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Monday night I saw @norasamaran talk about her book, Turn The World Inside Out. She spoke of how the book came into being, the life circumstances that inspired the essay that later became the book. My biggest take home from the evening was her saying, (and I paraphrase) we need to speak and write and create from our hearts. We have to be true to our deepest truth, to our humanity, to the humanity of others. We can't put on masks or pretend we have all the answers. We all need to accept we are falliable and will cause harm and to do the work of repair and shifting and doing different next time. She didn't say any of those exact words, and that was my take home from the evening. I've been thinking a lot about these ideas for awhile now, long before I heard her speak this week. And the truth of these ideas are ringing loud and I feel them beginning to integrate into me. Often we don't speak from our hearts. We are scared. Scared of rejection. Scared of ridicule. Scared of our own vulnerability and tenderness. Scared another person won't feel the same. We may not reach out in a caring way because we don't want to bother a person. We may not ask questions when someone says they are in a funk because we don't want to intrude and assume if they want to tell us details they will. We may not show affection because of our own stories of being too much. We may not express that we are hurting because we don't want to burden another. We may not reach for connection because we simply don't know how. @jeanetteleblanc wrote a piece recently about how trauma is a loud motherfucker. And oh gods is it ever. Trauma stops us from being our true selves. Or really from being the self we were born to be. It stops us from connecting. To others. To our self. To our environment. We hide ourselves. Behind masks. Behind armor. Behind acting like we don't care. Behind giving people space when they never asked for it and beind not asking questions so we don't pry. We don't share who or where or how we are so we don't bother people. (Cont in comments)

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"Allow Yourself To Grow" . . "One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again." - Abraham Maslow . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #trauma #recovery #traumainformed #traumarecovery #traumahealing #traumatherapist #traumasurvivor #childhoodtrauma #traumaawareness #developmentaltrauma #complextrauma #healingfromtrauma #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalillness #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthcounseling #healing #AceAwareness

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🌸FINDING YOUR PEEPS🌸 . Three months ago I started this account with a desire to create a platform for the intersect between training to become a trauma therapist and journeying through my own cptsd recovery which has included medication, individual therapy, group work, supportive family and friends🌸 . I called this account cptsd_life because every key area of my life reflects complex trauma and all its complexities in some way🌸 . 2000 followers now... Wow. What a privilege to connect with my people....trauma therapists, somatic workers, students and survivors. It's been AMAZING, and despite knowing virtually nothing about Instagram, I'm SO thankful I gave it a go🌸 . Thank you for being here🌸 . . #traumatherapist #innerhealing #healingjourney #complexptsdawareness #mypeople #traumaticchildhood #posttraumaticgrowth #trauma #ptsdcomplex #socialwork #traumainformedcare #developmentaltrauma #innerchildhealing #findyourtribe #traumasensitive #healingfromwithin #christianmentalhealthawareness #traumasurvivor #healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd #healingtrauma #therapistsofinstagram

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As a child I would stare at my mom in awe of her beauty. Instead of accepting my compliments she would berate her body and yell at me for not seeing what she was seeing. Unfortunately as I got older I found myself denying who I am and acting the same way. We learn by imitation. But the experiences of our parents doesn't have to be our truth. #ancestralhealing #cptsdsurvivor #traumatools #traumahealing #regulation  #traumarecovery  #traumaawareness  #personalgrowth #healingispossible #coregulation #metoo #cptsd #ptsd #mindfulcompassion #developmentaltrauma #healingheart #yogaheals #yogatherapy #yoga #breathwork  #meditation #bodymindconnection #mentalhealthawareness #integralbreaththerapy #findyourvoice #hypnotherapy #believesurvivors #soldiscove

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“If we can communicate to our children: it’s you and me against your history we have a strong place to begin.” - Dr Karyn Purvis (@child_tcu) ———————————————————————— ‪ •NVR can help (link in bio). ‬ A friendly request: Please respect the work of authors & artists. You are more than welcome to share our images provided you include an appropriate credit to the author and do not crop their name - or our logo - from quote memes. Many thanks. #ChallengingBehaviour #DevelopmentalTrauma #CPV #ChildTrauma #Adoption #SEND #ACEs #NVRnorthampton #NonviolentResistance #NVR #SystemicApproach #Connection #RelationalRepair #ParentalSupport #AdoptionSupport #Empathy #CompassionateAction #TraumaInformedPractice #ConnectedChildRaising #DrKarynPurvis #Quotes

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Another great book to read when you are interested in the interaction between stress and chronic diseases is 'When The Body Says No' written by Dr Gabor Maté. ⁠ . ⁠ Gabor is right. Tension needs attention. The first thing I do when I wake up is to check in with my body. How does my body feel today. I give my body attention. When I feel tension, I notice it without trying to explain it, just noticing it. This simple practice has helped me tremendously by bringing awareness to my body sensations. ⁠ .⁠ Just like so many adults I had lost the connection with my body. I am so happy I was able to restore it 🧡 Since I am again more connected to my bodily sensations, I try to listen to them as good as possible. Our bodies speak to us. ⁠ .⁠ I often say in my Spinning classes or to my coaching clients 'our bodies are smarter than our minds'. ⁠ .⁠ #gabormate #drgabormate #traumahealing #bodyawareness #bodilysensations #whenthebodysaysno #traumainformed #developmentaltrauma #chronicdisease #chronicstress #traumarecovery #bodymindconnection #consciousness #cptsd #cptss #spreadtheword #menssanaincorporesano #socialbalance #erisniksmismetjou #holistichealing #selfhealing

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Zoals ik eerder schreef, volg ik een opleiding Sjamanistic Healing. Binnen het sjamanisme staan liefde en compassie centraal. Wat ik ervaar, is dat naarmate trauma steeds diepgaander geheeld is, ik veel meer compassie kan opbrengen voor mijn 'perpetrators'. ⁠ .⁠ Dit kan echter ook een valkuil zijn. Soms heb ik de neiging om zoveel compassie te tonen dat ik toxisch gedrag opnieuw ga tolereren. Dat is niet de bedoeling van compassie tonen. Compassie tonen, betekent ook compassie tonen voor jezelf.⁠ .⁠ Compassie tonen, kan ook betekenen dat je bijvoorbeeld ervoor kiest om (tijdelijk) geen contact te hebben met degene die jou diep gekwetst heeft, uit compassie voor jezelf.⁠ .⁠ Wat mij helpt, is inchecken. Hoe voelt mijn lichaam, hoe voelt mijn energie na contact met een bepaalde persoon. Indien mijn lichaam verkrampt is, mijn hart pijn doet en/of ik me helemaal leeggezogen voel na contact, weet ik dat compassie voor mezelf weer voorrang nodig heeft.⁠ .⁠ Compassie tonen voor de ander zonder compassie te tonen voor onszelf is 'spiritual bypassing'. Er is geen liefde voor de ander zonder zelfliefde. Er is geen compassie voor de ander zonder zelfcompassie.⁠ . ⁠ #traumahealing #dalailama #traumainformed #compassion #selfcompassion #zelfliefde #spiritualbypassing #energetichealing #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #boundaries #healthyboundaries #holistichealing #shamanism #sjamanisme #emotionalabuse #motherwound #fatherwound #developmentaltrauma #sexualabuse #spreadtheword #authenticity #neurodivergent #socialbalance #humanity

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In order to heal developmental trauma ~ early childhood trauma on a deep level, the body needs to be involved. ⁠ .⁠ For this reason pure talking therapy will not suffice. It can be a starting point. However if we want to heal profoundly there is no other way then to go for the holistic approach: healing on mental, emotional, physical, energetic and spiritual level.⁠ . ⁠ In his bestselling book 'The Body Keeps The Score' Dr. Bessel van der Kolk points out very well the connection between brain, mind and body in the healing of trauma. ⁠ .⁠ If you are interested in holistic, deep trauma healing, I can only recommend this masterpiece. Other interesting books on healing trauma on physical levels are the ones written by Dr. Peter Levine, founder of Somatic Experiencing.⁠ .⁠ The Polyvagal theory developed by Stephen Porges is another interesting starting point if you would like to learn more about the connection between trauma and establishing safety in our bodies.⁠ .⁠ Thank you @coach.cristinabara for the inspiration on the quote⭐⁠ .⁠ #thebodykeepsthescore #besselvanderkolk #traumasporen #cptsd #cptss #ptsd #ptss #developmentaltrauma #earlychildhoodtrauma #ontwikkelingstrauma #bodywork #somaticexperiencing #nervoussystem #peterlevine #stephenporges #polyvagaltheory #traumainformed #attachmentissues #attachmenttrauma #neurodivergenttrauma #traumahealing #holistichealing #traumarecovery #sexualabuse #seksueelmisbruik #emotionalabuse #emotionalneglect #narcissisticabuse #socialbalance

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My darling boy is in trauma. He is really struggling. We’ve had moments of this but never on a continuous basis and for the first time at school as well as at home. A psychologist believes it could have been a developmental trigger, the time of year.. could be a number of things. He refuses to stay in class. He isn’t learning. We get called once if not 3 times a day. We have had to find him on the school grounds. His pupils raging with cortisol. • I don’t think he recognised me the other day. I might be wrong but he looked right through me. • The school have been amazing. Lots of meetings. Lots of support. A pathway forward. • I don’t think there has been a day where I haven’t cried. That’s ok it’s the way I vent. But I am so so sad for him. • He told me tonight he was a bad boy. I told him he was the most beautiful boy inside and out and that sometimes his big feelings didn’t know how to come out. I said we are going to help him. I said we are here to keep him safe. • It’s scary to see the regression that has taken place. My sometimes confident boy, now doesn’t leave my side, needs immediate attention to his every thought. • We have come so far. But I’ve known for a while he needs support but his behaviour hasn’t warranted it. • Well now it has and things are moving pretty quickly. It’s exhausting, it’s emotional, its frustrating. • But at the end of the day, he has got me and an amazing family and friend network around him. • He is my boy, mine. And he’s going to be ok. Because I truly believe love wins. Everytime.

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If you deal with self-sabotage, this could be at least part of what is going on for you. Of course it won't be true for everyone, but it's something I see a lot in my line of work. ⁣ ⁣ If we feel overpowered, controlled or crushed by our families, and we're dismissed or attacked if we try to communicate that, we run out of options for expressing our anger. ⁣ ⁣ When we can't act out, we act in, and direct that anger toward ourselves. Over time we forget that the anger wasn't meant for us in the first place. ⁣ ⁣ The first step to healing this is being aware of it, because we usually aren't doing it consciously. Then we can work toward slowly and gently acknowledging and releasing the anger or pain that are driving the self-sabotage. ⁣ ⁣ If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for a free online masterclass next Wednesday (Dec.18) at 5:30pm PST called From Self Sabotage to Self Love. We'll discuss this, and much more! Link to register is in my profile. Hope to see you there! 🤗💜⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ #cptsdrecovery #ctsd #traumarecovery #trauma #developmentaltrauma #childhoodtrauma #selfsabotage #selfawareness #selfreflection #eatingdisorderrecovery #recovery #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeatingrecovery

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Please, please, PLEASE be aware of this... it's a very real risk and is really important to know. . . So many parents and children are unnecessarily put at risk... and sadly some lives end far too early as a result. . . I've spent hours this afternoon supporting a client who's been put in this situation overnight... they are packing everything up to move to safety for the 3rd time in 6 months. . . Please don’t risk someone’s safety... especially a child’s ❤️ . . . . .

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We didn't talk about hard things. Being raised very religious in a very religious community it was mostly about making yourself look good. Underneath it was abuse, unknown step siblings, alcoholism, affairs and tons of pain. The funny thing is I didn't even know how messed up our family was growing up. Maybe because we still had family worship, maybe because my mom was devout. My dad would call the pastor when my mom was on the brink of leaving and he would try to "keep the family together." It's really fucked up. #religion #abuse #truth #healingjourney #changingcourse #trauma #recovery #developmentaltrauma #cptsd #attachment Love @notesfromyourtherapist

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I just published -- So Many Emotional Triggers, So Little Time. Scroll left for an excerpt. Read full article at https://medium.com/@arabellamarie_58971/so-many-emotional-triggers-so-little-time-7a3a30ad7830?source=friends_link&sk=2e240b36d1711b8966094434372ec246 (Link in bio!) #writer #writerslife #healing #emotionaltriggers #newarticle #readandcomment @medium

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I started this year working as a management accountant. I felt as though I had lost purpose. This year I am glad to move moved to construction industry, I am grateful to have become an author this year. I am grateful to all the people who have supported me, my mentors, coaches and my family. Let's start 2020 big!⠀ ⠀ #construction #constructions #constructionmanagement #constructionlife #constructionsite #constructionwork #constructionjobs #constructionuk #constructionproject #business #businesscasual #businesswoman #businessowner #businesses #businessquotes #businessopportunity #businesspassion #businessdevelopment #development #developments #developmentaltrauma #personaldevelopment #careerdevelopment #authorsofinstagram #author #authors #authorquotes #authorpreneur #authorevent

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If it feels available to you right now, you might take one breath. Perhaps it may be just a little bit deeper than the one that came before it. . That may be all for now, and that's ok. Just beginning the process of becoming friendly with your body and breath may be enough to start a new habit of friendliness with yourself. . It will take time. It will take repetition. It will take gentleness and understanding when you feel unsure about this whole friendship with self thing.

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Have you lost your voice? Or is it in a constant rage? . I have found that passive aggressiveness in our adulthood comes from a scarred childhood. The adult says nothing, yet the innerchild is screaming through their passive aggressive actions. . On other side I've found that the screamer/rage is not the adult yet the hurting innerchild trying to find their voice. . In both cases we are leading with the hurt. And this hurt will only lead to more hurt. . . . . . . . #innerchild #healing #selflove #love #innerchildwork #mentalhealthawareness #innerchildhealing #codependency #childhoodtrauma #emotionallyignored #insecureattachment #attachmentstyles #selfdirectedhealing #developmentaltrauma #healthyrelationships #healingshame #consciousness #attachmenttrauma #emotionalneglect #selfreparenting #relationshipcoach #subconscious #oldsoul #relationships #fearofabandonment #emotionalunavailability #lonelyrelationship #spiritualhealing #rdeye #bhfyp ---------

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Do you know what keeps you from making changes in your life?⠀ Well, your fears almost certainly are involved – they're notorious for keeping us in the past.⠀ .⠀ My new article has been published on PositivelyPositive - one of my favourite websites. It will help you understand where your fears come from and how they keep you imprisoned in the past, so you can shake them off and move on with your emotional healing. Check it out – link in Bio👍 ⠀ See you there 🤓❤️⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #challenge #choosejoy #joyful #childhoodtraumarecovery #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #difficultmothers #dysfunctionalfamily #motherwound #narcissisticmother #toxicmother #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticparent #healthyboundaries #codependency #healingquotes #traumarecovery #developmentaltrauma #traumainformed #relationaltrauma #abusiverelationships #lifelessons #todaysmantra #tinybuddha #positivelypresent #positivelypositive #emotionalhealth #psychologytoday #pegstreep #theartidote

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