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THERAPY vs. COACHING
I find a lot of people go to therapy, but aren’t aware that what they really need is life coaching.
Look, if you’re dealing with a mental illness or have experienced acute trauma that is disrupting your ability to operate in your daily life, therapy is the place you’d likely want to start. Therapists and psychologists are trained to diagnose and treat disorders and acute symptoms. You can work with a coach later once things are a bit more stable as you then seek to create your new life.
Coaching on the other hand, is incredibly therapeutic, but it’s not therapy. My style of coaching is to be more goal and process oriented with a lot of integration and accountability baked in. I'm also a big believer in tangible action steps, without forgetting the woo, because that's how you manage energy and spirit.
I use inner child work tools to understand your current situation, beliefs, and blocks, and then I use that information to help you holistically heal, shift your beliefs, and develop new habits and actions, which ultimately, will change your circumstances.
If you’ve worked with a therapist before and didn’t see the results you wanted, it may not have been a good fit at the personality level, or it may have only gotten you to the awareness stage. Now, you now understand WHY you attract who you attract, but you’re left stumped on how to actually integrate the awareness and see your life change.
Enter coaching. And this week’s episode on the Love Life Connection Podcast.
If you’re unsure if coaching is right for you, or if you’re not sure if coaching or therapy is the best way forward for you, this episode will help you understand my coaching process so that 1) you can coach yourself through something in your life, and 2) you’ll have a better idea if coaching with me or someone else is actually the better way to go.
You can listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher or Spotify. Once you listen, I’d love to know your experience working with coaches and/therapists. 👇🏻
It’s pretty difficult to live an inspired life when we’re so busy shitting all over ourselves.
Whoever told you that criticism was constructive was a liar. A big, stinking liar.
Because the thing is, criticism erodes safety. It disconnects us from ourselves and others. It has ZERO transformational value.
Talking shit to yourself about yourself will not get you to the places you want to go.
Self-approval, being honest, constructively looking at the places where we have room for improvement without dragging ourselves through nasty put downs and character slamming, being generous...all of these things are waaaaaay more effective in creating safety within your own internal experience.
It starts by noticing the things you DO like about yourself. The things you appreciate. The things you’re grateful for.
You’re worthy of having a life that feels good to be in, and it starts with the way you treat and talk to yourself.
Now, I will say, a lot of the time we learned this self-shaming behaviour from the world around us.
When we’ve been emotionally manipulated, put down, shamed, bullied, guilted, or any other form of toxic relating- we will pick up self-criticism real fast.
We think if we internally berate and turn hyper critical on ourselves we can prevent making mistakes, the mistakes that cost us the approval, attention and belonging with others.
But, this is a failing strategy. Being mean to you doesn’t prevent mistakes, nor does it draw a bubble of belonging around you.
It just dissociates you from you, which if we want to really belong, we have to feel that within ourselves AND with others.
To support ya’ll in this new self-approving quest for this new fancy decade, @jamie.n.rea and I made a podcast episode for you that dropped this morning, and at the end we share our 12 Dates of Gratitude Challenge. You gotta listen to the end to hear about it AND head to the show notes to get in on it.
If you want more depth and support navigating the roots of the criticism... emotional manipulation (aka gaslighting, Guilt-trips, walking on eggshells, shaming etc), get in on the webinar. Deets in bio!
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Sitting there in full glam with nothing to do is the absolute WORST. According to POF, 54% of singles have gotten glamboozled before.
Have you ever been glamboozled? 😦
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By the time of my meeting with Steve, I was so tired from working that I was just thinking about a break and a change of scenery, and how much I need them. And I had never been to America and had always wanted to see the capital of world cinema. I agreed to go on the trip together with a friend, so it wasn’t so scary (and more fun together), but at the last moment she got family circumstances. I had to fly alone—but I had a return ticket, and enough money to live in a hotel.
Steve showed me the sights every day and fell in love with me very quickly. However, after the whole ordeal with Roberto, I had become very cautious. I liked Steve as a person, but I didn’t lose my head. I admired the ocean, but the center of Los Angeles turned out a standard concrete jungle. And I was struck by the incredible number of homeless people in the center of the world cinema capital: I’d never seen so many homeless anywhere. In general, life in America isn’t easy at all, judging by the stories my new friend told me. But I’d already suspected it. Of course, salaries in the US are higher than in Russia, but taxes are high also, and the US healthcare system is insanely expensive and is considered as one of the worst in the world.
People here are the same as everywhere else. They differ from Russians in practically nothing. What I really liked about America is the willingness of its inhabitants to participate in public life and uphold both their personal rights and democratic gains in general, not even for themselves, but for other people to live better (poor, sick, new immigrants etc).
About us: after two weeks, I was certain I’d come back. Steve asked me to stay for another week. I said, “Ok, but I can’t stay any longer, because if I want to come to America again, I’ll be refused for violating the terms specified in the application for my visa. And I have a job there! If I lose it, it won’t be easy at my age to find a new good one. Even if I’m an excellent worker, in Russia after 35-40 you are already an old woman. It’s true for men and employers.” (then, I prudently kept silent about the men:)).
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"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 .
A cord of 3 strands is not quickly broken. That’s why it’s so important to include your Higher Power in your relationship. Including your Higher Power in your relationship allows you to turn to a power greater than yourself in times of trouble. It helps strengthen you in times of uncertainty. Also, by showing gratitude to your Higher Power for the good things in your relationship, more good things come .
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“Seeking my soul mate” my ad had said. I had been single for almost two years and my friend was having so much fun with the personal ads that she convinced me to run one of my own. It was published on my 35th birthday and David was the first caller. Happy Birthday, Me!”
To have understanding is to have wisdom. God gives us understanding, so that we can extend the same grace He has given us, to others, but He also gives us the wisdom to know when it's time to hand someone over to Him. Even God will stop answering our calls when He sees that we are refusing to take heed to His warnings (Proverbs 1:28-29), and allow us to suffer the consequences of our actions. For many of us, it's the only way we'll finally learn. As bad as we'd like to love the "hell" out of people, we must be wise enough to know to back off when we see that it is becoming impossible to get through to them. You can't play God's role in that individual's life, because you do not know what God is doing in their life. You can pray for them, but love them from a distance. The reason why the people who love the hardest, hurt the most, is because the people who they are loving will make them pay for what they've gone through. They are usually the ones trying to love away the hurt in a person's heart, only to end up hurt by them. That kind of hurt need supernatural healing, and only God can do that. He may use you to say or do the right thing at the right time, but true healing comes from Him alone.
So don't let anyone guilt trip you into accepting any toxic behavior from them, just because you "understand" what they may possibly be going through. You don't know how long God may have been warning that individual to change their ways, before He was forced to discipline them. For some people, words are not enough, and pride is the hardest thing to rid them of. Give people the space they need to heal, or else you may become a casualty of their brokenness. Your heart may be heavy, because you truly wish you could help them, but you can't allow what they're going through to become your problem. You already have enough problems of your own. It is not selfish to give up after you've done all that you could do to help out. God allowed you to try your best to help them in order for you to see that only He can save them, so that you're not too hard on yourself.
Words alone will not discipline a servant; the words may be understood, but they are not heeded.
First Date Conversation Starters to Break the Ice
Find Their Passion
You’ve likely heard this asked of celebrities during interviews. Ask your date if they could talk for 20 minutes about anything without having to look up information, what would that be? Everyone has something they’re dying to talk about and, chances are, you’ve just tapped into it. Boom!
You don’t want to have this one in the chamber, so to speak, as you want it come from the heart – a canned compliment isn’t going to fly. But if they show up and you like their shoes or their hair or the like, go for it
Modes of Entertainment ￼
If you’re on a Netflix binge, ask about TV. Perhaps you’ve found a podcast that you want to shout from the mountaintops about – if so, go that route. If you just finished a book that was life changing, head down the literary trail. Not only will this get the conversation going, but it could also help determine the fate of that second date. For instance, some people can’t abide when others don’t read, and if you feel that way, that’s your prerogative.
Other Good Questions
Once you’ve gotten the ball rolling, you can start to get creative and have some fun.
What would you choose for your last meal?
If you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?
If you could have dinner with anyone whether dead or alive, who would it be?
What was the best live show you’ve ever seen?
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Stumbled upon Charles Bukowski - Read how it related to meeting people and getting to the true core of your natural personality.
Also in dating and learning social skills you'll see this phenomenon. At first we start motivated and filled with hope. We are excited to go out, but very soon we realize that the Dreamland we were living in was just that - A Dreamland.
You'll soon realize that you being nice is not working. You being polite to make a point of to make someone else like you is not working. We all are trapped inside our own mental prison. Our identity and our ego that we have created. But if you keep going out then you'll reach a point of indifference. A threshold- I like to call it. And then you won't really care about others opinion of you, you won't give a fuck about someone's else's judgement of you, you won't seek approval, you won't be needy, you won't be extra nice and too accommodating just to make someone happy. You'll focus on making yourself happy. You'll focus on what you want.
Discipline and consistency mixed with intensity and pushing yourself will bring out gold in you!
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