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. Escaping may seem the easier option at the time, yet is it really? . If it feels like you're trapped in a jail cell and you decide to make a break for it (via drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, cutting, binge eating, etc.), you'll most likely, at some point, encounter what will equate to even more trauma/abuse (commit a crime, rape, DUI, lose your paycheck, adultery, job loss, etc.). This will only lengthen the stay in that prison you now call your life. . I lived in that jail cell for decades. . My advice to you: . STOP TRYING TO ESCAPE!! . It doesn't matter how many times you attempt to flee, you'll eventually realize that pain has been/is held right smack dab in the middle of your own heart. . And no matter how hard you try, you will never, EVER be able to outrun yourself. . #stoprunning #healtheinternal #healyourheart . . #escape #theescapeplan #addiction #bpd #ptsd #cptsd #depression #anxiety #unhealthycopingskills #trauma #childhoodneglect #abuse #unresolvedtrauma #hostage #prisoner #cen #hope #dontlookdownlookup #thereispurposeinpain #theonlywayoutisthrough #youareworththepriceoffreedom #changeyourperspective

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在田老師被告發後,老師協同社工一起約談我們,我當時一直哭一直哭,心裡不敢再想起發生事情的過程,這讓我很難受... 社工阿姨後來給了我一隻娃娃讓我抱著,我才覺得舒服些,能讓我繼續陳述所有的事實。 #traumaticchildhood #traumaisreal #traumabonding #traumasupport #childrensmentalhealth #childhoodneglect #childsexualabuse #domesticviolence #WhiteRibbon #sexualharassment . #illustration #photoshop #illustrationdesign #digitalillustration #art #artwork

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When I say "we", I also mean "I". ‍ The idea of delving into self-help, self-care, self-development..self-anything essentially was an admission that there was something wrong with me. I was broken. I needed fixing. "Other people don't do it.." Therefore I must be broken, right? Aaah the self-shame we throw on ourself. ‍ Wrong. Most (ALL) people have areas they need to work on. No one has taught us healthy relationship skills, honouring our truth, what trauma and conditioning looks like, what spirituality and faith truly is, how self-defeatest behaviour is limiting our life-choices. ‍ And the truth is most of either don't want to or feel so emotionally overwhelmed by it that we dont know where to start. So we push down those feelings and muscle on with what little we got. ‍ Others make a choice. They make a choice to do the hard work. And not just ordindary folks like you and I. But people like Rumi. Prophets, Ghandi, MLK, Malcolm X, Ali..these people worked hard on themselves. ‍ And these people were the most self-aware, self-healed and self-empowered. Ali, one of the greatest legends of our (all) time said "“A man who views the world the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” It is only those who refuse (even the absense of choice is refusal..)to do the hard work that continue with the same narrative, the same story, the same perspective. ‍ For those who do, know that you're not broken, you're healing. There is no shame in healing. There is no shame in self-development. You, your life, and your relationships are in the process of transformation. ‍ Keep unfolding your own myth (Rumi) ‍ Rooting for you, ‍ Shabana xx #BeYourOwnRoleModel P.S It would mean so much to me if you clicked..follow and wrote a comment below with your thoughts/questions/feedback👇🏽 xx ‍ ***************** #selfblame #toxicshame #healingshame #childhoodneglect #healingprocessbegins #healingquote #healingwork #nourishyourmind #healingfromtheinsideout #emotionalawareness #emotionalpain #healingmyself #intentionality #healingfromtheinside #emotioncode #healingfromwithin #healingchildhood #relationalhealing #emotionalhealing #selfcareiskey *********

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It took me a long time to learn this. I'm there now! 🎯📢‼ . . . #Repost @seerutkchawla • • • • • • We evolved in tribes and not as islands. We are neurobiologically wired for it.⁣ ⁣ I use the phrase, ‘you don’t owe anyone anything’ a lot. And I will continue to use it. It is geared towards the people who are recovering from complex trauma, who have been enmeshed or codependent. The people who are culturally conditioned to believe that they must set themselves alight to keep other people warm. To the people who are taught subjugation and submissiveness, who are underrepresented, and over exploited. The people who compulsively take on emotional labour that is not theirs, and over explain themselves.⁣ ⁣ It is not however, carte blanche to be a douche lord. I would know, because I have absolutely over corrected. And that happens; when you are trying to heal sometimes you go the other extreme. This is often part of the process, until you find a happy medium.⁣ ⁣ “I don’t owe anyone anything” is not a free pass to extreme selfishness, and self-indulgence. It is not an invitation to not be mindful of our impact of other people. It does not mean we can now guiltlessly live in a social vacuum, where only our needs matter at the expense of everyone else. It does not mean behaving without integrity or being unkind.⁣ ⁣ What does this phrase mean to you? #inthetrencheswithyou #childhoodtrauma #childhoodsexualabuse #childhoodneglect #CPTSD #complexposttraumaticstressdisorder #complexptsd #trauma #selfcare #traumarecovery #traumahealing #traumasurvivor

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在隔年,田徑隊要到外地比賽,我在無法拒絕的情況下被迫同行,當晚田老師指使我到旅館房內,我害怕田老師喝斥我,但他卻突然撲了上來,說著不准哭,不然要我好看... #traumaticchildhood #traumaisreal #traumabonding #traumasupport #childrensmentalhealth #childhoodneglect #childsexualabuse #domesticviolence #WhiteRibbon #sexualharassment . #illustration #photoshop #illustrationdesign #digitalillustration #art #artwork

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在我每次訓練完後,田老師都會說: 『跑這麼久腿一定很酸吧?老師幫你按摩。』藉機觸摸我的身體,甚至越摸越上面,我害怕他對我做不好的事,只能拼命抵抗... #traumaticchildhood #traumaisreal #traumabonding #traumasupport #childrensmentalhealth #childhoodneglect #childsexualabuse #domesticviolence #WhiteRibbon #sexualharassment . #illustration #photoshop #illustrationdesign #digitalillustration #art #artwork

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在與學校老師告發後,我與小妮才終於獲得重視,老師協同社工一起約談我們,才讓整起事件的經過曝光。 #traumaticchildhood #traumaisreal #traumabonding #traumasupport #childrensmentalhealth #childhoodneglect #childsexualabuse #domesticviolence #WhiteRibbon #sexualharassment . #illustration #photoshop #illustrationdesign #digitalillustration #art #artwork

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當我深陷在遇害的過程中,我沒辦法思考任何事情,只要想到當時發生的事,就讓我胸痛難耐,我到底該怎麼辦... #traumaticchildhood #traumaisreal #traumabonding #traumasupport #childrensmentalhealth #childhoodneglect #childsexualabuse #domesticviolence #WhiteRibbon #sexualharassment . #illustration #photoshop #illustrationdesign #digitalillustration #art #artwork

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Not my post but this is why if you’re a coach and you’re telling your followers that narcissistic parents don’t exist, then you’re trash. Be on the lookout for these so called spiritual bypassing coaches.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #educateyourself #narcissismexists #pointblankperiod #youreexposed #therealtruth #shittypeoplegivebirth #parentification #readabook #childneglect #aces #childhoodneglect #youvebeenwarned

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💞🖤💞 @daniellkoepke ⤵️💞🖤💞 My love languages are words of affirmation and physical affection. For me, love looks like a hug. It looks like validation and being told why I’m cared for and valued. It looks like emotional connection & compassion & warmth. But I grew up with two engineers as parents. With a mom who is kind, supportive, and so giving, but unaffectionate, logical, and blunt. With a dad who tries his best, but is lacking in social skills; indifferent, awkward, withdrawn, uncommunicative, and also unaffectionate. . My parents, just by virtue of who they are, couldn't give me love in the way I needed. They didn't know how. They still don't know how. In many ways, it felt like emotional neglect. And despite doing a lot of work to adjust my expectations, it's still a wound that never seems to heal. It's still something I'm starving for. And it's a pain I often feel guilty about, because they've provided me with such a good life. AND, I make space for it anyway, because that’s part of healing. . For anyone who struggles with something similar, here are some loving reminders: —> You can be grateful for what you've been given and sad about what you never got. . —> Your needs aren't wrong. They're just different than your parents. . —> You aren't alone in the world. You may just have to create a family outside of your biological family who CAN love you in the way you need. . —> There's nothing wrong with who you are. You were just raised by family who operate differently and were never taught how to love in the ways you needed or were preoccupied by their own pain. You deserved their care. It wasn’t about you. . —> You can't change your family but you CAN shift your expectations. You can decide to appreciate them for what they are able to give and set boundaries/ love from a distance when you need to enact self-care. You can stop going to a dry well for water and instead reach out to people who are actually capable of giving you what you need. . —> And in moments when the pain feels overwhelming, you can be a parent to yourself. You can imagine a little you and love them in all the ways you needed growing up. You can be your own protector and caregiver. 💌

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The trauma itself is not a gift. No one is doing a service to humanity by traumatizing other people. It creates PTSD, addiction, fear, and so much suffering. And not everyone has the resources to get help for the psychological injury. However, my choice, diligence, and willingness to face up to and FEEL excruciating pain that accompanies traumatic experiences has empowered me to use these times to my benefit. They can be used as fuel for awakening, for seeing through the illusions, for waking up from “the matrix”. They have honestly been the most potent forces in my various spiritual awakenings. Remember: YOUR TRAUMAS DID NOT MAKE YOU INTO THE PERSON YOU ARE TODAY. YOUR RESILIENCE, YOUR DETERMINATION, YOUR BALANCE OF STRENGTH AND SOFTNESS DID THAT. Your chosen response to heal is what makes you. Your refusal to be hardened and bitter is what makes you who you are. You are the common denominator in all your experiences. Give credit where credit is due. @lonerwolfpath . . . . . #traumatherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapy #education #childhoodtrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumarecovery #innerchildhealing #traumahealing #addictionrecovery #allfoodsfit #family #healingtrauma #ptsd #trauma #traumasurvivor #childhoodneglect #cptsd #traumainformed #healingjourney #traumatherapist #mentalhealth #complexptsd #emdrtherapy #selfcompassion #healing #ptsdrecovery #intutiveeating #triggers #dissociation

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My love languages are words of affirmation and physical affection. For me, love looks like a hug. It looks like validation and being told why I’m cared for and valued. It looks emotional connection and compassion and warmth. But I grew up with two engineers as parents. With a mom who is kind, supportive, and so giving, but unaffectionate, logical, and blunt. With a dad who tries his best, but is lacking in social skills; indifferent, awkward, withdrawn, uncommunicative, and also unaffectionate. . My parents, just by virtue of who they are, couldn't give me love in the way I needed. They didn't know how. They still don't know how. In many ways, it felt like emotional neglect. And despite doing a lot of work to adjust my expectations, it's still a wound that never seems to heal. It's still something I'm starving for. And it's a pain I often feel guilty about, because they've provided me with such a good life. AND, I make space for it anyway, because that’s part of healing. . For anyone who struggles with something similar, here are some loving reminders: —> You can be grateful for what you've been given and sad about what you never got. . —> Your needs aren't wrong. They're just different than your parents. . —> You aren't alone in the world. You may just have to create a family outside of your biological family who CAN love you in the way you need. . —> There's nothing wrong with who you are. You were just raised by family who operate differently and were never taught how to love in the ways you needed or were preoccupied by their own pain. You deserved their care. It wasn’t about you. . —> You can't change your family but you CAN shift your expectations. You can decide to appreciate them for what they are able to give and set boundaries/ love from a distance when you need to enact self-care. You can stop going to a dry well for water and instead reach out to people who are actually capable of giving you what you need. . —> And in moments when the pain feels overwhelming, you can be a parent to yourself. You can imagine a little you and love them in all the ways you needed growing up. You can be your own protector and caregiver. 💌 #daniellkoepke

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We see the world through the eyes of the Mother. The world we see is filtered by how our mother shows it to us. All our relationships are shaped by this relationship. We will play out the same programs that our mothers install in us until we gain the awareness of what these are. Realize that on the other side of this understanding is HUGE opportunity and change in how you show up in the way you relate with your family, friends and romantic partners. . . . #socialanxiety #bullying #menswork #malevulnerability #mensempowerment #loveyourself #higherconsciousness #embodiedhealing #embodied #neglect #emotoonalneglect #childhoodneglect #bullyingawareness #healthyrelationships #mensmentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #talkaboutmentalhealth #mencrytoo #bevulnerable #vulnerabilityispower #meninspiration #menslife #inspiration #quotestoliveby

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