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What happens when you have to ask a #narcissist or toxic #coparent for something or have to respond to their request? Laugh with Gwen as she shares what she's learned about this over the years, especially with #timesharing Listen to episode 8. Link in bio #coparentingwithanarcissist #survivinganarcissist #lifeafterdivorce #singlemompodcasters #singlemomlife #spotify #applepodcasts #copingwithanxiety #frustrationcoping #npd #codependency #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticparent #survivingdivorce

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You asked for it and here it is! Get your FREE copy of this Step by Step guide on how to write and respond effectively to messages with your coparent. This free guide is designed to help you: Stop getting caught in the downward spiral of back and forth text and email fights Communicate with your coparent in a way that you can feel confident about Put yourself in the best position to get to the outcome you’re looking for Communicate with your coparent in a way that won’t make you look or sound like “the crazy one” should a lawyer, judge or anyone else ever see them If you’d like a copy of this invaluable guide: 1. send me an email at [email protected] 2. Subject Line: Yes, Send Me The Guide 3. Include your name so I can get you on the list and send it out to you ASAP 4. Check your email (including spam folders) for the email and guide. All I ask in return, is that if you use it, if you find it helpful, PLEASE PLEASE let me know! I put a lot of effort and thought into capturing the things that I KNOW matter. And it's truly important to me to hear what is useful for you. So please drop me a line and let me know! [email protected] Julie xoxo @aspiretogrowth #divorcecoach #lifeafterdivorce #lifecoach #coparenting #coachingformoms #mindfulliving #coachingforparents #coparentingwithanarcissist #divorcinganarcissist #highconflictdivorce #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #dysfunctionalrelationship #relationshipadvice #ifmywoundswerevisible #coparentingtips #relationshipcoaching #bullying #coparentinghelp #childrenofdivorce #raisinghealthykids #emotionmanagement #effectivemindset #empowered #wordsofwisdom #ownyourjourney #faithintheprocess #healingandforgiveness #divorcedlife #divorcecommunity

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“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” ~Steve Jobs #parentalalienation #parentalalienationawareness #selfcare #mentalhealth #gossip #rumors #lies #coparentingwithanarcissist #highconflictdivorce #highconflictparent #kidsneedbothparents #childcustody #custody #visitation #parentingtime #childsupport #sharedparenting #coparenting

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Stand up to them. Don’t let them win. And even if they do win in court somehow, keep fighting. Make their life hell by continuing to talk to your child and tell them you love them always no matter what. The other parent needs to know as well that you are not going anywhere. Co parenting is the best option. ..... #alienatedparent #alienatedmother #alienatedmom #parentalalienationawareness #parentalalienation #coparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #parenting #parentingtips #lovealwayswins #neverstopfighting #alienated #alienationhurts #loveyourself

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Just like LIFE...I sugarcoat NOTHING. ✋🏼 Over time that quality has either made people love and respect me for my honesty and reliability OR find me abrasive and “blunt”. “Que sera sera” I say 🤷🏼‍♀️ . Being a #stepmom is a HARD job; it can be EVEN harder when you throw in your own children and/or “ours” children. There are many positive & uplifting things that come with step parenting but there are also some really crappy, really hurtful and really TOUGH issues that ALSO come with step-parenting/co-parenting or parallel parenting. . Denying these factors is one of the reasons step/blended families fail. Anyone who has been a step-parent for a good period of time can tell you that heading into something like the #blendedfamilylife with stars in your eyes while thinking it’s all gonna be kumbaiya’ and shared soccer games is extremely dangerous to the overall success of your family. No shade being thrown...it’s just SIMPLE TRUTH 🤷🏼‍♀️ We must ALWAYS hope for the best; but at the same time we need to KNOW that reality can be FAR from the “Brady Bunch” or other idyllic families portrayed in the media/social media sphere. I’ve actually had fellow stepmoms tell me “This isn’t what I thought it would be, it’s not like this on TV.” 🤦🏼‍♀️ It’s another reason I don’t sugarcoat life...transparency is education. . In order to support and help each other we MUST hear each other and I mean REALLY LISTEN to what each person is saying, thinking and feeling. There must be no “censoring” of feelings; ALL are welcome here. 💯 . If you’re a brand new stepmom looking for support or advice; welcome! If you’re a seasoned stepmom who has gone 12 rounds and lived to tell the tale; welcome! If your blended family is blissful and cohesive; CONGRATS! & welcome 😉 And if your blended family is hurt, damaged or struggling and you just need an ear or a meme to put a little happiness in your day; know that you are enough; and welcome! 🙏🏼 . All are welcome here and will always be....🙌🏼 . #stepmomstrong #coparenting #parallelparenting #blendedfamily #divorce #family #keepmovingforward #coparentingwithanarcissist #highconflictdivorce #hereforyou #allarewelcome #potd

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This #powerofsurrender oracle card deck by @judith.orloff.md has been instrumental in maintaining my sanity today. It is incredibly difficult for me to let go of where exactly my 4 year old is right now (with his dad), what they are doing, and who are they doing it with. I know that he is with his dad. He is safe. He is fine. Control issues are insidious and creep up on you. Trying to #justbreathe #focusonmybreath #coparentingwithanarcissist #seeonlylove #letitgo

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Poor #AmberPortwood just wanted an ornament. I guess she didn't get any in GEL 🌲🌲🌲🌲 #TeenMomOG #teenmom #ornaments #coparentingwithanarcissist

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This is one of the biggest things I struggle with as a step parent AND as an ex wife. My name should be Petty Betty sometimes because I cannot keep my snide comments to myself when the other parties don't have their facts straight. I walk a confusing line of "Am I being bullied and run over? Should I defend myself and keep replying? I want the last word because I KNOW I'm right". I know I'm not the only one who fights themselves with this situation. This is some good advice that I'm actually trying really hard to apply. Any step parent who deals with the ex bio parent, or any ex who has to deal with the new husband/wife, y'all just hang in there and know that you are not alone! It's okay to slip up sometimes, we can't be expected to bottle it all up or be perfect. But try to make things run as smoothly as possible for your own sake and for the children's sake! I hear things get better with time. Here's to hoping! 👏💪 . . #stepparentsmatter #stepparenting #bonusparents #blended #blendedfamily #coparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #highconflictdivorce #highconflict #highconflictparent #highconflictex #narcissisticalienator #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienation #hcbm #fathersmatter #fathersrights #wordsofwisdom #donotengage #stepmomming #lovethekids #lovemorethanhate #coparentingdoneright #fathersrightsmovement #mommiesforfathersrights #mothersrights #narcissistabuse #parallelparenting #stepfamily

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Their families do it. Their lawyers do it. The judges do it. The Children’s Counselors do it. The Schools do it. And it affects our Children the most. #parentalalienation #alienationisabuse #childabuse #childabuseawareness #flyingmonkeys #coparentingwithanarcissist #kidsneedbothparents #kidsneedfamilies #kidsdeservebetter #familylaw #reformfamilycourt #eraseddad #erasedmom #erasedfamily #erasingfamily #erased #support5050

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A #podcast dedicated to surviving long term #coparenting with a #narcissist #sociopath with humor and encouragement because this stuff is serious enough already! Link in bio. #singlemompodcasters #coparentingwithanarcissist #survivinganarcissist #lifeafterdivorce #npdsurvivor #christiansinglemom #copingwithloss #spotify #applepodcast #googlepodcast

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Eventually the circle of any narcissistic situationship follows its course. Unfortunately when the devaluation stage starts, the narcissist will use their kids like other people as a tool in this process. Let's discuss the ways they use to try to achieve this agenda and what do you do. Click Video link in Bio #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticinjury #emotionalabuse #strength #healing #riseandshine #coparentingwithanarcissist #coparenting #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships #narcassist #couple #coparenting #narcassistawareness #narcassisticabuse #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #survivingnarcissistabuse #divorcinganarcissist #divorce #divorced #divorcinganarcissistnow #divorcingannpd #smearcampaign #projection #emotionalabuse #emotionalhealth #impulsive #negativepeople #negativeenergy #childrenemotionalsupport #narcissistsurvivor #traumabonding

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So true! Far better to get to the route of what’s causing the problem (unresolved trauma) than to just numb it away by working nonstop, or by taking antidepressants without having any counselling or therapy alongside, or by using other vices/addictions such as alcohol, sex or consumerism to numb it away! Believe me! I spent my whole entire life up until age 31, believing I was “fine” and “strong”... after going through trauma upon trauma from aged 2 onwards. Throughout my entire childhood, and then in my adult life also. It was only when I found an excellent counsellor, whilst still married actually - with the intention of trying to “save my marriage” after he had had yet another affair (I know; I know. Old me thought so low of herself.. if only I could go back.. wow, eurgh 😕) - that my counsellor was able to delve into what it was about me that had me there, paying through the nose for his professional advice, trying to save my marriage singlehandedly to a man who, after many questions, he brought to my attention, was infact abusing me. 💡 wow 💡 up until then, I thought I was just a strong person because I had this ability to numb out pain, to quickly block out things that hurt me & carry on as if nothing had even happened... I could stuff pain down, bury it quickly deep inside me without anyone barely noticing. And I, very wrongly, thought that was my strength- and that my ability to do that, was going to mean I could remain in my marriage, and keep my family intact - no matter what. Wow how wrong I was, and how low of myself I must have thought, with so little self respect for my own wellbeing.. to think that was good. All it was, was a coping mechanism. And one that I had learnt and developed very early in life, in order to push past the trauma that had happened to me as a toddler - a survival technique. It may have served me well then, aged 2 to say, 12? - being able to soldier through like that, burying shit down. But wow, did it make me open and susceptible to being every potential abusers dream. 😌😷 I am no longer that person. I left abuse behind. I now honour what I’ve been through, and honour my feelings & my past traumas, daily. #trauma #abuse #recovery

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Never let anyone dull your sparkle! Don’t minimise yourself or shrink yourself away for people that won’t accept your growth or that try to reject you and treat you differently simply because you learnt finally to stand your ground and not be treated like their doormat anymore! Growth is a beautiful thing, healing is a beautiful thing... learning and implementing boundaries in your life is a beautiful thing, finally taking care of yourself; your health, your emotional wellbeing, your appearance and your inner soul - is a very beautiful thing and all of these changes literally make you glow and shine without you even knowing 💜 I wasn’t comfortable with that at first, because I was never used to the kind of attention that all of the above then brought with it. It took me a good while to accept why that was happening and that this was the new me developing, after hiding away under the role of just ‘mum’ and ‘wife’.... shrinking away from the world because I was (unknowingly at the time) in an abusive marriage, which massively affected my sense of self, my confidence and my self esteem. Made me hide away and my personality shrunk away because of his treatment of me. As soon as I left him, I soon started to grow as a person.. amid the heartbreak and absolute damage he’d caused me and that I was the then left having to heal from... I was still able to grow, change, had started taking care of myself gradually, in every sense... and others were suddenly telling me I was “glowing” 😳🥰 Such a transition to go through, exciting times mixed with sheer nerves and feeling so very ‘lost’ as I entered my new “control-free” life... a whole new life I was embarking on, that was then completely my own! Not everyone was happy for me with all of the positivity and happiness and laughter that this new me had. Nor of the attention that this new ‘glow’ about me, had brought. Painful as is was, I had to then learn that those people were not for me.. as anyone that tries to shrink you back away, or tell lies about you to your other friends from a place of envy and insecurity.. are unfortunately very toxic themselves. However - rocky roads can lead to beautiful destinations 💕💫

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