big T” Traumas like rape and extreme physical abuse, we end up not being able to identify why we are stuck/numb as adults. ⁣ ⁣ We miss out on so much healing Bc we think the symptoms of trauma (depression, anxiety, mood swings, chronic pain, weight fluctuations, lack of focus, exhaustion, etc) or coping mechanisms (shopping, drinking, being a workaholic, unhealthy eating habits, alcohol, drugs, perfectionism etc) are indicators that something is wrong with us, when they are really just either 1)our body’s attempt to get our attention to resolve the unresolved trauma or 2)a way we have brilliantly learned to cope with the unresolved trauma. ⁣ ⁣ Nothing is wrong with us. Something happened to us and there is a HUGE difference in these two. ⁣ ⁣ With ❤️,⁣ Cortney

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This came in the mail on Friday. Ready to dig in! Studies reveal that resilience protects against many of the effects of adverse childhood experiences, such as mental health concerns, autoimmune disease, reproductivehealth concerns, and metabolic syndrome-related disorders. If you’re a survivor of childhood adversity, you need to learn more about developing grit! #grit #perseverence #resilience

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🥰Are you listening to the Raising Baby Podcast?🥰⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔆I would love for you to jump over to iTunes, Google Play, and Spotify and subscribe to the podcast and leave a review! 🔆⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⚠️Please help me spread the message of infant and toddler mental health, developmental trauma and attachment across the world! ⚠️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧡Make sure you follow me @selma_parentchildrelationships! 🧡

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“I used to view health as simply exercising and eating well. However, mental health has profound effects on our physical health. I'm a high school science teacher in an urban area with high rates of poverty. Many of my students come from backgrounds where they have experienced or still experience trauma on a daily basis. These traumas are called Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), and the study that uncovered the link between ACEs and poor health outcomes is the largest and most important public health study conducted to date. ACEs are linked to a number of pervasive and expensive public health issues - depression, cancer, heart disease, STDs, and diabetes. ⁣⁣⁠ ⁣⁣⁠ With education, ACEs can be prevented in early childhood. For people that have experienced trauma, just one safe and supportive relationship early in life can give young people a better chance at healthy adulthood. Despite my own childhood trauma, I was fortunate enough to have safe and supportive relationships with adults who helped me grow and succeed. It's no surprise that in my career, I gravitated towards working with young people who struggle on a daily basis. As an educator, I’ve seen dramatic changes in my students who are provided a safe and loving place to learn, grow and heal” - Jeanette Perez, M.S.⁣ 🇺🇸⁣⁠ ⁣⁣⁠ “الصحة بالنسبة إلي كانت أكل ورياضة بس بعد ما اشتغلت مع شباب/بنات من مجتمعات مهمشة فهمي للصحة إتغير - الصحة النفسية له تأثير كبير على الصحة الجسدية. أنا مدرسة علوم في مدينة فيها نسبة فقر عالية وكثير من طلابي واجهوا أو مازال بيواجهوا صدمات على شكل يومي. الصدمات هاي اسمها تجارب الطفولة السلبية ومن أهم الدراسات أثبتت إنه هاي الحالة مرتبطة بأمراض مثل الإكتئاب، السرطان، أمراض القلب، أمراض جنسية والسكر. ⁣⁣⁠ ⁣⁣⁠ إذا فهمتي الموضوع أحسن ممكن تتفادي تجارب الطفولة السلبية لأطفالك أو طلابك من عُمر صغير. علاقة صحية واحدة لطفلة عّم بتمر بصدمات ممكن تحسن صحتها على المدى الطويل.أنا عانيت من صدمات كبير بطفولتي بس لحسن الحظ كان عندي علاقات مع ناس ساعدتني أتطور وأنجح وكنت محظوظة لأنه مش كل الأطفال بيلاقوا أشخاص يساعدوهم. عشان هيك قررت أشتغل مع الشباب والبنات اللي بيعانوا على شكل يومي. كمُدرسة هدفي إني أبني علاقات صحية مع طالباتي وأكون نموذج في التواصل وأوفرلهم ⁠مساحة آمنة للتعلم” - 🇺🇸جنيت بريز

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Mr. Rogers and childhood trauma: “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood” resonated so much that I was brought to tears by the sheer beauty of everything Mr. Rogers exemplified. The story opens with a man struggling with unresolved anger from family dysfunction and throughout the story he (Tom Hanks) demonstrates the healing gifts of connection that create deep healing: acknowledging and being fully present for others, awareness of feelings, forgiveness, unending compassion and vegetarianism, grounding practices, prayer and understanding that we are not broken! If you couldn’t stand Mr. Rogers when you were a kid there may be a connection. I recently figured out why my brother wouldn’t let my little sister watch Mr. Rogers. Kids from dysfunctional families learn to distract themselves from their feelings early and often...the very thing Mr. Rogers talked about. According to the world’s premiere trauma expert, Bessel van der Kolk, “When you are able to tolerate your feelings, your PTSD is healed.” Feelings are sacred messengers! #cPTSD #Adversechildhoodexperiences #PTSD #childhoodmemories #emotionalneglect #healsjourney

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Oh it’s so easy to loose our cool when our little one is having a big emotion for the 100th time in one day.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We all have been there. Reconnecting is what is important because they need us to help them through this big emotion, for the 100th time in one day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Reconnect, be present and help them through this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ll be giving tips on how to do this in upcoming podcasts episodes, make sure you tune in! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔆I would love for you to jump over to iTunes, Google Play, and Spotify and subscribe to the Raising Baby podcast and leave a review! 🔆⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⚠️Please help me spread the message of infant and toddler mental health, developmental trauma and attachment across the world! ⚠️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧡Make sure you follow me @selma_parentchildrelationships! 🧡

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A note about mental health... For those with childhood trauma, for those living with depression, the holidays are often the most challenging. For me Christmas is wrought with willful neglect, and psychological abuse that highlights my chaotic attachment to my parents and has undermined much of my adult life. If you are struggling right now, I hear you, I know you. It’s brutal. It hurts and it’s not fair. You didn’t deserve what happened. It’s a damn shame people you trusted let you down and it’s brutal to have to advocate for yourself when you’re so vulnerable. But, advocate you must. I’ve been cleaning up the hurricane of my childhood for many years. It’s hard work. There are setbacks. Frustrations. Anger. More setbacks. Sadness. Spells of self sabotage. But it gets better. For the first time in memory I approach this holiday season at peace. I’m at peace with where I am right now, the work I’ve done. The work I still have to do and I’ve been able to be present with my family in a way I have never been able to before. For those of you doing your damnest to not let the trauma define you, you are stronger than you know (stronger than people let you believe). Don’t stop fighting for yourself. You are worth it. You deserve to be happy. To be loved, whether by self or others, and most importantly, you are not alone. I love you all If you need help: www.kidshelpphone.ca www.cmha.ca www.crisisservicescanada.ca/en/ www.cpa.ca #mentalwellness #depression #anxiety #chaoticattachment #psycology #mentalhealth #therapy #holidaysarehard #trauma #adversechildhoodexperiences #childhood #selfadvocacy

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Thinking positive is difficult for those who have mental health injuries and illnesses. Not that simple. Yet looking for positive things happening along the way in your life like someone giving you a giftcard as a gift, someone drops off a few groceries for you perhaps someone gives you a ride. Noting these positive experiences is good for the mind. • • • • #mentalhealthishealth #mentalillnessawarenes #youareenough #youarenotalone #yourstorymatters #yourareimportant #connections #mentalhealthcounseling #changealife #beherenow #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bipolarawareness #narcassistawareness #narcassisticabuse #seasonalaffectivedisorder #beheretomorrow #codependencyrecovery #consciouscommunication #complexptsd #pleaselisten #feelingsareokay #weareallthesame #awarenessavenue #toxicpeople #toxicstress #adversechildhoodexperiences #toxicstresstrauma

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More often than not, I meet mama’s who struggle with mom guilt. Scratch that! I have yet to meet a mom who didn’t struggle with mom guilt. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ With everything going on and adjusting to raising a new still little human being, we find ways to say that we could have done it better and that we could have been more present. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Guess what mama? Your baby finest need a perfect human being. They need you with all of your imperfections. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ They need YOU. The good enough you, really mama! They just want you 🥰⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔆I would love for you to jump over to iTunes, Google Play, and Spotify and subscribe to the Raising Baby podcast and leave a review! 🔆⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⚠️Please help me spread the message of infant and toddler mental health, developmental trauma and attachment across the world! ⚠️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧡Make sure you follow me @selma_parentchildrelationships! 🧡

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It is important that mentoring has the structure and direction it deserves. Using bits of paper or adhoc conversations is not mentoring as it is just a conversation. Would you go to an interview with bits of paper or do you go prepared? Mentoring deserves the same preparation. #thethinkbigmovement #ofsted #dfe #adversechildhoodexperiences #adversechildhoodexperience #nottickingboxes #mentoringworks #mentoring #mentoringreform

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Its a developmental stage that must go forward to heal. When trauma doesn't heal it can be like having a broken leg or a splinter that gets infected and starts attacking other areas of our body(life). And with any journey we never look the same as when we started. 😊💜 #trauma #healing #selfcare #lifechanging #pastisnotthefuture #thefuturedoesntholdthepast #loveself #takecareofyourself #traumahealingtherapy #traumafocusedtherapy #therapyheals #therapy #adversechildhoodexperiences #PTSD #success #positiveselfimage

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🥰Are you listening to the Raising Baby Podcast?🥰⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔆I would love for you to jump over to iTunes, Google Play, and Spotify and subscribe to the podcast and leave a review! 🔆⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⚠️Please help me spread the message of infant and toddler mental health, developmental trauma and attachment across the world! ⚠️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧡Make sure you follow me @selma_parentchildrelationships! 🧡

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