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The cycle of abuse. There is always a cycle of abuse. It is the one consistent in a world of inconsistency. The cycle might look different but if you look hard enough you will see it. I use to say the only thing that was predictable about my ex-husband was that he was unpredictably. Learning the patterns of abuse is important to keeping you safe. The more you learn about your environment the more you can protect yourself and make choices that keep you safer. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #sociopath #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #Lundybancoft #abusiverelationship #stayingsafeindomesticabuse #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #cycleofdv

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Sometimes it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You might feel like you will always feel broken. Lots of people give up and resign themselves to a life of abuse and heartache because they don't see a way out. I know because that's what I did. I had given up. I saw no way out. I had no way out. I was a SAHM with for 17 years. I had no work experience. I was in poor health, had two special needs children, no friends or family I could turn to. My husband controlled all of our finances. He controlled everything. I had no way out. He promised me if I tried to leave, it would be in a body bag. I gave up trying. Until one morning he snapped and I called the police. I found a way out. I never thought I could get out. I never thought I would or could move on. I have. It is possible. Hard as hell, but it is possible. You just have to keep believing. If you need someone to talk to, I am here for you. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survivior #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #toxiclove #triggers # healinghappens #traumarecovery #myjourney #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #dontgiveup #enddv

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πŸ“„πŸ“‹πŸ“•πŸ’œ What documents do you need to leave an abuser? Having a safety plan is important for you and your children. Include journal of abusive incidents, police reports, and medical reports. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’ͺ 24/7/365 Hotline (760) 955-8723 #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #nocontact #greyrock #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #breakthecycle

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Here’s your reminder from all of us at themarshalleffect to never look back on the things/people that make you feel anything less than loved and validated. πŸ’ͺπŸ»πŸ’› We hope everyone is doing okay during these hard times! Remember, someone loves you. We love you. πŸ™‚ . . Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 . . Models: @ms_xzotic_350 & @jordanab97 . . #themarshalleffect #suicideawareness #suicideprevention #domesticviolence #dv #menarevictimstoo #ryanmarkmarshall #hope #faith #love #22aday #veteransuicide

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I am feeling so triggered. Everything is triggering me. Being triggered triggers me! As a victim of domestic abuse I am use to high levels of stress but now I feel trapped. And that is hands down the WORST feeling for someone with complex PTSD. It doesn't help that during my abusive marriage I was literally locked in my home. I did something "wrong" and I wasn't allowed to leave the house for 3 weeks for any reason. He took my car keys. My phone. This is really triggering me. And it's not possible to ground myself while I am trapped in the trigger. I don't know how to do that. And no one understands. They think they do but they don't. I cried all day. I hate crying. That's a trigger. I am a mess. I am scared my dog is going to die. I am scared everyone is going to die. My mind is racing. Thoughts scrambled and overwhelming, panicky. I feel like my world is falling off into this black hole. Into this abyss. Nothing makes sense. I have disassociated. This is making me forgetful, confused, much more anxious. I have relapsed completely. And yet I feel like I don't have the right. Somehow it feels like those of us, the ones who were "stuck at home before" for other reasons we have been pushed aside. The important ones are speaking. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survival #staystrong #endvictimblaiming # #emotionalabuse #havefaith #sociopath #sorrynotsorry #howdoyouthinkwefelt #isurvivedyou #stronger #justdoit #betternow # mystory #nobullies #bekind

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Everyone deserves to be safe from violence. When you are ready to leave your abuser, make sure you have a safety plan, make sure you evaluate your danger. Ask yourself…. #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #nocontact #greyrock #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #breakthecycle

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I definitely did this. I believed in you like my life depended on it. Only thing is believing in you almost cost me my life. A word to the wise. Be careful who you trust, not everyone you love should be trusted. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother # #sociopath #gaslighting #manipulation #abusiverelationships #triggers #toxicbehavior #toxiclove

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I definitely did this. I believed in you like my life depended on it. Only thing is believing in you almost cost me my life. A word to the wise. Be careful who you trust, not everyone you love should be trusted. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother # #sociopath #gaslighting #manipulation #abusiverelationships #triggers #toxicbehavior #toxiclove

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I always wanted someone to stand up for me. But I had to learn to stand up for myself first. Once I learned to stand up for myself, I noticed others were more likely to step in and stand up for me as well. I am not exactly sure why this is. I could probably figure it out if I had more mental energy. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #selfworth #selflove #complexptsd #selfawareness #selfesteem #menarevictimstoo #depression #nomorebullies #bebrave #abusiverelationship #bekind #kindnessmatters #toxiclove #toxicbehavior

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So many times people in abusive relationships are confused and unsure of what is going on. Make no mistake this is done deliberately by your abuser. They need to keep you off balance. If you're constantly unsure of everything, especially yourself it keeps the focus off of them. This is the goal. To keep you focused on anything but them and their behavior. The more you question yourself and what is real, the less they will be held accountable for their behavior. And of course the less likely they will be required to be responsible for their actions. It's important to stay calm and not to react when they push your buttons because that's just a distraction from the greater evil they're doing. Stay grounded and remind yourself that you are not oversensitive or over reacting. You are starting to set boundaries and become aware of the games. Keep educating yourself and healing. One step at a time. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd # metoo #notmyshame #menarevictimstoo #narabuse #sociopath #violentrelationships #onestepatatime #yournotcrazy #toxicabuse #abusiverelationship #ptsdwarrior #warrior #healingispossible #trauma #victimoflove

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Survival happens one day at a time. Sometimes it happens one step at a time or one moment at a time. There were plenty of times throughout my abusive marriage and after I left I didn't know how I would survive. Everything felt too much. It was too much. I felt like like I couldn't take it one second longer or I would lose my mind. And then something happened. I can't say what happened exactly, I just know I kept going. I think that's when the body takes over. You go into autopilot. Your mind shuts down in order to prevent a complete and total nervous breakdown. What felt like weakness and failure was survival. What looked like craziness to others was 100% mental wellness. I just didn't know that at the time. During the first few years, yes years, I cried constantly anywhere and everywhere. I couldn't focus. I couldn't sleep. I was anxious. I was terrified. I didn't trust myself or anything or anyone. What is happening now feels similar. We have the ability to get through this. We are strong enough. Reach out to others if you are struggling. I am here. Practice selfcare. Little things matter. Remember to breathe. This won't last forever. You will find a way out. You don't have to stay in a bad relationship forever. First survive today. But don't lose hope for tomorrow. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #surviving #survival #surviviorofnarcissistabuse

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I am deeply sorry for everyone who is trapped in a abusive relationship. Especially right now. It has to be terrifying. I can imagine how terrifying. I have lived it. I spent 17 years trapped in a abusive marriage with no way out. I honestly don't even know what to say to someone who is in a abusive relationship right now and wants to leave. How? Most places are locked down. These are unprecedented times. It was difficult at best to leave before this happened. Now it's going to be a lot harder. This is the reality. I wish it wasn't. Please know that I am here for you. If you can reach out I am here to support you in anyway I can. I will try to share ways that I survived my abusive marriage. We will get through this. We are survivors and we are strong. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd # #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #kindness #strength #havefaith #isurvivedyou #stronger #justdoit #betternow # mystory

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Credit to @whywomendontleave : I apologize for my lack of presence. I have been so overwhelmed by this coronavirus. It's hard for me to focus on much else. I am in the high risk group as well as the rest of my family. Although I probably would be the worst off. My anxiety is beyond ridiculous. My PTSD is unlike anything it has been for quite some time. I can't sleep. I can't focus. I am compulsively cleaning. My ex-husband is on my mind constantly. What if I die? What if he dies? Why won't he be a decent person and pay his child support? I haven't paid our electric bill. I know they can't shut it off but it stresses me off. I don't have enough supplies. I just want to have enough food for my kids so we can hunker down and not go anywhere for at least a month. Then we would hopefully pass the 2 weeks and be in the clear. And then we would be in the clear and I could relax. I need to relax before I have a nervous breakdown for real. My anxiety has been too high for too long. I know I am not the only one who feels this way. That stresses me out. I want to be available for all of you who need support. Who count on my posts. And I want you to know I am trying. As soon as I can get myself settled and feeling safer I will be in a better emotional place to post more. In the meantime I am still always here for anyone who needs support. Please don't ever hesitate to message me for support. Please stay safe and hang in there with me. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #coronavirus #wewillgetthroughthis #myanxietyissobad #anxiextydisorder #depression #hypervigilance

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I apologize for my lack of presence. I have been so overwhelmed by this coronavirus. It's hard for me to focus on much else. I am in the high risk group as well as the rest of my family. Although I probably would be the worst off. My anxiety is beyond ridiculous. My PTSD is unlike anything it has been for quite some time. I can't sleep. I can't focus. I am compulsively cleaning. My ex-husband is on my mind constantly. What if I die? What if he dies? Why won't he be a decent person and pay his child support? I haven't paid our electric bill. I know they can't shut it off but it stresses me off. I don't have enough supplies. I just want to have enough food for my kids so we can hunker down and not go anywhere for at least a month. Then we would hopefully pass the 2 weeks and be in the clear. And then we would be in the clear and I could relax. I need to relax before I have a nervous breakdown for real. My anxiety has been too high for too long. I know I am not the only one who feels this way. That stresses me out. I want to be available for all of you who need support. Who count on my posts. And I want you to know I am trying. As soon as I can get myself settled and feeling safer I will be in a better emotional place to post more. In the meantime I am still always here for anyone who needs support. Please don't ever hesitate to message me for support. Please stay safe and hang in there with me. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #coronavirus #wewillgetthroughthis #myanxietyissobad #anxiextydisorder #depression #hypervigilance

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I apologize if I am posting more sporadic. These are unprecedented times. So much is happening in the world. We will get through this. We are survivors. I am working on self care. Trying to stay healthy. Please take care of yourself and reach out if you are struggling. I am here. Stay safe and healthy. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd # #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #kidsmatter #inthis together #community #strongertogether #prayers

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Break the silence, men are victims too. #standup4domesticviolence #stopdomesticviolence #menarevictimstoo #breakthesilence

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This month is a Trauma Anniversary month for me for my ptsd/complex ptsd regarding my ex-husband for so many many reasons. The last time he assaulted me was in March. Sadly I just realized it is now going to forever be a trauma Anniversary month for the world due to the pandemic. I don't think I will ever like March again. I often wonder if my ex-husband wonders why I was able to finally walk away from him. While other people are wondering what the hell took me so long? Mostly I think my ex-husband wrongly assumes I left him for another man. Because he was always cheating on me. Maybe he figured he was going to leave me? No I left because I had literally tried anything and everything a thousand times over to save him, me and us. I tried everything I could think of and more. There was nothing I didn't try or think of to save our marriage. But eventually even I realized there was no hope. Nothing was going to save us. If losing everything doesn't bring a man to his knees then he isn't a man he is a monster. A man will never abandon his kids for another woman. A boy might but not a man. A man will not put his hands on a woman out of anger, ever. Regardless of what was said and done I stayed true to my vows. But there comes a point where you know in your heart that you are fighting a losing battle. That you can't win this fight. So you just stop fighting. And walk away. That's closure. And it doesn't make a difference if I love. I am done. It's just over. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #divorce #strength #sociopath #gaslighting #manipulation #abusiverelationships #triggers #toxicbehavior #toxiclove #itsover #walkaway #iamdone

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I still talk about my ex-husband. I still think about him. I am not in love with him. I have moved on. I did that a long, long time ago. But as I have said many times before healing is a process. I was with him for 18 years. That's a long time. A lot happened. He will always be the father of my children and the first man I ever loved. He destroyed my entire world and I am not over that completely, at least not yet.... #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survival #staystrong #endvictimblaiming #toxiclove #triggers #endfinancialabuse #childsupport #kidsmatter #destroyedmylife #notoverit #overyou #victimoflove #toolate

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I am not big on regrets but when I think back on the years I endured your lies and abuse and for what? In the end my loyalty didn't mean a damn thing to you. My devotion, my faithfulness, my love. All of it, it meant absolutely nothing to you. And that's why I regret it. Because all the pain and suffering wasn't worth it to anyone at all. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #itmeantnothingtoyou #wasitworthit #nothingatall #sociopath #noneofitmattered

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I am still healing. I don't have all the answers. I am not always right. I don't always say or do the right things. I mess up. I do my best and sometimes it's not enough. But I always try and I always care and I hope that counts for something. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsf #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #narcissisticmother #kidsmatter #healing #warrior #healingispossible #healingcomplextraumaptsd

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HOW AWESOME IS THIS?! β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️ couldn’t have done it without all of you! Go follow @_themarshalleffect and like us on Facebook to stay updated and to learn how you can get involved! πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚ #themarshalleffect #tme #ryanmarshall #ryanmarkmarshall #suicideprevention #domesticviolence #dv #dvawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #menarevictimstoo

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It is truly remarkable how we can hold ourselves together even when we are falling apart. That's such a contraction I know. But that's how survival works. I am holding it together on the outside but inside I am on the edge of having a melt down. I am keeping myself busy. I can't allow my mind to wander. That's when I get in trouble. My mind unsupervised is dangerous for me. I have a tendency to start thinking of the worst case scenarios, which is not helpful. I have to keep reminding myself to stay in the present. To ground myself. To focus on what I can do, what I can control. This is so important to remember. We can only control ourselves and our own thoughts. There were times I couldn't even control what I did, because my ex-husband made choices for me. He chose when I ate, slept. There where times he chose when and where I went and with who. He basically owned me and my body, but he could never own my mind or my spirit. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survival #staystrong #endvictimblaiming # #emotionalabuse #sexualabuse #empowering #triggers #controlled #abused #sociopath #victimofnarcissisticabuse #dvwarrior

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We're going to make it through this. We're going to make it. We're going to make it through this. I just keep repeating this to myself and thinking this over and over. Everything is going to be okay. This is unprecedented. No one has ever gone through anything like this before. It is scary and terrifying especially for those who are still living at home with their abusers. I can just imagine the fear of being quarantined with your abuser. I keep thinking about how I would be doing if this was happening when I was still with my ex-husband. This is real. It's hard and I don't know what the answer is for any of us. But we will make it through this. We will. I am always here if you need someone to talk to. Stay strong with me ~β™‘~ #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #domesticabusesurvivior #menarevictimstoo #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #sociopathawareness #soulgrowth #sociopath #cptsd #wewillsurvive #itsgoingtobeokay #survivior #strength #wewillsurvive #staystrong #togetherwewillmakeit #toxicrelationship

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This is what being a survivor is like. You still feel it. You live it. The feelings never go away. If you're lucky they fade, and you learn to live with the memories. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #memories #soulgrowth #survival #sociopath #anxiety #depression #anxiety #nomotivation #ptsd #menarevictimstoo #yournotalone #triggers #itgetseasier #domesticviolencesurvivior #youdontunderstand

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πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’ͺ When you remove those that are toxic around you, focus on self-love, and recognize the red flags, your life begins to change, you begin to win. πŸ’ͺπŸ’œπŸ’œ #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #nocontact #greyrock #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #breakthecycle

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Our Founder & President rocks her purple in honor of her Dad, Randy Evans, who passed away March 14, 2004 from domestic violence. Every March 14th, we commemorate him with #purpleforrandy day. Thank you to all those who have showed their support. May we continue to fight domestic violence for men and women around the world! πŸ’œπŸ™πŸ½πŸ‘ΌπŸ½ #enddomesticviolence #thetroubledmovement #abuseawareness #thebutterflyproject #menarevictimstoo

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I can't help but think of you during a time like this. I wonder what life would be like for us if we were still a family? But than I have to remind myself you didn't care about hurting me before, why would you care about me now? Or your kids? You won't. So damn hard to comprehend. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survival #staystrong #endvictimblaiming #emotionalabuse #narcabuse #sociopath #hedoesntloveyou #heleftyou #victimoflove #itstillhurts

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It took me a long time but eventually I turned this corner from where I lost you to where I gained your spirit. My strength and the fight in me comes from you...and of course my forehead. Everyone is wearing purple for you! Love you Daddy! πŸ’œπŸ‘ΌπŸ½ Swipe ⬅️ . . #purpleforrandy #enddomesticviolence #menarevictimstoo #webeatdv #thetroubledmovement #thebutterflyproject #randyevans #ourangel

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I’m so happy to see a new day but there are those who didn’t get that chance. This is why I fight for Domestic Violence Awareness! #purpleforrandy #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticviolencesurvivor #menarevictimstoo #pressonnailset #custompressonnails #happythoughts #creativeoutlet

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πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ Taking the first step is the beginning to ending abuse. Leaving takes planning and knowing the journey to recovery is going to be challenging. You have help, you have resources. A Better Way Hotline 760-955-8723.πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ #findyourselfandyouwin #youarenotalone #youdeservebetter #loveyourself #loveisnotabuse #domesticviolence #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #gaslighting #narcissist #recoveryfromanarcissist #nocontact #greyrock

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😒😒 Narcissist use gaslighting as a tool to maintain control and manipulation of their victims. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œOur Hotline is open 24/7/365 (760) 955-8723πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #lasting relationship #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #lovedoesnthurt #findyourselfandyouwin #gaslighting #narcissist #redflags

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Tears don't make you weak. Vulnerability either. Being able to love and feel takes courage and strength. Especially after a broken heart. I am a warrior πŸ’œ #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #warrior #ptsdwarrior #menarevictimstoo #staystrong #narcabuse #sociopathsurvivior #vulnerability #strongerthanyouknow #openheart #crying #healingispossible #poems #learningtoloveagainπŸ’ž

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Tears don't make you weak. Vulnerability either. Being able to love and feel takes courage and strength. Especially after a broken heart. I am a warrior πŸ’œ #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #warrior #ptsdwarrior #menarevictimstoo #staystrong #narcabuse #sociopathsurvivior #vulnerability #strongerthanyouknow #openheart #crying #healingispossible #poems #learningtoloveagain

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There are days I just have to encourage myself, most days infact. I know that there's good in this world. There are good people. There's joy I have yet to experience and lots of happiness I will have in my life. Not everyday will be a good day. I have learned to find happiness in moments and not look for it as a destination. I use to think if I just had this in my life "a nice house, car, perfect marriage etc" but I have since learned life doesn't work that way. Now I enjoy the perfect cup of coffee, the romantic dinner, a nice quiet evening, those are the things that give me happiness. Interestingly once I stopped trying to achieve this elusive goal of happiness, I actually found myself more relaxed and yes happier. Isn't that ironic πŸ˜‰ #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survival #staystrong #endvictimblaiming # #emotionalabuse #havefaith #happiness #itsthelittlethings #mindovermatter #simplicity #love #life #joyful

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πŸ’œThe 🚩🚩🚩 are there, they may creep up slowly, but they are visible when you are involved with a narcissist. It’s ok to walk away from any relationship that is toxic. Our Hotline is open 24/7/365 (760) 955-8723β˜ŽοΈπŸ’œ #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #lasting relationship #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #lovedoesnthurt #findyourselfandyouwin #gaslighting #narcissist #redflags

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After the claims made by Sana, Melvin Louis shared a voice note of an argument between the two. He alleged that it’s all a plan to bring a bad name on him. In the audio, the female is heard saying, "I have to humiliate you! The point is to feel better, publicly!" The male voice then responds, "I am very sure that that is your intention.” Responding to this, the female voice says, "yeah, yeah, that is my intention." The male voice continues, β€œBecause you are wondering now what? Abhi how will I go and correct my image out there. Why have I left Melvin? Let me say that he is gone out there and he is cheated on me. Is that your plan?” The female voice replies, β€œYeah, Yeah that is my plan?” Along with the audio clip, Melvin Louis wrote, "You mocked me ! You mocked my race and my skin color ! You mocked my family ! You mocked my most favourite people with disgusting allegations ! You did your best ! I hope you feel better now PUBLICLY ! #MenAreVictimsToo #YouAskedForIt #NotGuilty #BulaatiHaiMagarJaaneKaNahi . . . . . . #biggboss #bb13 #biggboss13 #sanakhan #viral #trending #bollywoodhotness #bollywoodmovie #trendingnow #viralvideos #instanow #breakingnews #bollywoodtrailer #bollywoodfashion #bollywoodfilm #bollywood #bollywoodactoractor #bollywoodupdates #bollywoodfashion #breakingnews .

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How long does it take to heal? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ As long as it takes. There's no time limit on healing. It would be nice if there was, if a brokenheart took 8 weeks to heal like a broken leg. It just doesn't work that way. There's so many variables that are in play when it comes to healing. Healing is possible. It is also personal. You don't owe anyone a explanation or a apology for how you recover. It's not about them. Your healing is about you. #whywomendontleave #dvcycles #domesticviolence #dvsucks #enddomesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticabuse #violenceagainstwomen #emotionalabuse #sexualabuse #healingispossible #healingfromtrauma #menarevictimstoo #yourstory #ittakesaslongasittakes #ptsd #abusive #recoveryispossible #recoveryfromtrauma #strength #startingover #youcanheal

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πŸ™ŒπŸ’œ What is NO MORE? NO MORE’s seventh annual NO MORE Week is March 8-14 2020. Our goal is to inspire everyone to make change to help create a culture of safety, equality, and respect in our communities. No matter where you are, #ChangeHappensHere. Visit: nomore.org At A Better Way/Victor Valley Domestic Violence, Inc., our efforts support victims, survivors and our community because #ChangeHappensHere. πŸ’œπŸ™Œ #changehappenshere #nomore #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #nocontact #greyrock #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #breakthecycle

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You mocked me ! You mocked my race and my skin color ! You mocked my family ! You mocked my most favourite people with disgusting allegations ! You did your best ! I hope you feel better now PUBLICLY ! #menarevictimstoo Β  #youaskedforit Β  #NotGuilty #bulaatihaimagarjaanekanhi #melvin #melvinlouis #sanakhan #choreographer #victim @melvinlouis @sanakhaan21

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πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’” One day the mask will fall off, it may not be today, next week, next month or next year, but it will fall off. You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change. πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’œ #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #lasting relationship #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #domesticviolencedoesnotdiscriminate #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #recoveryfromanarcissist #lovedoesnthurt #findyourselfandyouwin #gaslighting #narcissist

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#πŸ˜‚ damnn lol This post is for my young fellas.... dont let these females fool you that they were the victims in the past relationship(s). Evaluate her, my nigga before you pump that water gun and hit bullseye. She will waste no time telling the world that you're the problem/bad guy #shitisreal #menarevictimstoo #takeyourtimedating #loveyourself #watchyourback #learnher #realshit #havestrength #haveagreatday #πŸ’ͺ🏼

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I never wanted to leave you. I just wanted it to stop. I wanted the pain to stop. I wanted my heart to stop hurting. I wanted you to stop breaking me. But you seemed to get such pleasure out of my pain. All of my pleas to stop went ignored. I was desperate. I tried everything I could and more to reach you. Until I couldn't try anymore. I needed the pain to stop. Even if that meant you were gone. Because after all those years I finally figured out that was the only way it was going to happen. So I walked away. And you begged me to come back. No one will ever know what it took for me to keep on walking. How with each step further away from you my heart broke just a little bit more. I remember feeling everything slipping further and further away. But there was nothing I could do to stop it. If things would have been different between us I would have run back. I still would. But I know how the story ends with us. πŸ’”πŸ’” #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #ihadtoleave #yougavemenochoice #youpushedme #

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Remember you are stronger than you feel. Strength doesn't have to look or feel a certain way. There's strength in being vulnerable, in collapsing on the floor crying. There's strength in wiping the tears away and getting back up, over and over again. It takes strength to keep fighting to survive. Give yourself time to heal. And don't listen to people who tell you that you should be over it or to move on. Healing takes as long as it takes. It's your experience. Your life and you are the one feeling it. Keep on keeping on because you're a brave survivor even if you don't feel like it right now. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #survival #strongerthanyoufeel #compassion #healing #healingfromtrauma #rebuildingafterabuse #lifeafterdv #surviviorofdomesticabuse #traumasurvivior #narcabuse #sociopath #divorce #rebuildingafterdivorce #menarevictimstoo

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πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ You may have lost yourself, but with focus and determination, you can find yourself. It may not be the old version but a better and stronger version. Self-love, things begin to change. You begin to change. πŸ˜˜πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ #findyourselfandyouwin #youarenotalone #youdeservebetter #loveyourself #loveisnotabuse #domesticviolence #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships

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If I ask you how you are it's because I genuinely care. I know how lonely life can be. It's hard to be the responsible one, the strong one. It's not easy growing. I guess that's why they call them growing pains. I tell myself that pain is part of life. I let the tears flow and keep myself going. I won't let myself give up. I don't want you to give up either. I wish I had some magic advice or something. I don't. I can't even promise you that everything will be okay. All I can do is be here. I promise you that. I am here. I can sit with you, beside you. I am not afraid of the dark or the light. I will show up for you and with you. It's okay. I am fine. You will be fine too. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd # #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #iwillbethere #iwillsitwithyou #iamadvsurvivior #iamfine #spirtuality #healingispossible #growth

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Who you are matters. But what matters even more is how you see yourself. How do you see yourself? Who you are? Your sense of your own worth and value. It is absolutely imperative that you believe in yourself. When you believe in yourself and you have self esteem, self respect and self love, you will be able to see the red flags. You will be willing to walk away from toxic situations and people. Life doesn't feel as overwhelming. Having the ability to believe you are lovable, that you are a good person is necessary to have healthy relationships. It's not that no one will love you if you don't love yourself, it's that you won't let them. That's when the toxic and self sabotaging behavior comes in to play. It's possible to heal with someone. Or to heal alone. People come into our lifes for many reasons. I found love again. It was something I wanted. But not everyone does. And that's okay too. The key here is about choice. And self. It's your choice. It's your life. Do what makes yourself happy. You deserve to be happy and loved and respected. That starts with yourself. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd #dvcycles #menarevictimstoo #takeastand #whatdoesntkillyoumakesyoustronger #compassion #survival #staystrong #endvictimblaiming # #emotionalabuse #sexualabuse #empowering #triggers #takeastand #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #selflove #myjourney #selfrespect

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πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ Need help with a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)? We are at the Victorville Courthouse every Friday. Contact our office during regular business hours for more information at (760) 955-8010. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ #TRO #findyourselfandyouwin #youarenotalone #youdeservebetter #loveyourself #loveisnotabuse #domesticviolence #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #abusecanimpactanyone #loveyourself #knowyourvalue #nurtureyourself #yourenotalone #breakthecycle #domesticviolence #LGBTQabuse #menarevictimstoo #loveshouldnthurt #toxicrelationships #gaslighting #narcissist #recoveryfromanarcissist

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If I have learned anything it is to listen to my inner voice. I have always been very intuitive but somewhere along the way I stopped listening to myself. I didn't want to hear the truth. I knew my marriage was toxic. I knew my husband was abusive and I didn't deserve to be treated the way he treated me. I just didn't want to believe it. I wanted him to love me the way I loved him. I was so in love with him and our family was my everything. I couldn't accept that he didn't care. So I stopped listening to my inner voice. I tried to convince myself that things weren't really that bad. That he must love me, after all he was still with me. He said he loved me. He didn't act like he loved me, well occasionally and somehow I convinced myself that was enough. Until it wasn't. Until I had no choice but to listen to my inner voice. I heard loud and clear "Get Out!" And I did. (Obviously not as simple as that) but I learned to listen to myself even if I don't like what I hear. #whywomendontleave #domesticabuse #complexptsd #domesticviolence #dv #violenceagainstwomen #narcissist #ptsd # #survival #staystrong #selfcare #selflove #myjourney #mylife #lifelessons #whyistayed #ptsdsurvivor #financialviolenceagainstwomen #menarevictimstoo #mentalhealth #intuition #innervoice #listentoyourself #thetruth #awareness

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