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1. Ask yourself how you felt when your partner complimented you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Ask yourself how you felt when your partner used harsh words towards you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Examine how you respond to your partner verbally. What kind of words do you respond with?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Do you share your feelings with your partner, using ‘I’ statements to own your feelings?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Consider using a journal to list events that have occurred and list the emotions that you felt during those incidents to gain awareness of your feelings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 6. Practice labeling the emotions you felt.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 7. Then practice verbalizing the feelings so that you can tell your partner how you felt.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Share with someone. Practice these steps in your relationships. Focus on enjoying deeper and more fulfilled relationships in the coming year.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #healthyrelationships #relationshipgoals #healthypartnerships #partnerships #emotionalintelligence #heathyemotions #emotionalinsight #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalquotes #emotionalhealing #emotionalwellness #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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Today, I decided to record myself practicing some of the affirmations that I use for myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you use affirmations? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ A one time attempt does not do anything...but daily consistent practice can help to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As a therapist, I still practice daily morning affirmations. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This video provides some suggestions on things to say to yourself and about yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfaffirmations #dailyaffirmations #selflove #selfesteem #selfcompassion #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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For me, it is hard to embrace showing appreciation for myself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But I make an effort to do this because it keeps me motivated for the journey forward⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I appreciate the times I fell, even if I hated it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I appreciate the scars that I have because those were the times I tried something new.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I appreciate times I cried because it means I cared about something.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I appreciate the pain I’ve experienced because it means I have experienced love many times in my life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I appreciate the friendships I’ve experienced because they’ve taught me so much about myself, taught me how to love, how to give love, and how to be in a relationship.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tell me what you appreciate about yourself? And is it hard for your to show appreciation to yourself?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #appreciation #selflove #selfappreciation #selfworth⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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This recent post on my blog is near and dear to me...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I wanted to end the year with a positive and uplifting post for my readers and I was asking God what to write about. The Holy Spirit gave me the word ‘Restoration.’⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Immediately I was both humbled and overjoyed. Humbled because anytime the Father chooses to use me as a vessel, it means that I’m still in alignment with Him...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ and overjoyed because the act of restoring something means bringing that object back to it’s rightful position and state.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I don’t know who this post was for, but my prayer is for you all to be restored in 2020. My prayer is for you all to be shifted, transformed, and repositioned as God works on your restoration.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My friend, I want to tell you to get prepared, focus on God, and stay in alignment with Him, your restoration is on its way.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #restoration #restoring #theactofrestoring⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #2020restoration #alignment #purpose #linkinbio #dreams #vision #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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How you feel matters. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Take the time to explore your emotions. Share them with with a trusted source.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Emotions have energy. Energy is never destroyed, just transferred. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The healthiest thing that you can do is expel the unwanted energy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #emotions #energy #selfawareness #energyshift #energytransferred #energyboost #healthygoals #healthyemotions #healthyemotionsandmood #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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Which do you desire?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you want to be good? Or do you want to be great?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Whichever one you settle for will determine how much you push yourself and how much you are willing to adapt?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #adaptation #adapt #change #evolve #growth #growthmindset #growthquotes #greatnessawaits #greatness #greatnessisaprocess #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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Tell me how you deal with difficulties in your life and I can tell you about the mindset that you have.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For me, I focus on building a growth mindset. Achieving success (no matter however you define it) is really difficult when you constantly focus on your limitations, and stay rooted in the belief that you are not good enough and that you cannot improve yourself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Building a growth mindset is necessary, and more importantly, it takes time and consistency to deepen this mindset as you move through the stages of success.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Link in the bio on my post on mindset. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Photo by @IamKrystalCJ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Linkinbio #Mindset #growthmindset #fixedmindset #mindsetmatters #mindsetquotes #mindsetmastery #mindsetshift #mindsetmakeover #mindsetiskey #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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Many of us are walking around as adults subconsciously controlled by the wounded child inside of us.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you don’t take time to heal that little boy or girl inside of us, we walk around controlled by the child who was wounded and hasn’t emotionally grown up.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What pain, did that little boy or girl suffer earlier in your childhood, that hasn’t healed?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #healingquotes #healingjourney #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingmyself #healingspace #healingheart #woundedchild #woundedchildhood #woundedpast #healingthepast #woundedchildhealing #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Before, I used to dread the calendar. I felt like the days and weeks moved slower than a snail.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It took a while to realize that I felt that way because I had no sense of direction, no purpose, and no clarity. I was just drifting.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today, I am grateful for God for the shift. For shifting my perspective, my focus, and aligning me with the proper source. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am thankful for finally understanding that the things I was seeking were already in front of me and in me, I just needed to change what I was looking at and change how I saw what I was looking at.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Now, time is clarity. For everyday that He wakes me up, it is my privilege and wisdom to understand that I’ve been given 1 more day to live out my calling and purpose. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #purpose #calling #purposedriven #purposedrivenlife #purposefulliving #wisdom #grateful #purposeconsultant #purposebuilt #spiritualwisdom #wisdomoflife #wisdomoftheday #wisdomfeed ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sent via @planoly #planoly

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Thoughts influence behavior. Learn to master your thoughts so that you can gain better control over your behaviors.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Shine a light on your thoughts to create awareness. You can’t change what you don’t know about.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #thoughtsbecome #thoughtstoponder #selfawareness #selfcontrol #selfawakening⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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Elevate your ask of Him, He will elevate His response. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That’s my goal for 2020. I’m praying and asking for out-of-the-box things for my life and my business.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Most of all, I’m showing faith by walking out the steps to receive these things and making room for them in my life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My God is unlimited.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #unlimitedabundance #unlimitedabilities #elevate #elevateyourask #elevateyourgame #elevateyourmindset #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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1. Have family dinners - even if just 2/3 x times a week⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Spend time creating a weekly gratitude list.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Teach your children to pray, and pray with them⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Teach your kids financial tools such as the 80/20 or 70/30 money rules.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Ask yourself and your children quantitative questions such as, “How did you help a friend today?” How did you serve your classmates or teacher today?” How did you advocate for yourself or someone today?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 6. Teach your kids how to resolve conflict with their peers.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 7. Model a healthy romantic partner for them so they see how a man/woman should treat them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 8. Do you do chores with your children such as washing the dishes or folding clothes?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 9. Teach your children how to problem-solve by asking questions and making deductions ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 10. Do not teach your children to gossip. Teach them to hold space for others’ pain.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 11. Teach them to monitor their emotions and how to express them in a healthy ways.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 12. Teach your children compassion and acceptance, first for themselves, and then how to extend those things to others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 13. Understand that you are the model, no matter what you say to them, your children ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ will internalize your behaviors more. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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My wish for you this holiday season is that: 1. You feel loved; 2. You have the opportunity to give love without expecting anything in return and watch God multiply your faithfulness; 3. You boldly embrace, practice, and maintain the boundaries that you’ve created prior to the holiday season; 4. You remember that this too is a season and will pass, especially if this is a difficult time for you. 5. And lastly, that you dream wildly and hugely, and walk boldly in those dreams after the holidays, especially when no one is looking. Happy Holidays from @Graymatthewsproject

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What are three things that you do to strengthen your mental health daily? Firstly, as a mom, I’ve discovered that it is imperative for me to wake up before my kids. Whenever I don’t, I have zero time to myself and I feel off kilter and harried, because I’m rushing around, and I’m more focused on their needs instead of having time for myself. Secondly, I must exercise. It’s not even about losing weight. I just feel good that I did something for myself. Lastly, prayer and journaling help me to spend time assessing my thoughts and my emotions. My journal allows me space to write feelings that I’m uncertain with. And now that I’ve been focused on building a deeper relationship with God, I tell Him everything, especially when I’m having a hard time with His directions. What about you? What 3 things can you list? #buildingmentalstrength #mentalstrength #mentalhealthjourney #dailymentalhealth #mentallystrongwomen #faithfilledmom #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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So excited to share this with the world. I want to encourage people to experience God in a deeper way.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Until you’ve built your own relationship with God, you don’t truly know Him. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You only know of Him!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, why not get started with getting to know God by getting your copy of this 7-Day Devotional on Hearing from God? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio to be notified when this eBook drops!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #7DayDevotionalonHearingfromGod #Devotional #Devotionals #Morningdevotion #Devotionaltime #Dailydevotional #Devotionalquotes #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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The limit is not just the sky. The possibilities are endless. With God, it’s all possible.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Ask Him to align His desires with yours, then you’ll rest assured that your dreams will come to pass.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My daily prayer. Amen.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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Okay, tell the truth, what are some bad habits that you have? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ll go first! Even with being a therapist and consultant, patience in my personal life remains one of my weakest areas. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My patience wears thin quickly for drama, mediocrity, and with myself sometimes. A lack of patience can lead to pridefulness and rigidity. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is one of my ongoing self-work. I must accept responsibility when I fall short, and make amends if I hurt someone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What about you? Name one bad habit that you will work on as we transition to a new year and decade.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #badhabit #badhabits #realtalk #realtalkquotes #realtalkonly #realtherapisttalk #reallife ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #graymatthewsproject

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The Bible says that, “Without faith, it’s impossible to please God” – Hebrews 11:6.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve let go of the need to seek approval from others. My only goal and desire is that my actions and words are pleasing to Him. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That means walking out the things He reveals to me, and showing His love on earth, even in the difficult moments.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you have a willingness to please God?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio and see if you have a willingness to please God.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #willingnesstopleaseGod #pleasingGod #linkinbio #pleasingGodonly #faithfilled #faithfilledlife #faithfilledcaptions #faithfilledwomen #faithfulness #faithquotes #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Following up on last week’s post, 5 Things To Consider When Seeking Therapy, consider these additional things to think about when seeking therapy for yourself and others. 1. Consider the style, personality, training, and specialization of the therapist you are seeking. Mental health professionals fall under various licensing boards, and across various fields within the mental health field. Again, do some research because this is an important journey that you are taking. 2. Do you have an expectation of how long you will participate in therapy? Take time to clarify your expectations because they set the tone for your behavior in therapy. In general, counseling is usually short-term and focused on resolving 1 or 2 issues. Therapy is longer and focused on healing and wellness, and doing the deep emotional work to promote healthy relationships and boundaries. 3. Be open and understand that you may go for one issue that you thought was the problem, but upon going through the therapy process, you discover a deeper truth that needs healing. You are not alone in this experience. 4. Understand that during times, such as above, therapy can get worse before it gets better. Many people will stop showing up for sessions around this point. And people will quit because the work is more than they expected. 5. Healing is not one session and done. Therefore, neither is therapy. For some people with severe and complex trauma, therapy can be lifelong, whether continuous or intermittent. For others, therapy can be weekly, bi-weekly, or even monthly, depending on the need. Some people continue in therapy for maintenance and a safe space. We all process experiences and trauma differently at different stages of our lives, so our needs are different. 6. Lastly, generic social media posts and blogposts, FB groups, and online articles are not substitutes for a personalized therapeutic relationship with a mental health professional. I hope that this post was helpful to someone, and also encouraging to help you seek out your own therapeutic relationship with a mental health professional. Please leave a comment if you have any questions.

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Some days it takes more energy to find a smile than I would like. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But, on those difficult days, when I make an effort to redirect my thoughts, I find that I have taken my focus off God and the opportunities in front of me and have begun focusing more on my problems.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ A redirection in thoughts doesn’t mean that my problems go away...it just means that I’ve stopped making my problems bigger than my God and my own abilities.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #thoughts #thoughtredirection #myGod #thoughtstoponder #thoughtsoftheday #thoughtstoliveby #thoughtsandprayers #thoughtsinmyhead #faith #faithfulthoughts #faithfilledthoughts #faithfilledlife #faithfilled #faithfilledcaptions⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Consistency is a skill that we all must master if we want to pursue goals.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Most of us believe that we should do something a few times and become a master.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But consistency is a true gift that builds longevity. Take the time to build consistency through the creation of healthy habits that turn into behavior patterns. Your behavior patterns reveal so much about you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And the beauty of consistency is that it can be used to build all kinds of other skills and can be used for personal and professional goals. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #consistencyiskey #consistencyisthekey #consistencyquotes #consistencyoverperfection #consistencypaysoff #consistencyiseverything #consistency #perfection #perfectionism #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #mentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Seasonal affective disorder is a form of depression that occurs during the fall and winter months.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No, it is not just the winter blues!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Personally, I have been affected by this disorder. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I experienced postpartum depression after the birth of my oldest daughter. She was born in October and the winter for me was brutal. I had so much fear of the early nights because my depressive symptoms worsened throughout the winter months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I eventually joined a group and attended group therapy to help me through the transition.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio for more information on this disorder. Be sure to share the information with others who need it!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Seasonaldepression #SAD #Seasonalaffectivedisorder #Winterblues #seasonalaffectivedisorderisreal⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Have you ever wanted to seek out therapy? But felt unsure because of fear, or judgement, or lack of knowledge? Then check out this post. For Black women, therapy is a place where we can confront the stereotypes of the ‘strong black woman’ and ‘ride or die chicks,’ among others. We need to be take our time with finding a therapist that we feel comfortable and safe with, so that we can lay down the internal loads that we carry daily, and discover who we are without the weight of others and the world. 1. Consider your motives...why do you want to participate in therapy? What outcomes are you expecting? What is your expectations of the therapy process? 2. Are you willing and prepared to do the emotional work that therapy can require? The amount of work that is required is in proportion to the healing that is needed for you and your life. 3. Will you quit when it gets hard? And when you begin to come face-to-face with difficult truths about yourself and your relationships? Therapy is not about blame, it is about promoting wellness and healing. 4. What kind of therapist do you want to work with? Do you require a specialist within a particular area, such as eating disorders or severe depression? You must do your homework on yourself and preferences, as well as on the therapist. 5. Consider the style, personality, training, and specialization of the therapist you are seeking. Mental health professionals fall under various licensing boards, and across various fields within the mental health field. Again, do some research because this is an important journey that you are taking.

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Feeling love and appreciation for myself...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Love and appreciation for where I’ve been, what I’ve done, who I was, and mistakes that I’ve made.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Those things have shaped me into who I am today. They’ve given me desires and dreams of who I can become, and who I am becoming daily.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I don’t waste time on feelings of regret, shame, and guilt. For those feelings are destructive and keep me stuck. They made me afraid to trust myself, scared of trying new things, and fearful of others. That’s a place that I no longer want to live.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As Black women, we aren’t encouraged to feel love and joy in who we are. For we are constantly compared to others in our families, others in the workplace, and others in our societies. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, I want to tell you today, take time to appreciate yourself. For when you do, you’ll find that there’s more to you than you’ve ever known, and more of you that can blossom and bloom when love is spread within.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Thank you @Purposegarb for this awesome shirt... #Proverbs1822⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selflove #selfappreciation #selfworth #selfesteem #dreams #goals #blackgirlmagic⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Tell me what it’s like for you to walk through this world...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What words would you use to describe your personal feelings about being a Black Woman in today’s world?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What stereotypes, prejudices, and judgements do you deal with daily?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How do you cope with other’s perceptions of you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Comment below and share your experiences with others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomen #blackwomenintherapy #perceptions #stereotypes #prejudices #coping #copingskills #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Many of us walk around wondering what God’s will for our lives is, but the truth is we don’t intentionally seek His will and ask Him to align our thoughts and goals with His.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And if we do seek Him, we are busy asking Him to bless us in the messes that we’ve created, rather than being willing to close doors and remove the things He wants us to let go of.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Submitting to God’s will requires us to wait on His timing. We must be willing to submit to His will and His perfect timing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Obedience to God’s way means submitting our own desires for His. How willing are you to submit your desires to Him?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio if you want to seek God’s honest will for your life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #spirituality #faith #Godswill #blessings #alignment #abundance #graymatthewsproject

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How do you show love to yourself⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Do you monitor the words you use to describe yourself? What about the names you answer to from others?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Do you monitor the thought patterns that you have?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Do you take time to review the relationships in your life?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Have you considered the people in your life and the effects they have on you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Do you pay attention to the energy others bring around you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 6. Do you maintain awareness of how you are using your time? Time is non-refundable; once you use it, it’s gone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 7. What activities do you engage in to feed your spirit, mind and soul?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 8. How do you show love to your physical body?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfcare #selflove #selfawareness #selfexploration #perceptions #selfbeliefs #blackwomenandtherapy #self #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealth growth #trauma mentalhealthblogger #mindset #mentalhealthtip #growthmindset #blackmentalhealth #accountability #graymatthewsproject

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I’ve finally come to understand that the world is my oyster; this world was simply created for me to fulfill my purpose. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am only limited by what I believe I cannot do.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s that simple.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mywordmyoyster #myplayground #abundance #blessings #madeforblessings #purpose #spiritled #graymatthewsproject

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Do not allow yourself to feel pressure from others who are uncomfortable with this word. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is a word used to create and strengthen boundaries for yourself, your relationships, and your life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #No #boundaries #selfcare #selflove #relationships #blackwomenandtherapy #graymatthewsproject

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National Domestic Violence Hotline - Approximately 3 in 10 women, and 1 in 10 men in the US have experience rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Domestic violence is inclusive of verbal abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and financial abuse. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This statistic means that you either know someone or have experienced DV yourself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Educate yourself by reading or sharing this post, check the link in my bio!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Linkinbio #domesticviolence #DV #IPV #intimatepartnerviolence #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #mentalhealthawareness #blacktherapist #blackmentalhealth #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Pic by @IamKrystalCJ in her early days 🙃

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What do you do when there is no closure? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How do you process the emotions and move forward?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This involves a couple of steps:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. You have to allow yourself to grieve the loss.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Allow yourself the time to process and go at your own pace. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Try to find at least one thing about the experience that you learnt from.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Recognize that life is built on a series of experiences that prepare you for your next level; nothing is wasted.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 6. Begin the process of forgiveness to allow yourself the opportunity to heal. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 7. Allow yourself grace and understand that these steps are repetitive and not necessarily chronological. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 8. Expect that you will process this experience differently at various stages in your life. It does not mean that you have not healed or moved on.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #closure #healing #pain #selfcare #selflove #grace #giveyourselfgrace #giveyourselfgracetoday #selfhealing #selfhealing #healingjourney #forgiveness #forgiveyourself #forgiveforyourself⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #relationships #relationshipclosure #mentalhealthtip #blackwomenandtherapy #expectations #graymatthewsproject

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Raising emotionally healthy black girls is a difficult task.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I want to see Black women who are willing to recognize that their families are filled with generational cycles that need to be broken.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When our parents told us that, “What happens in this house stays in this house,” they robbed us of our choices, they robbed us of the opportunity to process our emotional trauma, and they robbed us to the chance to build healthy coping skills and proper emotional boundaries.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As adult Black women, we now have the choice to educate ourselves and do differently. We have the opportunity to create emotionally healthy Black girls...and eventually healthy Black women.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But only if we make the choice to do things differently...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Photo credit:@IamKrystalCJ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #trauma #blackwomen #blackgirls #blackgeneration #generationaltrauma ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Discover what your circle of influence is. Discover where you can have the most impact.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Discover the things in yourself that you have the power to overcome.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Discover the things in your life that you can grow from, learn from, and evolve from.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Discover the experiences that you need to heal from.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #growth #healing #evolving #focus #control #circleofinfluence #impact #blackwomenandtherapy #graymatthewsproject

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Do you practice a morning routine? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If so, share in what ways, it has impacted your life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Let me know also if you feel that it hasn’t made any difference for you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For me, having a morning routine reinforces discipline, helps me with productivity, reaffirms my emotion regulation, and strengthens my boundaries and commitment to myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is a reminder, to me, to take time to fill my cup because what’s in my cup is for me. Thereby, giving from the overflow to my family and others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the #linkinthebio for more benefits of a morning routine and examples of activities to include in your morning routine.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #morningroutines #discipline #abundantlife #goals #mindset #productivity #structure #morningroutine #morningroutinedone #linkinbio #graymatthewsproject #unsplash⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Photo:Danielle MacInnes

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Improve your life by building healthier boundaries and becoming a better version of yourself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Self-care is not just a trending word. It is a lifestyle that encourages self-love, and appreciation of healthy boundaries with one’s self and with others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #selfcare #boundaries #selflove #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Happiness is fleeting feeling that is based on external stimuli. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What I want is to be internally motivated and disciplined. For when things get hard, my emotions will not be in control. Because my sight is not based on what I see immediately in front of me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Rather, it’ll be based on my vision of where I’m being lead, and my understanding that this season is simply a stepping stone to the next.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Therefore, I can still experience internal joy that will radiate from the inside out.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Shout out to @IamKrystalCJ for the pic!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #happiness #joy #peace #fruitofthespirit ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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No matter how much make up, how much money, how many diets, however many followers, and whatever else we use to falsely build our self-confidence, we’ll remain broken in the deepest recesses of our hearts and minds because we do not believe that we inherently have value.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Until we have done the emotional work to take back the birthright that has always been ours, we will continue to build ourselves up with false and temporal resources that cannot sustain our souls.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #worth #worthy #worthiness #confident #confidence #selfconfidence #selfworth #selflove #selfesteem #birthright⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Do you practice a morning routine or a night routine? How do you prepare for the day ahead? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you spend any time preparing your mind and emotions to handle the day? Or do you find yourself reacting to fires all day?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I implemented and continue to practice a daily morning routine for the last year and it has drastically improved my daily mindset, productivity, and self-fulfillment. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My daily morning routine includes prayer, reading the Bible, studying a Bible plan on the YouVersion Bible app, meditation, reading from a book of positivity, and journaling. And exercising 3 days a week - which is not always in the morning.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And yes, it requires a sacrifice of getting up earlier. But, I’ve learnt that you must sow what you want to reap. This is the discipline that is required.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “Healthy habits add value to our lives. One unspoken truth about life is that life requires discipline.” - Morning Routines, Part 1 of 2!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio if you want to experiment with your own morning routine...which I highly recommend you do!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #morningroutines #discipline #abundantlife #goals #mindset #productivity #morningroutine #morningroutine #linkinbio #graymatthewsproject

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4 Lessons to Improve Your Relationships: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Remember that you are human, and therefore flawed, you will hurt each other multiple times. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Every relationship is important because you are a participant in them. If you don’t value that relationship, you shouldn’t be in it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Trust and forgiveness are key ingredients in strengthening your relationships.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Learn to give love, and learn to receive love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #relationships #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #relationshiplessons #healthyrelationshipsmatter #healthyrelationshipgoals #healthyrelationshipstartswithyou #healthyrelationshipskills #healthyrelationshipsarepossible⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #graymatthewsproject

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Over the last year, I have been focused on shifting my thoughts and creating boundaries against thoughts that do not serve me, or my future, and that are an insult to my Creator who is wholly abundant. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, I am encouraging you to join me in this shift and focus your thoughts on inviting abundance into your life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Abundance Thinking:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Shed who you thought you were supposed to be for who you were meant to be.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. He gives us glimpses of that person by stirring our desires, laying burdens and passions on our hearts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Close the door on other’s expectations, and swing the door open on those new opportunities that are pulling you in a new direction.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Discover the difference between being pushed in a direction by shoulds and musts, and being pulled by your desires and opportunities.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ @IamKrystalCJ - thanks for the pic!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #abundace #mindset #thoughts #mentalhealth #growth #opportunities #mentalshift #mindsetshift #pushvspull #expectations #othersexpectations #abundancethinking #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #graymatthewsproject

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Intimacy allows another into your personal and most private spaces and boundaries. This is allowing another into your mind, heart, and body.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is making space for another to get to know the deepest parts of you. It must be based on trust, intentionality, commitment, respect, honesty, honor, and wholeness. It is not fueled by shame, pain, submission, prejudice, lies, nor guilt.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Intimacy recognizes that your birthright made you a whole person. A whole person who can create space for another to know you as a wholly beautiful and create being that is evolving and becoming. True intimacy creates space for your evolution, growth, and transformation.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Intimacy is not only present in sexual relationships. For intimacy is far deeper than sex. Intimacy is present in deep and connected friendships.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sexual relationships should be an extension of intimate friendships because you are sharing your whole self with your sexual partner.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ True intimacy facilities true spirituality, not religion. For true intimacy feeds our bodies, souls, and spirits. For those of us who want to know and experience God, we experience God when we build true intimacy with others; because to love God, is to love others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Have you ever experienced true intimacy?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #intimacy #trueintimacy #intimacywithGod #intimacywithJesus #intimacy #trueintimacywithGod #beyondintimacy #intimacytips #trueintimacybeginswithyou⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #graymatthewsproject #blackwomenandtherapy

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At the core of us, we all are searching for belonging. Everyone wants to know that we matter to someone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We seek answers in places that were to have them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We all want to belong. We seek what we need from God in others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And we have questions about everything about us...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Including, do you believe that you are here for a purpose? Or do you believe that your life is accidental?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Your answer will determine how you choose to live your life...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio for discussion on is this an accidental life or not?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #linkinbio #accidentallifeornot #accident #purpose #life #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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I spent 5 days fasting recently, placing my desires and goals before God. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But better yet, being silent before Him to receive His direction and His plan for me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My simple, but powerful, plan is to be wholly submitted to Him. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #kingdombuilder #whollysubmitted #purpose #Godsplan #fasting #submitted #graymatthewsproject

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The world is filled with abundance if that’s what you are looking for.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s also filled with negativity and pain if that’s all you are looking for.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You will find whatever you are seeking.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Let go because:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. You want to allow healing because you do not want the pain to become your identity.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. You want to take time to process the pain so that you do not become stuck in it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. You want to take time to learn the lessons from the experiences so that you don’t make those mistakes again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. And most of all, you want to love yourself through it all, so that you can come out stronger on the other side.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #healing #love #selflove #lessons⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Even when I didn’t realize it, I had the Protector of the universe standing guard over me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Right now, He is trying to shift my path. I have spent this year learning to be obedient to His will and submitting my will to Him.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Why submit?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because He has shown me glimpses of the things He has placed in me. He has shown me that though I may feel off track at times, He has me exactly where I need to be.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And so are you. The lessons you are learning now is for the next season. So, stop fighting and develop awareness of your situation. Ask Him to reveal the lessons you need to learn so that you may move to the next season. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject #lessons #seasons

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Note to self: There are no overnight successes, although social media would try to convince you otherwise.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There are strict universal laws created by God that govern the world. And that includes, you reap what you sow.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And being a worldly success does not mean that you are walking in the purpose you were created for. Only God can validate that success.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, you wanna be successful? Consult with God. Then, increase your value in the direction He is leading you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Faithful actions + God’s increase = Kingdom success.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Kingdombuilder #faithful #spiritled ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #2020goals #mindset ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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What does self-care mean to you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The point of self-care is to do things that fulfill, replenish, and fuel you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is to replenish and restore all the energies, emotions, and service that you have given unto others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How do you replenish yourself? Remember that you cannot give from an empty cup. What’s in your cup is for you. The overflow is for others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When was the last one you refilled your cup?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio for a discussion on the blog about self-care.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfcare #replenish #rejuvenate⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sent via @planoly #planoly

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Take the time to do the internal work to get the external results that you are looking for.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthtips #emotionalwork #internalvsexternal #graymatthewsproject

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Do you possess the skill of self-awareness?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The simple fact is you cannot change what you don’t know about. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If we have no self-awareness, we have no control over ourselves; we have no control over our thoughts, behaviors, habits, relationships. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In essence, we have no control over our lives.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Checkout the link in the bio for a discuss on self-awareness.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfawareness #selftransformation ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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Take time to refresh yourself daily. We are not promised another day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Take time out of each day to be present with your children, partner, and self. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Social media is not the most important task in your life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sent via @planoly #planoly⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject #selfawareness #bepresent

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It took many years for me to get comfortable⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ in my dark skin.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My sisters are all of light complexion. I remember many times we were walking on the street, and people would approach them and ignore me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ People would laugh at us when we explained that we were sisters. I never understood how our own community could be so small-minded.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Even to this day, I would walk on the streets with my daughter (who is lighter in complexion than I am) and people still cannot believe that she is my daughter.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Have you experienced colorism from our community?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #colorism #blackcommunity #blackculture⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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My goal is to help as many Black women know this in their hearts and then reflect it in their lives.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As a therapist, I know that it all starts in our thoughts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackwomenandtherapy #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #mindset #abundance #mentalhealthtips #therapytips #kingdombuilder #graymatthewsproject

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I have realized that many black women have never been taught how to be in healthy relationships, including relationships with themselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am one of those women.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But my training as a therapist and my own personal intention of self-growth has helped me greatly. Now, I desire to do the same for other black women.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Therapy is such a helpful resource to the black community.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #therapy #blackwomen #healing #boundaries #relationships #blacklove #authenticity #graymatthewsproject

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No. It’s a full sentence.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s the beginning of developing proper boundaries in your relationships.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Being able to say no without owning feelings of guilt, shame, or remorse. Instead, developing confidence in where you have set your own personal boundaries.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #No #boundaries #mentalhealth #blackmentalhealth #healthyboundaries #graymatthewsproject

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How often do you react without thinking? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How often do you check react to situations without considering the consequences of your behavior?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Impulsivity is reaction without awareness.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tips to deal with impulsive behaviors.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Stop and think about what you are feeling.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Try to name the emotion you are feeling.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Consider the action or situation that caused the feeling.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. What action would change the experience that you are having in this situation?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Consider the consequences of the behavior or action that you want to take? Emotion regulation and impulse control requires intentionality and practice.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #reactivity #impulsivity #impulsiveness #reactions #mentalhealth #blackmentalhealth #control #emotionregulation #mentalhealthtips #graymatthewsproject

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Discomfort is a signal that changes need to be made in your life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Are you exploring the signals or are you running from them? Either option represents a choice made by you on how to deal with your uncomfortable feelings.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthandspirituality #wounds #healing #lifepurpose #love #healthylove #healthylife #healthyrelationships #Blackmentalhealth #mentalhealth #mentalhealthquote #graymatthewsproject

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Therapy is a strategy (as stated by @Dranitaphillips), a strategy to help us win control of our minds, will, and emotions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today, we battle against nonstop distractions and the constant onslaught of information and trauma that the world is suffering from.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Whether you know it or not, the constant flow of information affects us on deep levels. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Be sure to take time to process your thoughts and emotions so that you can master your thoughts and be in control of your emotions. This will reduce reactivity and fatigue in your life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Here are some tips to help you process your thoughts and emotions:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Journaling - Free writing helps you tap into your subconscious and bring those deeper feelings to the surface. No, you do not need to be a writer to practice journaling!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Meditation- this activity helps to quiet the constant chatter in your mind.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Exercise- one of the best and free options available to all! Ranging from a leisurely stroll, or a brisk walk, or relaxed or vigorous yoga to more energetic exercises such as kickboxing and swimming, there are options for all types!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Therapy - there is no feeling like having that breakthrough that brings insight into a behavioral cycle that you have wanted to break for so long.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Leave me a comment and let me know which strategies you have used to manage your thoughts and emotions.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealth #blackmentalhealth #strategy #mentalhealthtips #breakthrough #healing #graymatthewsproject⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sent via @planoly #planoly

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You want to allow healing because you do not want the pain to become your identity.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You want to take time to process the pain so that you do not become stuck in it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You want to take time to learn the lessons from the experiences so that you don’t make those mistakes again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And most of all, you want to love yourself through it all, so that you can come out stronger on the other side.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #healing #pain #selflove #selfhealing #mentalhealthtip #lessons #graymatthewsproject

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It took a while for me to realize that the only identity that matters is the one that God gave me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The previous attempts were ill-fated because they were based on temporary and external foundations:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Initially, my identity was based on how my family saw me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Then, it was based on wanting to fit in with my friends and my relationships.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Then, it was based on what I thought was my first love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Fourth, 13 years ago, I met a man who encouraged me to shut out the noise, and figure out who Charmaine was. And this, the journey slowly began.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Then, about 3 years ago, my soul began crying out to God. I began to realize that what I was searching for would never be found in man, would never be found in this earth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because I was searching for truth, purpose, belonging, and hope. All the things that I had been born with as my birthright.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ All the things that were freely given to me from the true source, from My Heavenly Father. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But, I had made the mistake of searching for what was in me and given already in all the wrong places.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #birthright #hope #heavenlylove #heavenlyFather #spirituality #freedom #truelove #truepurpose #kingdombuilder #kingdomdaughter #graymatthewsproject

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This doesn’t mean that love has to be perfect, because no one is. But healthy love can make space for individual growth as well as relationship growth. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Healthy love makes room for our flaws, for our needs and desires; it makes space for both people involved to have their needs met.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #healthove #growth #love #honestlove #blackmentalhealth #mentalhealth #graymatthewsproject

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Have you talked with God about your pain? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ He can’t help you heal what you won’t give to Him.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ God wastes nothing. No pain; no hurt; no tear; no experience; no lesson. Our true destinies and purposes are divinely revealed to us in our deepest moments of humility and pain.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There is deep and unending joy in the presence of His fullness. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthandspirituality #faith #love #mentalhealth #spirituality #healing #graymatthewsproject

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Everyone says to seek happiness. But no one tells you the truth about happiness...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Happiness is fleeting. Happiness is externally motivated.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Every time something makes you happy, it does so temporarily. When that high of happiness has worn off, another external hit is required to make you happy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But joy is spiritual. It comes from deep within. It is connected to our Source. Because joy comes from within, it is based on our inner strength and connection to God’s grace and power. Thus, it is longer lasting. And joy does not disguise difficult emotions. It is present despite them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ll choose joy, thank you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Joy #happiness #joyvshappiness #Godsgrace #gmpinfo #graymatthewsproject

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How comfortable do you feel when you’re alone with yourself?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve found that many of my clients are quite uncomfortable with themselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The more conversations that I have with people, I find that this is a common issue.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That discomfort is an avoidance of the thoughts and emotions that we know we need to deal with. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But, we avoid these important tasks and expect others to make us happy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfdiscovery #selflove #selfjourney #alone #loneliness #aloneandlonelinessarenotthesame #graymatthewsproject

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Have you ever wanted to hear from God? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But felt like He isn’t listening to you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The truth is God is with you, whether you think He is there or not. I also began to see that He is always speaking to us, but we tend to get in our own way⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ *Checkout the link in the bio to read the 7 Ways We Hear from God.*⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tell me, in the comments, if you feel like God has spoken to you, and if so, I’m what ways?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #HearingfromGod #faith #spirituality #mentalhealthandspirituality #graymatthewsproject

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Deep love requires sacrificing our pride, revealing our flaws, releasing false expectations, and open vulnerability shared with another who does the same with us.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we have not taken the time to heal past wounds, including childhood hurts, we take all of that baggage into a new relationship. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ These wounds fester within us, drive our pain deeper, control our behaviors, and alter our perceptions.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do not be afraid to seek help. You owe it to yourself to begin a healthy healing journey because God can use that pain to reveal His true purpose for you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthandspirituality #wounds #healing #lifepurpose #love #healthylove #healthylife #healthyrelationships #Blackmentalhealth #mentalhealth #graymatthewsproject

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Five Things You Should Know About Forgiveness:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Forgiveness is a process. It is not a one-and-done experience. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Forgiveness is not linear. It is not a straight line. Just like life, it is filled with twists and turns, ups and downs.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. There are multiple stages of forgiveness and you may find yourself in multiple stages at the same time and/or you may repeat the stages. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. Forgiveness is about the person forgiving, not about the offender.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Forgiveness is not about forgetting, you will never forget that experience. But, at some point, you must begin to move forward.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Consider this: Who do you need to forgiveness? Forgiveness only holds YOU back from healing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And if you can’t forgive someone, why should others forgive you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Wanna learn more? Checkout the link in the bio😌. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Blackmentalhealth #Mentalhealth #Forgiving #Forgiveness #Wholeness #Holness #Healing #graymatthewsproject

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One step at a time...that’s how I’ll walk into my destiny, into God’s provision.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is my joy to be of service to others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve discovered over the last few months of my social media break that joy comes from service. Joy comes from purpose. Joy comes from vision. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What do you get joy from?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #purpose #goals #vision #obedience⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #graymatthewsproject⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sent via @planoly #planoly

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There are days when I am fully sure of my purpose and my faith is strong. Then there are days when I have to lean on my affirmations and my faith in God to remind me of the things I know to be true #Graymatthewsproject #future #goals #mindset #growthmindset #overcomingfears #dreamer #goalachiever #mindovermatter #spirituality #honesty #therapy #therapist #worthy #loveable #powerhouse #powerhouseinthemaking #strongwoman #strongblackwoman #blackgirlsrock #blacktherapist #mentalhealththerapist #mentahealthadvocate #liveauthentic

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Checkout the GrayMatthewsProject.com website for awesome and thought-provoking mental health content! Also, coming soon worksheets and downloadables to help you make the necessary changes to create the life you want. Don’t forget to sign up while you’re there to receive your free downloadable mental health checklist! #gmp #graymatthewsproject #blackmentalhealth #authenticity #authenticityandbraveryinsync #mentalhealth #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthblog #authentic #browngirlbloggers #Mentalhealthbloggers #blackgirlswhoblog #BlkCreatives, #mentalhealthawareness #blackwomen #blackgirlsrock #blacktherapist #mentalhealththerapist #mentahealthadvocate #liveauthentic

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#internationalwomensday We are world changers!! Be the change you want to see in the world. **** There is so much power in us, if we’re willing to take a leap of faith and build our courage along side our fears, we could change the world. Together we can do anything. #Graymatthewsproject #future #goals #mindset #growthmindset #overcomingfears #dreamer #goalachiever #mindovermatter #spirituality #honesty #therapy #therapist #worthy #loveable #powerhouse #powerhouseinthemaking #strongwoman #strongblackwoman #fears #AfricanAmerican #Caribbean #Jamaican #blackculture #reflections #Calledtobecreative #creativelife #girlboss

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The Gray Matthews Project was created after working with black clients and hearing: 1. Their confusion about what therapy is necessary 2. Hearing the guilt and confusion they experienced about why they sometimes felt that when they prayed, it didn’t always feel like it was enough 3. Recognizing for myself and through my own experiences that being black is a weight that is carried everyday and it gets exhausting sometimes, so we suffer in silence 4. Seeing the expressions on my clients’ face change to surprise and happiness when I walk into the room because of the location I work in 5. Seeing the expressions on my clients’ face change to surprise and unhappiness when I walk into the room because of the location I work in 6. Listening to some of my colleagues and interns completely ignore the social and cultural issues that black people walk into the therapy room with I recognized a need that is just being unmet. My love is strong for my career field and for my people, why not advocate for both? #graymatthewsproject #gmp #blackhistory #blackhistorymonth #blackculture #blackcommunity #Caribbean #Caribbeanculture #purpose #career #therapy #mentalhealth #blackgirlsblog #mindovermatter #mentalhealthblogger #mindset #growthmindset #blackmentalhealth #authenticity #authenticityandbraveryinsync #mentalhealthblog #worthy #loveable #authentic #browngirlblogger #Mentalhealthbloggers #powerhouse #powerhouseinthemaking #ThursdayThoughts

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