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⁠ "I do it BY MYSELF!" Allow toddlers to do what they feel able to do. This is how they learn. ...Maria Montessori said "Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed." Children want to learn to do things themselves, they are figuring out how you do things, and how they can do things, and having someone swoop in to help them as they grapple with a task can really stop them being allowed to solve a problem themselves. If they know that you will help them when they ask then they will ask if they want help. Being available for them is all they need, and what you see as stubborness now, that is the seedling of strong willed independence and determination!⁠ ...⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ ...⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #toddlerplay #playtime #playroom #playbasedlearning #playislearning #playhard #playtolearn #playathome #montessori #playgroup #playmatters #playdate #montessoriathome #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife

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Toddler Behaviour Workshop "The behaviour workshop has given me great tools & information to understand my toddler's behaviour & needs."⁠ ⁠ Battling toddler tantrums, hitting, biting, throwing, or other difficult behaviour? ⁠ ...⁠ Our 4 hour Toddler Behaviour Workshop (suitable for parents of children aged 1 - 4 years old) will help you to understand your toddler’s brain development and how this affects their behaviour, emotions and relationships. ⁠ ⁠ If you're struggling with your toddler's behaviour and aren't sure how best to manage it, this workshop will give you some new ideas.⁠ ...⁠ We'll help you to understand:⁠ 🧠Your toddler's brain development and why they behave the way they do⁠ 🕊️The effects that different parenting approaches can have on toddler behaviour⁠ 🛠️ Helpful tips and techniques for managing tricky situations ⁠ ✅Frameworks that support you in creating your own solutions for parenting⁠ ...⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ ...⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife #emotionalcontainment #toddlertantrums #tantrums #naughtytoddler #terribletwos #tantrum #toddlers #threenager #toddlermom #toddlerproblems #toddlermum #cahms #childhoodmentalhealth #emotionaldevelopment⁠ ⁠

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"Using a dummy at night can reduce the risk of SIDS and is recommended for formula fed babies in particular." Emily Fackrell⠀⁠ ...⠀⁠ It isn't known why a dummy may help reduce the chance of SIDS. The problem with reducing the risk of SIDS is that because it is an unexplained death, it is largely impossible to tell how factors protect against it. There has, however, been observed a correlation between dummy use and not experiencing SIDS.⠀⁠ ...⠀⁠ If you are going to offer a dummy the general advice is to wait until 4 weeks old and breastfeeding, if that is how you are feeding, is well established as dummies can reduce our ability to pick up on feeding cues and can encourage babies to do their non-nutritive (comfort) sucking on a dummy, but that sucking is important to building your milk supply. It is recommended that you offer it at all sleep times, both day and night to become a consistent part of their sleep rituals, and for the best protection against SIDS.⠀⁠ If your child doesn't take the dummy willingly, don;t force it, and don't put the dummy back in if they push it out whilst asleep. NEVER use a neck cord!⠀⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #wearallthebabies #motherhood⠀⁠ #mumlife #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife⠀⁠ #sleeptraining #sleep #newborn #sleeptips #parenting #newborncare #babylove #babysleep #sleepdeprived #parentingtips #sleephelp ⠀⁠ #sidsawareness #infantlossawareness #infantloss

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip Tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ Today I'm looking at those pesky chest straps! ⁠ ⁠ If you have your baby in a front carry it can be really tricky to reach behind you and do up your chest strap, often they end up being very high on your neck and pulling uncomfortably. So we show you one way of avoiding the challenge and clipping the chest strap before you put your baby in.⁠ ⁠ If you would like to see this as part of a full tutorial for putting a baby in this sling (Tula Explore) then check out our YouTube channel (Link in bio).⁠ ⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips#slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2020baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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"Children do not need us to shape them; they need us to respond to who they are." Naomi Aldort⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time! ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ Our job as parents is simpler than we make it sometimes. Our kids are people. We don't have to teach them to be people.! They have interests and emotions, they need us to share their interests, and respond to their emotions and their needs. They learn so much from how we respond to them, not because we are teaching them but because we are modelling behaviour, relationships, communication, kindness and so much more. ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ ⁣.⁣⁠ ⁣.⁣⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #calmfamily #childism #endchildism #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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"The learning organisation - where people continually expand their capacity to create the results they truly desire, where new and expansive patterns of thinking are nurtured, where collective aspiration is set free, and where people are continually learning to learn together." P. Senge⁠ ⁠ This is what we strive to be, a community based on nurturing all our members and encouraging them to push themselves outside their comfort zone, and to work together, supporting each other, knowing that we all have their backs, whilst they develop their own skills and in so doing develop our community.⁠ ...⠀⁠ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain and development of babies and toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #community #strongertogether #ittakesavillage #zoneofproximaldevelopment #comfortzone #learningorganisation #learningorganization

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"Notice effort over achievment."⁠ Always focus their attention on effort and not outcome: “I noticed how hard you had to work to climb up that slide”, not “Well done for getting to the top”.⁠ ...⁠ If you praise outcome then you incentivise children to keep doing the things they can do easily to get a quick praise reward. You don't encourage them to try challenging things and to learn new skills. For that you need to focus on recognising the effort they put in.⁠ ...⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ ...⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #toddlerplay #playtime #playroom #playbasedlearning #playislearning #playhard #playtolearn #playathome #montessori #playgroup #playmatters #playdate #montessoriathome #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife

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Antenatal Calming Workshop: "I've learned the difference between the womb & the outside world, & how my baby will feel transitioning between them. I hadn't even thought about this, but it's given me an extra understanding of why my baby might be unsettled or distressed once born. I've learned ways to calm our baby like using swaddles, & slings."⁠ ⁠ Our consultants' feedback really speaks for itself.⁠ ⁠ Expecting a baby and unsure what to expect? Our Antenatal Workshop (suitable at any point in pregnancy) is different to all of the other pregnancy classes you’ll see advertised – because our class looks at what you can expect once you’re at home with your baby. ⁠ ⁠ Our 3 hour workshop will help you to understand:⁠ ⁠ • Why babies cry and how to calm them⁠ • Why babies sleep the way they do and how you can help them to sleep a little more⁠ ⁠ ... ⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your baby’s physiological and brain development can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ … ⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence-based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio!⁠ ...⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #motherhood⁠ ⁠ #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #bumpstyle #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #pregnantlife #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife⁠ #sleep #sleeptips #pregnant #babysleep #parentingtips #fourthtrimester #sleephelp #4thtrimester #bonding #4thtri #mamatobe #newborn #newbaby #antenatalclass #antenatal⁠

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Comforters are known as "transitional objects" they are supposed to help babies rely less on parents and caregivers to settle themselves by replicating some of the things they get from us when we settle them to sleep. These include smelling of the parent, soft gentle touch (babies that stroke comfroters against their skin replicate gentle touch, and giving them something to suck. Research has shown that babies attach more easily to items that are "loosely person shaped", which was taken to mean has a head and 4 limbs, so can refer to many animal toys too. We stock Cuskiboos, because bamboo has antibacterial properties, which is great for something which babies like to suck on. They also take on scents well: it is advised that parents tuck a comforter into their top or sleep with one in their bed so it takes on their familiar smell, and have another one that has already been scent-loaded with their baby to encourage them to think you are nearby, having a 3rd one is ideal so you can have one in the wash too! Cuskiboo are easy to wash as they contain no stuffing that can get baby sick trapped in it and be hard to wash out. Miniboos are the only comforter that has passes NHS NICU protocol as safe for use with very fragile babies. If your baby has already picked a comfort object there is no need to swap it as long as you are happy that they are safe. Does your baby have a comforter?⁠ ⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #wearallthebabies #babywearing #babywrap #motherhood#parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ "A ring sling can be grat for carrying after a C-section birth. It keeps baby high away from incision, and has no waistband or low tied knots."⁠ We have a great article on carrying after a Caesarean birth on our website. If you need some advice, you can always get in touch by phone, email, or facebook page message and we will be happy to help. ⁠ ⁣⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips #caesareanbirth#slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2019baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting #csection #csectionmama

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"Empathizing with children during a tantrum is not rewarding behaviour; it's meeting a need, the need for connection and understanding." Rebecca Eanes⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time! ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ This is so true. It is easy to forget that when toddlers are having a tantrum, they aren't happy. They aren't doing it just to upset or embarass us. We have so many feelings going on when we see our toddler screaming and crying, especially in public that it can be really hard to see it for what it is. A small child who doesn't have very much control in life, really struggling with a situation. Empathizing, naming the big emotions they are feeling "anger", "sadness", "confusion" can help them to understand their feelings. Holding them and listening to them, helps them to process their emotions, and helps them to connect with you. The good news is that this can also help tantrums end sooner, and help your children learn ways to deal with their emotions for the future. ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ If we find their emotions hard to deal with, with all of our understanding, imagine how hard they must be finding it.⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ Can you make an effort to see tantrums as your child struggling? Or try to respond with calm and connection. It is not always easy, and we won't always succeed, It can make hard situations easier for both you and your child though.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #calmfamily #tantrums #badbehaviour #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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Happy Mother’s Day to each and every one of you. To all mother figures. However that looks for you and your circumstances. Mothering hard on the daily. Working through the every day moments. Showing up. In spite of all your own struggles. There for it all. The tears. The cuddles. The dribbly noses. The grazed knees. The magic kisses. The soggy school runs. The quiet moments. The loud ones too. The big adventures. And small every day moments of joy. Times are hard right now. I salute you all. For doing your best. Working through your own emotions and supporting theirs too. And showing up even when we ourselves are scared and unsure of the world right now. If no one has told you today. You are enough. You are their everything. And you are doing great. Thought I would share some of my fave and random pics today that may normally go unseen. This is my motherhood. The everyday pictures make up the big picture, some which will be their most treasured memories. Because it’s the small things we remember after all. Most often, moments of connection and joy. I would love you to share your special every day pictures too. Add a picture to your grid and tag with #motheringhard Let’s celebrate each other in these tricky times. We may not be able to see each other face to face right now as we normally would. But the village is very much alive online. Don’t underestimate it. There is so much solidarity that comes from it. Sending love to you all 🖤

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"As a parent our multiple focus on short term and long term goals, as well as enjoying our children, creates a tough and exhausting relationship." Emily Fackrell.⁠ ⁠ This time is hard. It may also be valuable and rewarding and magical (some of the time, at least) but that really doesn't make it easy. We are trying to raise our children to be amazing adults, (long term goals), get through the day (short term goals) and attempting to cherish moments along the way too. Sometimes all these aims seem to conflict, and we constantly have to weigh up one goal against another in the moment. It is exhausting! But you are doing it, and you are almost certainly doing it better than you give yourself credit for. You are not the only one struggling. If instagram doesn't show you people finding parenting hard, then you are being fooled by the social media filter! Find some real life parenting accounts that recognise the challenges as well as the magical moments!⁠ ⁠ ...⠀⁠ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain and development of babies and toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #thehappynow #motherhoodquotes #empoweringquotes

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Scared of how to home educate? You don’t have to. They will be maxed out learning what happens when everything in life becomes unpredictable. Let all formal learning go unless they ask for it. Focus on connection and find a new rhythm to your life that provides simple comfort. Let them play, let them rest, figure out together if there is anything you can do for others. These will all be lessons enough. Honestly just keep everything sane at home and try to chill.⁠ ⁠ ...⁠ CalmFamily is an education community. It is a wonderful combination of a social enterprise and a collaborative learning organisation, that provides a cascade of education that aims to change society through supporting calmer relationships with children. We are a family.⁠ ...⁠ We use the scientific evidence of how humans develop, behave and interact to create education and support programmes, delivered by consultants (who we train to a high standard), to empower people to have empathy for one another and treat each other as equals. We describe this as enabling people to have a calmer relationships. We act as a community of professionals, providing education and support online and in local communities across the UK and internationally.⁠ ...⁠ Our consultants are trained to offer bespoke education and support in one or more age ranges, and to deliver our group workshops and courses that form our parenting programmes: BirthCalm, BabyCalm and ToddlerCalm. There are more in development.⁠ ...⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #parenthood #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #parentingcoach #parenting #parenting101 #positiveparenting #covid19 #coronavirus #homeed #schoolsclosed #keepswimming #perfectisbullshit

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"Intrinsically motivated people don't rely on other people's opinions to feel like they are valuable, important human beings."When we encourage our children to perform for praise and reward we perpetuate the culture of external motivation- basically doing things to get a reward, whther that is praise or a pay rise. The problem is its like a drug, we need more and more praise, more and more money to keep us willing to keep doing things, and when we don't get recognition, or "fail" we can be utterly brutal to ourselves. Once in a while offering a chocolate button to get your toddler back in the pushchair so you can safely get everyone home isn't going to do irreparable damage, but, if what you want is a child whose confidence lies in their own inner belief in their value, not because of what they do, but simply for who they are, then think about supporting them to be intrinsically motivated. How? Check out our blog from back in May about "Top Tips for Using Praise Effectively" link to our community blog in our bio.⁠ ⁠ ...⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife #emotionalcontainment #toddlertantrums #rewardcharts #naughtytoddler #terribletwos #tantrum #toddlers #threenager #toddlermom #toddlerproblems #toddlermum #intrinsicmotivation #calmfamilyfriday #childhoodmentalhealth #emotionaldevelopment

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#Repost @calmfamilycic with @get_repost ・・・ Our children will learn a lot, but not through us scheduling and teaching them. They will learn much from how we behave, what we tell them, how we manage ourselves and this crisis. That doesn't mean we have to be "perfect" (a word that goes in my bullshit zone).⁠ ⁠ You are scared. Good. That's normal. At the very least, your current reality is quite different from what you expected and are used to. Most people are in real fear. That is a completely normal human response to this situation. It is ok. Your children are allowed to know that it is normal to be scared. They need you not to bullshit them, or try to be something else. They need you to show them how we, with big adult brains, deal with fear and care for ourselves and others. They need to know it is safe to feel, and what to do next.⁠ ⁠ If you don't know what to do next, head over to the CalmFamily support hub where we are sharing tons right now for free.⁠ ⁠ ...⁠ CalmFamily is a social enterprise providing education and support to families with an evidence-focused, empowering approach. We use neurological psychology to understand humans really well, including specialist understanding of brain development. We really truly understand parents and children, and we seek to give you the best evidence to make your own decisions for your families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, follow our stuff and join our groups. We have consultants across the UK and further afield, and all over social media who can support you.⁠ ⠀⁠ #covid19 #itsoktobescared #fearisnormal #community #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #childcalm #nurturecalm #teencalm #neurocalm #slinggeeks #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions

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Our children will learn a lot, but not through us scheduling and teaching them. They will learn much from how we behave, what we tell them, how we manage ourselves and this crisis. That doesn't mean we have to be "perfect" (a word that goes in my bullshit zone).⁠ ⁠ You are scared. Good. That's normal. At the very least, your current reality is quite different from what you expected and are used to. Most people are in real fear. That is a completely normal human response to this situation. It is ok. Your children are allowed to know that it is normal to be scared. They need you not to bullshit them, or try to be something else. They need you to show them how we, with big adult brains, deal with fear and care for ourselves and others. They need to know it is safe to feel, and what to do next.⁠ ⁠ If you don't know what to do next, head over to the CalmFamily support hub where we are sharing tons right now for free.⁠ ⁠ ...⁠ CalmFamily is a social enterprise providing education and support to families with an evidence-focused, empowering approach. We use neurological psychology to understand humans really well, including specialist understanding of brain development. We really truly understand parents and children, and we seek to give you the best evidence to make your own decisions for your families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, follow our stuff and join our groups. We have consultants across the UK and further afield, and all over social media who can support you.⁠ ⠀⁠ #covid19 #itsoktobescared #fearisnormal #community #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #childcalm #nurturecalm #teencalm #neurocalm #slinggeeks #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions

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What is it like in the womb before your baby arrives?⁠ Warm, wet, dim, constant white noise and movement, always having your nutrition provided, contained and held.⁠ What is the world like when your baby arrives?⁠ Too bright or too dark, air on their skin, big changes in temperature, too noisy or too quiet, lying down not moving, sudden feelings of hunger and so much space.⁠ ⁠ The difference in environment is a huge shock to the system for your baby. The world of the womb and the world outside can be poles apart - is it any wonder that your baby gets upset at seemingly 'strange' things?⁠ ⁠ Keeping your babies environment womb like can help them adjust to this new world more gently. Carry them, keep feeding on cue, use white noise to recreate the constant noise of your heartbeat, keep them warm and snug and contained and you might find it a calmer experience for everyone.⁠ ⁠ ... ⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your baby’s physiological and brain development can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ … ⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence-based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio!⁠ ...⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #motherhood⁠ ⁠ #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife⁠ #sleep #sleeptips #parenting #babysleep #parentingtips #fourthtrimester #sleephelp #4thtrimester #bonding #4thtri #newmama #newborn #newbaby #newbornbaby #sleepthief⁠

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ Do you have a nosey baby? Lots of babies get to a stage where they want to see more of the world, and there are lots of ways to deal with that, but one of our favourites is a hip carry. You can do a hipcarry in a lot of carriers, woven and stretchy wraps, ring slings, and many buckle carriers. My personal favourite buckle carrier for a Hip Carry, though is the Scootababy, because it is exactly what it was designed for. (You can also front and back carry with the Scootababy.)It is perfect from around 4 months old, really fast to put on, and really comfy! It is fantastic for people with reduced mobility in an arm too- check out our YouTube channel for videos on how to use it with a Frozen Shoulder.⁠ ⁠ If you'd like to see this video in real time with full subtitles check out our YouTube channel. (link in bio)⁠ ⁠ #weartherainbow #frozenshoulder @slumberroo #nosybaby#slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips#slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2020baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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Got to love a bit of sarcasm for our #motivationmonday to see us through the week.⁠ ⁠ "Everybody knows how to raise children, except people who have them!" P. J. O'Rourke⁠ ⁠ It is so true though. I mean I knew a lot more about parenting my children when I didn't have any and all issues were only hypothetical. Those hypothetical children were much more biddable, and a lot less human than the real bundles of love, wildness, joy, anger, wonder and fun that I have ended up with. Whilst sometimes I do long for convenient children, I wouldn't swap these creative critters for the world!⁠ ⁠ So, this week, remember, everyone who gives you looks that say "my kids will never do...", or offers unwanted advice or unasked for opinions, they either haven't had kids, or don't remember being in the situation, so just keep on.⁠ ⁠ My very favourite interactions with people are when I'm in the supermarket, both kids are tired and angry, and you make eye contact with those strangers, usually much older and they grin at you, and you know they remember, and that they're rooting for you. Ignore the expertise of hypothetical parenting gurus, and live your life, the hard bits and the bits where you look like the divine deity of the parenting magazines!⁠ ⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified#mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #instamum #calmfamily #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #restinourlove #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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"Give a little control back. Having choices helps children (people) stay calmer. This includes meals times, bed times and play time." Emily Fackrell⁠ ...⁠ Control or choice is the first stage of the CRUCIAL framework we apply in ToddlerCalm to consider how we can optimise ANY situation for calmer toddlers and parents!⁠ ...⁠ Everyone copes better when they have some feeling of control over their lives. Whether that is the control of, which of the foods on the table to eat, or how much of them, which toys to play with, which story to listen to or pyjamas to wear, which shape pasta to buy in the supermarket. We grown ups take having the option to have marmalade on our toast, rather than marmite, for granted, but often don't offer our toddlers the same range of choices that can make a huge difference to how happy and listened to we feel!⁠ ,...⁠ ...⠀⁠ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain and development of babies and toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #crucialframework #crucial #toddlereating #toddlerbedtime #bedtime #naptime #sleeping

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Tossing & turning at night? Can't get your brain to switch off so you can drift off? It's one of the most frustrating situations! What helps you get to sleep? Calming music, a warm bath, or a chapter of a good book? I bet none of you thought "having someone lie tensely next to me muttering "For goodness sake will you just **** sleep!" I can get myself stressed enough about not sleeping without needing someone else to have a go at me. Yet when our kids don't sleep, we can get really stressed, & we pass that on to them. It's a protective instinct telling them there may be danger & they need to be alert in case we have to run! "When we're focussed on the end goal of sleeping children, we often sacrifice a lot of our gentleness, respect & patience. This in turn doesn't help our children relax!" Stress during bedtime is really counterproductive, so how can we avoid it? Our blog "Bedtime Battles & Bad Babies" by Jenni from @itsaslingthing and CalmFamily Bolton and Chorley from May 2019 gives more ideas.⁠ ⁠ Struggling with a toddler who doesn't sleep? Check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant. Our 3 hour Toddler Sleep Workshop may help if you have a toddler who thinks bedtime is for babies, who is up in the night, or isn't showing any signs of self-settling. ⁠ ...⁠ We'll help you understand: ⁠ 🧠Your toddler's brain development & its effects on sleep, 🤝The effects different parenting approaches can have on sleep behaviour ✅Helpful tips & techniques for tricky sleep situations 🛠️Frameworks for you to create your own solutions to help your toddler sleep⁠ ⁠ ... ⁠ #toddlercalm #calmfamily #sleeptraining #sleep #newborn #sleeptips #parenting #motherhood #newborncare #babylove #babysleep #sleepdeprived #toddlersleep #toddlerlife #parent #parentingtips #parentingquote #sleepcoaching #sleephelp #sleepconsultant #babywearing#parenthood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #responsiveparenting⁠ ⁠

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Preparing to Parent: "Our consultant was on hand after baby was here to answer any questions I had and I felt much more knowledgable about helping baby get used to our world and the changes that they go through after delivery."⁠ ⁠ Our consultants' feedback speaks for itself!⁠ Expecting a baby and unsure what toexpect? Our Antenatal Workshop (suitable at any point in pregnancy) is different to all of the other pregnancy classes you’ll see advertised – because our class looks at what you can expect once you’re at home with your baby. ⁠ ⁠ Our 3 hour workshop will help you to understand:⁠ ⁠ • Why babies cry and how to calm them⁠ • Why babies sleep the way they do and how you can help them to sleep a little more⁠ ⁠ ... ⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your baby’s physiological and brain development can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ … ⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence-based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio!⁠ ...⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #motherhood⁠ ⁠ #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #bumpstyle #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #pregnantlife #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife⁠ #sleep #sleeptips #pregnant #babysleep #parentingtips #fourthtrimester #sleephelp #4thtrimester #bonding #4thtri #mamatobe #newborn #newbaby #antenatalclass #antenatal⁠

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"Using a dummy at night can reduce the risk of SIDS and is recommended for formula fed babies in particular.*"⁠ ⁠ Between around 4 weeks (if trying to establish breastfeeding) and 6-12 months it is thought that using a dummy for night time sleeping can help to reduce the risk of SIDS when given regularly at sleep times, but it is not known how it helps. Specifically this seems to be that if your baby usually has a dummy whilst sleeping then not having a dummy for a sleep increases their risk of SIDS. (check out @basis_babysleepinfosource for more information)⁠ ⁠ If your baby does not take to a dummy then there is no need to force them, and it is never advised to put anything sweet on a dummy to encourage a baby to take a dummy. ⁠ ⁠ (*Dummies are less strongly recommended for breastfed or combination fed babies because breastfeeding corresponds with a reduced risk of SIDS and dummy use may interfere with recognition of feeding cues- NCT @nct summary of research "Do dummies help prevent SIDS?")⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #dummies #dummy #newborn #sleeptips #breastfeedingmama #motherhood #newborncare #babylove #babysleep #sleepdeprived #toddlersleep #toddlerlife #parent #parentingtips #parentingquote #sleepcoaching #sleephelp #pacifier #SIDS#parenthood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #motheringhard #bottlefeeding #calmparenting #cotdeath

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ "A baby's focus is the distance from your chest, where the slings holds them, to your eyes."⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ Babies are hardwired to learn from you, they study and copy your facial expressions. Fro the moment of birth babies will stickout their tongue when a parent holds them and sticks their tongue out. Being held in arms or in a sling gives them the closeness to be able to watch you at the ideal distance, to really take in your expressions, to communicate, and for you to be close and attentive so you learn to read their communications too.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ Ask me any sling related queries and I will answer them and make a tip Tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁣⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2020baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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"Babies cannot and do not manipulate. They communicate. Listen." L. R. Knost⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time! ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ From day one new parents often hear "you can't pick them up everytime they cry," "you're making a rod for your own back," "they'll have you wrapped around their little finger."⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ Think about these statements. All of them have underlying them the idea that your baby is manipulating you. They aren't. When your baby cries they are communicating. When you baby roots and wriggles, stretches, and turns their head from side to side, they are communicating. We have lost the art of reading babies' cues because for many new parents this is the first time they have really encountered a newborn! ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ Your baby is trying to communicate when they are hungry, when they don't feel safe, when they are in pain. They are not trying to manipulate you. They don't have theory of mind. They don't realise you are a person who can be influenced in that way. They are expressing their needs. ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ If you pay attention you will start to learn your baby's cues, Know what they need before they are upset, and be able to communicate with them. It isn't making a rod for your own back, it is parenting.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ ⁣.⁣⁠ ⁣.⁣⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #calmfamily #babycommunication #wrappedaroundherlittlefinger #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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"Be gentle with yourself. Be gentle with your children. The parenting relationship is tough to navigate - for you both. It takes compassion, acceptance, love, modesty, empathy and reciprocity. ⁠ You will never be perfect, this does not exist. But you can always try to be calmer."Emily Fackrell⁠ ⁠ You do not have to be perfect. You cannot be perfect. But calmer is something we can aim for, and it happens most easily when we recognise both our struggles and those of our children and we respond compassionately to ourselves and to our children.⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ...⠀⁠ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain and development of babies and toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #thehappynow #motherhoodquotes #empoweringquotes

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Model self-praise: “I’m so proud of myself for cooking this dinner. I didn’t know if I’d have the time or energy, but I’m so glad now that I decided to go for it” Sound daft to you? Why? ⁠ ...⁠ Because we mostly aren't used to valuing ourselves, to appreciating what we do, we rely on other people to validate us, and so we can end up needily seeking other people's approval for our actions. This is one of the number one things I would change about people. Giving them the confidence to decide for themselves that they are enough, that what they have done is good, that their contribution is valuable. How do we change that? Well, in adults it is probably therapy, probably erally conscious use of affirmations to promote our positive self image, but for kids. Well, for kids it is dead easy! All they need is TO SEE AND HEAR YOU DOING IT. That's right, it is good old modelling again, a nice bit of 'monkey see, monkey do'. If kids hear you saying "I am good at cooking" "I am proud of myself for making this dinner" or "I tried really hard at Tennis today and really enjoyed myself, go me!" then THEY will learn to do the same, and praise their own effort, their own achievments and to value them themselves! ⁠ ...⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ ...⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio!⁠ ⁠ #selfloveclub #womenquotes #goodvibrations #positiveliving #motivational #empowering #positiveparenting #intrinsicmotivation #selfpraise⁠ #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife #monkeyseemonkeydo #emotionaldevelopment #healthykids #modellingbehaviour #selflove

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Cycle tracking has changed up so much for me and my life. This week I’ve been leaning in and listening to my body. Slowing down. Sleeping when I need to. Planning for days when I know I may not be my perky old self. Like my day 16 for example, oh man that transition to luteal phase is a bitch. The estrogen drops and I am done. Previously I would have gone in to crisis (quite literally) on this day each month with no awareness of what the fuck was going on. Now I see that cheeky little bastard coming up in the distance and I have my battleships at the ready. And communications rehearsed for those in my path so that I can either gain support...or give them a heads up to get out of my way 😉 Are you tracking? If so, what’s your transition to second half of your cycle like?

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Toddler Behaviour Workshop: "Our consultant was lovely & knowledgable & made us feel we could be honest about our personal experience of parenting so we were able to express anxieties & fears."⁠ ...⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⁠ ...⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife #emotionalcontainment #toddlertantrums #tantrums #naughtytoddler #terribletwos #tantrum #toddlers #threenager #toddlermom #toddlerproblems #toddlermum #cahms #childhoodmentalhealth #emotionaldevelopment

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"Involve your baby in family mealtimes to normalise the way we eat together."⁠ ⁠ It isn't just the mechanics of eating that babies need to learn when they are weaning. Whilst getting food into their mouths, or spearing broccoli with a fork takes a lot of focus for a small person, they also learn a lot of social norms, how we relate to each other when we eat, what our family culture is around mealtimes, and how, as a society we often use food to bring us together. They will learn about serving food, portion sizes, what we eat with ours hands and what we use cutlery to eat. There is so much more to eating than just, well, eating.⁠ Wondering about weaning and what route to take?⁠ Our weaning workshop looks at why the guidelines exist. You'll find out about the different approaches to weaning and get practical information about weaning your baby.⁠ ... ⁠ The 3 hour Weaning Workshop (suitable for all parents who are thinking about weaning) introduces different approaches to weaning (sometimes called various names such as baby-led or traditional) and the science behind infant nutrition, this workshop will help you understand each approach and help you get started. ⁠ ... ⁠ We’ll help you to understand: ⁠ 🔞Why the weaning age guideline exists⁠ 🥕How to know when your baby is ready for solids⁠ 👩🏿‍🔬The science behind introducing solid food (weaning)⁠ 🥘The practicalities of weaning in a baby-led way ⁠ 🍫The effect that methods of weaning can have on a child’s eating habits, even into adulthood⁠ ...⁠ (This workshop is not offered by all BabyCalm teachers.)⁠ ...⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #weaning #babyfood #motherhood⠀⁠ #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #babyledweaning #startingsolids #firstfoods #healthybabyfood #healthykids #homemadebabyfood #weaningideas #babyfoodideas #babyfeeding #feedingbaby #blw⁠

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A bit of fun to get you over the midweek hump! I’ll go first... In the night garden 😳

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ... ⁠ "Faceplanting", when a baby rests their head face on your chest, rather than turning their head to one side, in a sling isn't usually a cause for concern. The nose is shaped to still allow airflow when we have pressure on our nose- try pressing your nose against the flat palm of your hand- you can still breathe.⁠ ... ⁠ We need to be aware to make sure they are positioned away from breasts, higher on the flat of our chest, that there are no objects such as scarves, or cowl necks that could pose a suffocation risk, and to make sure that the fabric of the sling is not encouraging their chin onto their chest.⁠ ... ⁠ So, if you have a faceplanter, don't worry! You know what to look for to keep them safe.⁠ .. ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2019baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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"What is best for the child is not always what is most convenient for the parent." Bonnie Bedford⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time! ⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ I don't know if you have noticed this, but kids aren't always convenient. 😜 OK, that is an understatement. Kids need connection, sometimes they need it most when we are rushing to get somewhere. Usually because they don;t understand the rush, thedesination or the reason we are going there. Kids need to make a mess, they need to tip everything out of a box and put things in and out of jars. They need to explore and experiment. A lot of the ways that toddlers learn are through schemas. They are working on ways of understanding the world and that can look pretty chaotic. @Calmfamilycic ToddlerCalm training gave me a much better understanding of how children work through schemas in their play and their learning (which is what play is after all!) Children's behaviour can seem so much less frustrating when we understand it!💡⁣⁠ .⁣⁠ ❤️Also, remember, we are always doing our best. Sometimes our best invovles balancing the needs of our children again our needs and the practical needs of being a family. We may not always pick what is the best thing for our child in that moment, because we really do need to get more food from the supermarket, and that is OK. We can do what we need to do as gently as possible, explaining why we are doing it, and giving them as much preparation time as we can. Life is about balance. We aren't perfect, but we are perfectly good enough.❤️⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #calmfamily #playschemas #schemas #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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My littlest still fits in her cot, but won't for much longer. I don't think I'll ever be ready for her transition into a 'big girl's' bed. It seems like only a moment ago, she would sleep in my arms... why do little ones grow up so quickly? 😔 . . #hypnobirthing #mums #ukmums #mamalove #newborn #babies #kids #motheringhard #mothering #lifeasanewmum #lifeasamum #littleones #mamatobe2020 #girlgang #antenatal #birthisbeautiful #momtobe

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I never appreciated this saying until I had Maggie but it has become a pretty important reminder to stop and appreciate small moments over the last 18 months. (Before that I hadn’t slept for more than 90 minutes at a time since Maggie was born so I didn’t really appreciate anything!) - There were days during my maternity leave that seemed to last an eternity but now that Maggie is three, I can’t quite believe how quickly the time has gone. I am getting better at the cliché of living in the moment but I still struggle with the disruption that comes with a small child. It’s almost like she doesn’t care that I have a to-do list... - I have been in a place where an extra day to get through would have felt exhausting. I’m grateful that I’m no longer in that place. It’s impossible to enjoy every moment but I hope, on this leap day you find the time to do something that brings you joy. - #leapday2020 #thedaysarelong #theyearsareshort #parentlifenetwork #dreamersanddoers #createyourhappy #smallbizclub #supportingsmallbusiness #kidsclothingsets #makeitbritish #buyoncebuybetter #repeatoutfit #sustainablekidsclothing #anxietyproblems #mentalhealthadvocate #kitoutyourkids #trueself #positivepsychology #mentalwellness #consciousmind #buildingbold #innerjourney #stayoncourse #onegirlband #berealnotperfect #meettheneed #motheringhard #24bonushours

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Cuddling our toddlers is a completely natural way to help them soothe to sleep." CalmFamily. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Cuddling our toddlers releases oxytocin in them and us, and oxytocin release helps us to relax. Stress inhibits oxytocin release. When we are stressed we produce adrenaline and cortisol which are hormones that create wakefulness (in case we might need to run away from a predator). When we are relaxed the levels of these hormones are low, and our melatonin levels are able to help us get sleepy as it gets dark. If your toddler is gets distressed when they are put into a cot or bed on their own, away from you this makes it harder for them to get to sleep. Cuddles help a child feel safe, they want to know you are there, and feeling you snuggled up to them is reassuring. Oxytocin from cuddles helps us and our toddlers feel less stressed and more relaxed and is a great way to get them to sleep...it is also why we often fall asleep putting them to bed too!⠀⁠ ...⁠ Struggling with a toddler who doesn't sleep?⁠ ...⁠ Our 3 hour Toddler Sleep Workshop (suitable for parents of toddlers aged 1 - 4 years old) looks at what’s normal for toddlers, and helps you to understand why they don’t sleep like us.⁠ ⁠ ...⁠ We'll help you to understand: ⁠ 🧠Your toddler's brain development and how this can affect their sleep⁠ 🤝The effects that different parenting approaches can have on toddler sleep behaviour⁠ ✅Helpful tips and techniques for managing tricky sleep situations ⁠ 🛠️Frameworks to support you in creating your own solutions for helping your toddler sleep⁠ ...⁠ Check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant ⁠ ... ⁠ #toddlercalm #calmfamily #sleeptraining #sleep #newborn #sleeptips #parenting #motherhood #newborncare #babylove #babysleep #sleepdeprived #toddlersleep #toddlerlife #parent #parentingtips #parentingquote #sleepcoaching #sleephelp #sleepconsultant #babywearing#parenthood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #responsiveparenting⁠ ⁠

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"A class full of open discussion. I learnt about babies' natural gag reflex & to trust our babies', & our, natural instincts. I liked how we could try “traditional" baby purée & consider how our babies would experience it."⁠ ⁠ Our consultants' feedback speaks for itself!⁠ ⁠ Wondering about weaning and what route to take?⁠ Our weaning workshop looks at why the guidelines exist. You'll find out about the different approaches to weaning and get practical information about weaning your baby.⁠ ... ⁠ The 3 hour Weaning Workshop (suitable for all parents who are thinking about weaning) introduces different approaches to weaning (sometimes called various names such as baby-led or traditional) and the science behind infant nutrition, this workshop will help you understand each approach and help you get started. ⁠ ... ⁠ We’ll help you to understand: ⁠ 🔞Why the weaning age guideline exists⁠ 🥕How to know when your baby is ready for solids⁠ 👩🏿‍🔬The science behind introducing solid food (weaning)⁠ 🥘The practicalities of weaning in a baby-led way ⁠ 🍫The effect that methods of weaning can have on a child’s eating habits, even into adulthood⁠ ...⁠ (This workshop is not offered by all BabyCalm teachers.)⁠ ...⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #weaning #babyfood #motherhood⠀⁠ #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #babyledweaning #startingsolids #firstfoods #healthybabyfood #healthykids #homemadebabyfood #weaningideas #babyfoodideas #babyfeeding #feedingbaby #blw⁠

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“You can’t eat flowers” What do you actually want people to bring when they come to meet you and the baby?⁠ Many people turn up with flowers and baby blankets and cards and rattly toys. In the weeks after baby is born, visitor after visitor bringing the same lovely (often less than useful) gifts. You haven’t eaten, showered or slept and those flowers need care, you've got a stack of lovely blankets, and they're gorgeous, but how many blankets can a tiny person use? And if anything makes another unexpected noise startling a nearly sleeping baby you may cry, never mind the newborn! So what could they bring?⁠ ⁠ After having had a few babies my plan next time would be to send out invitations (or not) that say “I would love to see you and for you to meet our baby. When you come, please don't bring lovely flowers, gifts and cards as we are overwhelmed. Please bring food we can reheat, your willingness to make some tea or wash up and if you really want to get something for the baby, please take a look at our list of needs here (add list). You could even have a list out of little things that need doing that they can choose from if they want to support you.⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #wearallthebabies #babywearing #babywrap #motherhood#parenthood #newmama #newborn #newbornbaby #meetthebaby #sipandsee #welcomebaby #youcanteatflowers #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ This week we are talking "Making a seat in a ring sling"⁠ ⁠ "Won't they fall out the bottom?" Is something we get asked a lot! Of course, the answer is no, not if you do it right! The trick with a ring sling, which is also the way a Hammock/traditional sling pass works with a woven wrap is to ensure you have a taut straight line of fabric from knee to knee supporting the knees above your child's bottom. When you bring the fabric up their back and tighten it so they are held into you body it make it really difficult for them to fall out because to do so they have to lift their whole body up so that their bottom raises above their knees, and if the sling is snug this is no small challenge.Do you have any ring sling questions?⁠ ⁠ Ask me any sling related queries and I will answer them and make a tip Tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2019baby #mumtobe #ringsling #lennylamb #weartherainbow #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting#slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips ⁠ ⁠

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"Most smiles are started by another smile." Frank A. Clark⁠ ⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time! ⁠ ⁠ If we can spread a smile by smiling, if we can catch a smile from our kids, if we alter their mood by reacting with smiles instead of frustration, then maybe we can fill our little corner of the world with a bit more happiness. And you know what? I feel like that is actually an achieveable goal for the week! ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified#mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #instamum #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #smile #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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MEET THE NEED. I know so many women who are committed attachment parents. They strive to meet the needs of their smalls, sometimes successfully, sometimes less so, but always ultimately re-setting that intention. The needs are often connection, autonomy, freedom to learn, reassurance of safety, unconditional love and acceptance. FAMILIAR?? You see where this is going right? Today, my baby (ok, he’s nearly 4...) has needed me, so I dropped everything else. How quickly would I swoop in for myself? How about you? Do you recognise what you’re after when it’s a whisper, or do you wait until it becomes a scream, by which point it’s difficult to know what support you need? I’m inviting you to find one way, this week, to meet your own needs, something that you wouldn’t normally allow yourself. Report back if you like 👇🏻 Coz I’ll tell you this- if you role model self sacrifice and martyrdom being the characteristics of a “good” adult human, you’re doing those little ones no favours. So in a round about way- if you can’t meet your own needs for you, do it for them 🤗 . #getshiftfaced #getshiftfacedandthrive . 📸 @picturethisbooks at @the_mortgage_mum event this week 💗 . #motheringhard #motheringishard #meettheneed #meetyourneeds #meetyourownneeds #serveyourself #suityourself #pleaseyourself #parentyourself #reparenting #reparentingyourself #chooseyourself #attachmentparenting #loveyourself

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"Calm parenting is activism." Emily Fackrell⁠ ...⁠ Activism doesn't have to mean marching.⁠ ...⁠ Activism doesn't have to mean shouting to make your voice heard in a world that doesn't think the way that you do.⁠ ...⁠ Activism can be quietly, calmly, doing things differently. Being the change. Calm parenting, respecting our children, ending the cycle of childism that tell us that until our children can express themselves coherently and control their emotions in a socially acceptable way, they are not worthy of respect. That is activism. And that WILL change the future, because people who are respected become people who are respectful. People who are loved unconditionally become people who love others regardless of their differences. People who are empathised with go on to empathise with other people.⁠ ...⁠ Can we change the world? ⁠ ...⁠ We can. We will. We are.⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #changetheworld #activism #socialgood #dogood #activist #feminism #feminist #changemakers #bethechange #giveback

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"Play is a biological process as necessary as eating or sleeping." Emily Fackrell⁠ ...⁠ Play is not what kids do when they aren't doing anything play! It is a state of being a state of experimentation, of processing, of reasoning, of manipulating the world, understanding consequences, learning physics, understanding social rules, taking in roles and norms, and parroting them and challenging them and questioning everything to understand and develop. Children's brains are constantly processing new stimuli, new informations, and making sense of them and they do all of this "through play". The great things is mostly our responsibility is to let them do this and make sure they are safe. We don't have to set up games or encourage them to play with something different they are able to direct their play to allow them to learn as efficiently as possible, simply give them space, access to get the objects they want to play with, and ideally some non-prescriptive toys that allow a variety of play scenarios and they will be away- stand back and watch them learn and develop!⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ If you want to learn more about how play can build brains and how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio!⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #toddlerplay #playtime #playroom #playbasedlearning #playislearning #playhard #playtolearn #playathome #montessori #playgroup #playmatters #playdate #montessoriathome #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife

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How often do you hear "I can tell they're ready for food; they're watching you eat!" ? Watching you, mimicing &mirroring you is what babies do! Its how they learn. My baby picked up objects, held them to his ear &chatted into them; he wasn't ready for a mobile phone. Babies watch you drive but they aren't ready for 'L plates' just yet. From birth, when you first try that experiment beloved of parents everywhere, where you stick your tongue out at your baby, & they poke their tongue out back at you, they'll watch what you do & mirror your behaviour. Social animals learn through modelling. However, interest in an activity doesn't reflect an understanding of the activity. Your baby can see you putting objects in your mouth, they don't know its "food", that you're hungry, that you swallow it, that it fills you up, or that you produce enzymes to break down starchy foods they don't produce in sufficient amounts to digest foods until around 6 months. You can't see by looking whether they've sufficient levels of enzymes for starch digestion either. What you can see are the visible standards of weaning readiness: 🍏Baby can sit up without support. 🍌Baby has lost the tongue-thrust reflex and does not automatically push solids out of his mouth with his tongue. 🍆Baby is ready and willing to chew. 🥕Baby is developing a “pincer” grasp, where he picks up food or other objects between thumb and forefinger. Using the fingers and scraping the food into the palm of the hand (palmar grasp) does not substitute for pincer grasp development. 🥝Baby is eager to participate in mealtime and may try to grab food and put it in his mouth. Baby watching you eat doesn't necessarily mean they're ready to eat but they are learning & observing your eating behaviour. ... #babycalm #calmfamily #weaning #babyfood #motherhood⠀ #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #babyledweaning #startingsolids #firstfoods #healthybabyfood #healthykids #homemadebabyfood #weaningideas #babyfoodideas #babyfeeding #feedingbaby #blw

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ This video is designed to help you tighten effectively in a crossed strap carrier, such as a meh dai, an @Integrababy carrier, a @mamarugababy Zensling, a Wompat and many other of our favourite carriers.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ The "rule" of tightening is to move the slack away from your baby and around to your tightening system, which that is a ring, a knot or a buckle. Tightening the strap at the buckle without moving the slack close to the buckle is most likely to make the strap dig in to you, without making it feel that your child is more securely held.⁣⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2020baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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It's #mondaymotivation time! ⁠ "The whole of civilisation depends on the work of mothers." -- Naomi Stadlen ⁠ ⁠ Seriously, this is no understatement. We grow, birth, care for, keep alive, teach language and social behaviour and share the norms and values of the society in which we live with our children. This work we do, though undervalued is the most crucial work there is. You are not "just a mother" you shape the future, you raise the leaders, the carers, the inventors, the dreamers of the next generation, whilst being one of those leaders, dreamers, carers of today. ⁠ ⁠ You are incredible.⁠ ⁠ Do you feel that motherhood is undervalued?⁠ #motivationmonday #mondaymood #mondayblues #keepitreal #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #toddlertantrums #bigemotions #naomistadlen #whatmothersdo #motherhoodthroughinstagram #motheringhard #connectedparenting #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #parentingquote #dailyparenting #parentinglessons #imperfectparents #itsaslingthing⁠ ⁠ .⁠ .⁠ ⁠

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"Having boundaries and limits is not anger or aggression. It is the most profound act of love. Settting and holding them calmly tells the other person you love and respect yourself and are worthy of love and respect. Respecting the other persons' boundaries tells them that you love them enough to meet their needs as well as your own." Emily Fackrell⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Knowing your boundaries, expressing them clearly and keeping to them, with gentleness, but firmness, and not trespassing over the boundaries of other people it the epitome of respect. This goes for adults and children alike. We have to keep our children safe and healthy, but we do not have to force them into situations or do things "to" them that crosses their boundaries. When they trust us to respect their boundaries they are much more likely to agree to do things "with" us.⠀⁠ ...⠀⁠ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain and development of babies and toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #boundaries #selfcareisntselfish #selfrespect #respectisnttaught #earnrespect #showrespect #respectfulparenting

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Want to know how to bring calm to every toddler stress? This Toddler Parenting 6 week course (suitable for parents of toddlers aged 1 - 4 years old) includes all the content from our 4 workshops including managing behaviour, optimising development, managing sleep & eating.  ​.. You’ll come away with an understanding of toddler brain development and why they behave the way they do. We'll also give you tips and techniques to help you calmly manage common toddler issues.  ... We'll help you to understand: 🧠Your toddler's brain development and the effect that this can have on their behaviour and their sleep🛌 🤝The effects that different parenting approaches can have on behaviour and the developing brain 🛠️Frameworks that support parents to create their own toddler strategies 🙃How parenting and play can literally shape toddler's brains for the future and how you can optimise this 🍎Why toddler's eat the way they do and what approaches will improve their relationship with food in the short and long term.  ​... If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running.  ... If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #emotionalcontainment #toddlertantrums #tantrums #terribletwos #threenager #toddlerproblems #toddlermum #playbasedlearning #playislearning #playtolearn #playathome #montessori #playmatters #toddlerapproved #fussytoddler #pickyeater #sleeptraining #sleeptips #sleepdeprived #toddlersleep #sleepcoaching #sleephelp #sleepconsultant  

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Asking baby’s permission (why it isn’t stupid)⁠ ⁠ If you've ever spoken to me and heard how passionate I am about consent in parenting you might not imagine this but I have said it myself. When I first heard about asking a baby’s permission from birth, I giggled. Then I listened. Then I observed others doing it. Then I did it and magic occurred. All humans need recognition and autonomy, even from birth. They need to learn the feeling of safety in knowing that the people around them will always observe them as a human. Whether consciously or not, the connections in the brain form before birth. The ones around permission, consent, respect, recognition and autonomy are not different. Actively asking for, and seeking a response regarding consent will form connections that will not only help them hold their own boundaries in the future, but also to respect yours and others’. ⁠ ⁠ In all things babies learn by modelling. If you want them to respect the "no" of other people, then they need to know that when they say "no" it will be respected.⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #consentbasedparenting #childism #childrensrights #babywearing #babywrap #motherhood #womensupportingwomen #ittakesavillage#parenthood #womenempoweringwomen #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ We are often asked about what carriers are good for your child's hips. Hip Dysplasia (DDH) is a condition in which the hip sockets are shallower than usual which can cause subluxation of the joints. To encourage the sockets to develop into deeper sockets the child isusually encouraged by a harness, or sometimes, later, casts into a position in which the joints are in a stable, flexed and abducted position (on the right) rather than the position on the left which means the weight of the legs hang, pulling the hip joint, and in which the leg is extended and the joint adducted. ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ A carefully positioned baby in an ergonomic sling can help to position your child's hips in the right hand reccommended position, knees are positioned above the hip, avoiding downward pressure on the hip joint.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ (Diagrams from the International Hip Dysplasia Institute. More articles can be found on babywearing and hip dysplasia on their website.)⁣⁠ ⁠ ⁣⁠ ⁣ #hiphealthy #hipdysplasia⁠ ⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2019baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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It's #motivationmonday time!⁠ ⁠ "If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in." ⁠ Rachel Carson⁠ ⁠ Remember it is the first time our children have seen the world. We may be weary of it, but seeing it afresh with our babies and toddlers, watching their wonder, we can regain some of that wonder, and together we can keep that sense of wonder alive, in them and in us!⁠ ⁠ Can you see the world through the eyes of your child at least some of the time this week? Get down to their level, bring them up to your level, gaze, talk, touch and smell and enjoy the wonder of the world anew!⁠ ⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #instamum #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #childlikewonder #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting #itsaslingthing

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Holding my friend's 1 year-old, made me realise my little one isn't that little anymore... I love watching her grow up, but hate that I can't cradle her in my arms anymore. Anyone else feel like that? . . #motherhood #momlife #ukmumsquad #unitedinmotherhood #mummylife #mumanddaughter #mumandson #mamalove #babies #newnorn #lifeasamum #oxytocin #growingupfast❤️ #youllalwaysbemybaby #myheart #mothering #motheringhard . @growupbrite

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"Life doesn’t move in a straight line from A to B. It has twists and turns and ditches and hills (ahem, mountains), and weird little roundabouts and all sorts of opportunities to dive off on tangents. And our children’s journey from fully dependent newborn babies, to proficient and independent adult is no different." Alexandra Harris- CalmFamily Hampshire⁠ ...⁠ All sorts of things may make a child need you more than they did last week, or last month, or last year. Teething can make babies less settled, starting nursery or school can mean children want to snuggle you more at night for comfort whilst they process the huge changes they are going through. These are not regressions, they are not going backwards, they are just using their tried and tested calming techniques to get them through a new challenging situation. Knowing what soothes them and being able to use it when necessary is a precursor to real "self-soothing" behaviour.⁠ ...⠀⁠ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain and development of babies and toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you are passionate about offering judgment free support to families and think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #babycuddles #selfsoothing #onestepforward #onestepforwardtwostepsback

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"Emotional containment is essentially holding onto your child's difficult feelings to help them manage them." CalmFamily Toddlers don't have a developed neocortex- the area of the brain that helps us to understand, reason about and, to some extent, control our emotions. They have huge feelings that they cannot control and they often come out in big displays "tantrums", "hysterics", "strops". It can be very triggering to deal with this display of emotion that is often labelled as bad behaviour or manipulative. But when we name the emotions, empathise with our children, offer them space to feel their feelings with us there, the person that makes them feel safe, they begin to understand and express their emotions and it helps them to learn the language that will one day help them to express how they feel, without the behaviour that feels so hard to deal with. This is containment. Responding with anger is likely to have the effect of making the child fearful of their emotions and associate being sad or angry with feeling less loved. When children feel less safe they may manage to suppress their feelings for a time, but when they do explode out they are even less likely to have learnt understanding or control of them. Take deep breaths. try to see this behaviour as a sign of a child struggling. Try to respond to that struggle with love. ... If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ... If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife #emotionalcontainment #toddlertantrums #tantrums #naughtytoddler #terribletwos #tantrum #toddlers #threenager #toddlermom #toddlerproblems #toddlermum #cahms #childhoodmentalhealth #emotionaldevelopment

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Life with a newborn can be a bit of a shock. Our 3 hour Fourth Trimester (new baby) Workshop looks at newborns' needs and offers frameworks to help you make your life with your newborn calmer and happier. (Suitable for babies aged up to 16 weeks) ... We’ll help you to understand: 🕊️ Why babies cry and how to calm them 💤 Why babies sleep the way they do ❤️ How you can help them to sleep ...  If you want to learn more about how understanding your baby’s physiological and brain development can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running.  …  If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence-based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! ... #babycalm #calmfamily #motherhood  #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #sleep #sleeptips #parenting #babysleep #parentingtips #fourthtrimester #sleephelp #4thtrimester #bonding #4thtri #newmama #newborn #newbaby #newbornbaby #sleepthief

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Human brains are built from the bottom up Human brains are in their final form at birth with more pre-connected pathways (plugs and sockets) in place than will ever be necessary. They just aren’t all “plugged in”. The brain connects from the bottom up and the inside out and is about 25% connected at birth. The connections for survival, homeostasis and threat response is in the brain stem and fully connected at birth. The mid brain responsible for emotions, attachment and basic (non-language) communication, is somewhat connected. This is because mammals require attachment to survive. They needs their parents, and humans in particular are born rather helpless due to our metabolic rate coupled with our brain size and complexity. The neocortex forms last and begins with early language. The neocortex does complex memory storage and recall, logic, reasoning, empathy, manipulation, implications and emotional control, problem solving and creativity. We don’t see true signs of independent neocortex functions until children are at least four years old and the brain is not fully developed until approximately 21 years. Given this, we expect a lot from our children very early on that their brain development is just not able to support. Understanding how our child's brain develops helps us understand their behaviour and modify our expectations of them. If you want to learn more about how understanding your baby can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ... If you're passionate about empowering parents to make evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #calmfamily #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingquotes #babycalm #calmfamily #wearallthebabies #babywearing #babywrap #motherhood #braindevelopment #childdevelopment #parenthood #letthembelittle #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife

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Tens of orders and tiny hands. Time sifting through fingers like freeflowing sand. Packing orders and tickling toes. A beautiful chaos you could call it I suppose. Second time round has been so different so far. Running a business with you, so much fun yet so hard. Guilt ridden moments. Others of joy. I’m doing my best my darling boy. Balancing life between books, clients and poo. My wish is one day you see that all this is for you.

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ #slingtiptuesday #tiptuesday #tuesdaytips ⁠ ⁠ This week I'm talking perfect fit adjusters, a strap some soft structured carriers or buckle carriers carriers have where the panel meets the shoulder strap. They are usually a piece of webbing that can be tightened to shorten the shoulder strap where it meets the panel.⁠ ⁠ The photo on the left shows baby's positioning in this @Tulababycarriers Coast Prance before the perfect fit adjusters are tightened. Their head and upper body do not rest against my chest, there is a space between us. That space, or slack, means that if they fell asleep or relaxed they may slump and there's enough space that their airway could be compromised by the position they move into. ⁠ ⁠ In the right hand picture, the perfect fit adjusters are tightened so that baby's head rests on my chest, which protects their airways as they are unable to slump and their chin cannot collapse onto their chest. ⁠ ⁠ It is also more comfy for me, because with the perfect fit adjusters looser baby's weight pulls away from me and I pull my shoulders and neck back to attempt to bring baby's weight in towards me. When they're tightened their weight is held into my centre of gravity and I can take my natural stance without their weight pulling on me.⁠ ⁠ #perfectfitadjusters #slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #due2020 #mumtobe #tulababycarrier #tulainthewild#mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #uniteinmotherhood #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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There’s a new article on our CalmFamily community blog this evening from Hannah Harding, ToddlerCalm consultant at Growing Oaks education. Have you ever noticed that sometimes your toddler seems to do the most annoying things over, and over and over again? Like tipping out, well anything they can get their hands on; boxes of toys, packets of cereal, the contents of your bag, Or dropping things down the toilet? Well, you will be pleased to know that it isn't because they are hard wired to wind you up! They are exploring schemas- themed ways of "playing" (everything kids do is playing, which makes it sound really unimprtant, IT ISN'T! It is how they learn, ho they form brain connections and it is the most important thing they can do!) that help them understand the world, help them develop brain conections, test theories, adapt hypotheses about what will happen when, understand how objects move, get to grips with gravity. They really are tiny scientists! Read on to learn more about what is going on with your child and how you can help and support them whilst avoiding having to fish things out of the toilet 5 times a day!⁠ ⁠ ⁠ …⠀⁠ Read on to find out ⁠ ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ #calmfamily #trustyourinstincts #womenempoweringwomen #empoweredwomen #mumpreneur #motherhoodrising #motherhoodsimplified #motherhoodjourney #motherhoodmoments #honestmotherhood #motheringhard #calmparenting #motherhoodintheraw #mumblog #parentingtips #toddlerplay #playtime #playbasedlearning #playislearning #playhard #playathome #montessori #playgroup #playmatters #montessoriathome #positiveparenting #mumlife #motherhoodinspired #parentinghard #parentingtheshitoutoflife

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Love this. ♥️ Repost from @itsaslingthing using @RepostRegramApp - "Children must never work for our love, they must rest in it." - Gordon Neufeld⁠ ⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time!⁠ ⁠ The place our kids feel safest is with us, snuggled up, in our arms, knowing we are watching them and playing with them, surrounded by love. They don't understand our other priorities, they are not their priorities. Tiny babies want only to know that you are near and they are safe, that you will respond whenever they need you, and as they grow they learn they can go further away from you whilst still being safely held in your love. We have everything they need, we can do this.⁠ ⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #instamum #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #restinourlove #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting#itsaslingthing

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"Children must never work for our love, they must rest in it." - Gordon Neufeld⁠ ⁠ It's #mondaymotivation time!⁠ ⁠ The place our kids feel safest is with us, snuggled up, in our arms, knowing we are watching them and playing with them, surrounded by love. They don't understand our other priorities, they are not their priorities. Tiny babies want only to know that you are near and they are safe, that you will respond whenever they need you, and as they grow they learn they can go further away from you whilst still being safely held in your love. We have everything they need, we can do this.⁠ ⁠ #mondaymood #mondayblues #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringhard #instamum #mumsofinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #imperfectparents #raisingmytribe #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motherhoodintheraw #restinourlove #mamalove #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #practicalparenting#itsaslingthing

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"Wherever possible respond to the feeling behind the behaviour, not the behaviour itself." Emily Fackrell⠀⁠ ...⠀⁠ Toddler behaviour can look pretty dreadful by society's standards and we know how it feels to be out in a busy place and your toddler just stops being able to cope. They may cry, they may scream, they may stop listening completely, they may grab and snatch or hit. You don't have to allow them to carry on hurting people or damaging things to respond to the feeling. We are not advocating permissive parenting. We are advocating seeing this behaviour as a manifestation of what they are feeling- angry, sad, confused, and responding to that. Trying naming their emotions. Try empathising with them. toddlers live in a world where they have very little control, often very little warning about where they will be taken and what they will do in a day, and they don't have a developed neocortex that allows them to process their emotions like adults. It isn't hard to understand why they struggle to cope. Let them know you understand, let them know you cannot allow them to hurt people, but that you are there if they need a hug. Being calm is more likely to de-escalate the situation than being angry.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ #calmfamily #toddlercalm #mumlife #toddlerlife #tantrums #toddlers #tantrum #motherhoodunplugged #terribletwos #naughtytoddler #mumofboys #mumproblems #toddlerproblems #mummyblogger #letthembelittle #toddlerfun #toddlerhood #toddlerplay #mumproblems #parentingdaily #motherhoodmemes #toddlersofinstagram #toddlerlearning #toddlerproblems #letthembelittle #letkidsbekids #keepcalmandcarryon #motherhood #honestmotherhood #motheringhard

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Oh my babe. My first born. My sidekick. How I miss the solo days. Not to say I don’t love what we have now. Not to say that I don’t love your little brother. Not so say that I don’t cherish the new memories we are making and the connection we have as you approach your fifth year of tiptoeing on this planet. But just that I miss those days. Motherhood is so very bittersweet sometimes...

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"Getting right down to your child's level, or even a little lower ensures they do not feel threatened and allows their brain to remain calm and attentive." Emily Fackrell. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Reducing how threatening and distant we can be, and making our child the focus of our attention when we talk to them and need them to focus on us will improve how they respond to us. Not only will it make them better able to engage, it makes us more available and better able to engage, because whilst we are at their level we are not also trying to do something else. We make ourselves fully present, can better understand what our child is saying and feeling and are better able to respond to them.⠀⁠ ...⠀⁠ If you want to learn more about how understanding your child can lead to a happier, calmer life for your whole family then check out our map (link in bio) to find your local consultant and what courses they are running. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ ...⠀⁠ If you are passionate about empowering parents to make the right evidence based decisions for their family then why not train with us? Get in touch or visit our "train with us" link in bio! #toddlercalm #calmfamily #toddlerlife #positiveparenting #motheringhard #mumlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodinspired #motheringhard #honestmothering #parentinghard #parenting #parentingmemes #parentingquotes #parentingtheshitoutoflife #emotionalcontainment #toddlertantrums #tantrums #naughtytoddler #terribletwos #tantrum #toddlers #threenager #toddlermom #toddlerproblems #toddlermum #cahms #childhoodmentalhealth #emotionaldevelopment

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Responsive (demand) feeding⁠ ⁠ Many parenting programmes talk about babies needing to form a routine, & the focus is always on feeding & sleeping. No matter how gently this is done, we call bullshit. The human need this relates to is that of predictability. Humans do need this but it is not the same as “routine” which is enforced externally & time-based. Time is a social construct & babies neither understand nor need it. The other human need we must consider here is the need for regulation: Physical, emotional and sensory. Babies need to meet their need for liquid and nutrition, provided through milk, coupled with emotional and sensory regulation met through close contact and sucking. This also meets their need for protection as well. Feeding is multi-faceted way to meet babies' essential needs and babies are the ones who know what they need and when. ⁠ ⁠ When professionals say “feed on demand” we assume it is only because this supports breastfeeding. It does support breastfeeding, and the frequent demand for milk encourages the body to produce more milk, but it is not ONLY for breastfeeding families! For all babies, trusting them and their hunger cues is shown in research to lead to healthier lifestyles, better eating habits and less fussy children. However I would argue that better than feeding on demand (when baby cries) we need to start looking for earlier cues and feeding on cue, regarding of how you are feeding. Less crying leads to calmer babies and calmer families!⁠ ⁠ #babycalm #calmfamily #wearallthebabies #babywearing #babywrap #motherhood#parenthood #breastfeeding #bottlefeeding #fedisbest #demandfeeding #responsivefeeding #breastfeedingtips #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife

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It's Tuesday! So time for some tips.⁠ ⁠ Are you struggling with any sling related issues? If so ask me about them, and I will answer them and make a tip tuesday post to help anyone else who has come up against the same issue! ⁠ ⁠ Today we are talking slings and medical appointments.⁠ ⁠ This picture is taken about 3 minutes after Jacob's first vaccinations. Once I started putting him in the wrap he stopped crying and was smiling before we were out of the room.⁠ ⁠ Got a medical appointment for your little one? We found the sling a lifesaver for newborn bloodtests, for vaccinations, for keeping my little one calm when nil by mouth before surgery, for keeping him comforted and cosy when recovering from general anaesthetic, and holding my little one in hospital with breathing dificulties used to have a marked impact on lowering his pulse rate, decreasing his distress, and increasing his oxygen saturation.⁠ ⁠ Hopefully for most people many of these scenarios won't feature in your babies' lives, but it was amazing how many people said to us in the hospital "oh, we'd never thought of bringing our sling!" ⁠ ⁠ For vaccinations some practitioners are willing to do them whilst the child is in a sling. Slings can help in so many situations.⁠ ⁠ Have you used slings in a medical setting?⁠ ⁠ #colic #reflux #refluxbaby #clingybaby #8weeksvaccinations #vaccinations #immunisations#slingtips #slinglibrary #slinghire #babysling #babycarrier #babywearingconsultant #itsaslingthing #itsaslingwin #2019baby #mumtobe #mamatobe #newmama #newmum #mumtips #parentingtheshitoutoflife #dadscomm #motherhoodthroughig #motheringhard #motherhoodunplugged #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #attachmentparenting #practicalparenting

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There’s a new article on our CalmFamily community blog this evening from David Bones who co-runs CalmFamily West Yorkshire who reflects on and shares the recipe for the "Big Sister Party" they threw for their eldest child on the arrival of their second baby. Keen to avoid the dreaded sibling rivalry and throw some of the attention back on their eldest child they adapted a Lovebombing approach and had a party to celebrate becoming a big sister.⁠ Read "The Big Sibling Party: Avoiding Sibling Rivalry" by clicking the link in the bio to go to our community blog.⁠ ...⁠ How did you try to avoid sibling rivalry? Do you have any tips to share with other families?⁠ ⁠ …⠀⁠ ⁠ ⠀⁠ #calmfamily #babycalm #zenparenting #trustyourinstincts #womenempoweringwomen #empoweredwomen #mumpreneur #motherhoodrising #motherhoodsimplified #motherhoodjourney #motherhoodmoments #motherhoodunfiltered #honestmotherhood #motheringhard #calmparenting #motherhoodintheraw #honestmothering #mumblog #parentingtips #newmama #newmum #siblings #siblingrivalry #bigsister #bigbrother #babysister #babybrother #mumoftwo #lovebombing

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"Don't forget to bring your funny bone on your parenting journey... Humour is a universal language that topples walls, connects hearts and opens the door to communication and cooperation." - L.R. Knost⁠ ⁠ Parenting is funny. Kids are funny, & sometimes it is funny in a 'you've got to laugh or you'll cry' way (& sometimes you'll cry now, & laugh later, & that is OK too.) Older kids will do anything to make you laugh along with them, so when it comes to chatting with your kids & getting tasks done, making things into games, listening to their talk, joining in with their humour, remembering the world as mostly magic and a little intrepidation can work wonders. Using a silly five minutes, taking selfies, blowing raspberries, hugging & joking, or having a dinosaur roarathon, can reset everyone's moods, get you laughing together, & remind you that you're on the same team & you need to cooperate & communicate not shout or railroad, meaning things get done together with less stress all round!⁠ #motivationmonday #mondaymotivation #mondaymood #mondayblues #keepitreal #motivateyourself #motivatedaily #newmum #mumstagram #familylife #mumlife #dadlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodsimplified #mamatobe #parentingtheshitoutoflife #powerfulpeople #mumtips#motherhoodthroughinstagram#motheringhard #connectedparenting #instamum #mumsofinstagram#uniteinmotherhood #livelaughlove #lrknost#dailyparenting#parentinglessons #imperfectparents #itsaslingthing

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Went ‘out out’ last night with Gaz to celebrate our friends 40th birthday whilst the boys had a sleep over at my parents. Me and Gaz literally have no time together just the two of us these days. When he gets home I usually start work and due to a small sleep thief we don’t even share the same bed anymore; we literally are like two ships that pass in the night and meet again somewhere over a shitty nappy or toddlers demand for chocolate pillows for breakfast. Some days I don’t think we even talk? Life is so different for us now that we have the boys. I wouldn’t change it for the world, of course, but I do think it’s so easy to forget the life you lived before your babies came along. I spend most of my time in a rage with Gaz - 85% of the things he does drives me insane, little petty things that don’t even matter feel huge when you’ve spent the day with two little humans who drain the last inch of life from you, the silly battles over whose the tiredest, who works the hardest, who has or hasn’t done the chores etc. But I’m still always so grateful to see him walk through the door every night and I still could never imagine doing this journey without him. Yet it is easy to forget all of that until you’re placed in a situation where it’s just the two of you again, and you remember all of the reasons why you chose them. Let it be known I must be one of the hardest people to live with. I’m passionately stubborn, hormonal, irrational, ridiculously driven, unable to ever stop and stand still and impossibly selfless. So there is no doubt we drive each other up the wall in equal measures, but that’s a true marriage right there. It’s never going to be easy if it’s worth the slog. And anyone who tells you you don’t need to work at a worthy marriage is lying. Having the boys has pushed me and Gaz to ultimate limits - it’s tested every branch of our love but something has always held us together, even when together has felt so far from what we are. I hate being without the boys, but I know it’s healthy for them and it’s healthy for us. Every once in a while its good to be Rach and Gaz. And I really like gin...until the morning after!💃🏽✌🏼

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Routine is a time based schedule that can be unvarying and inflexible. Rhythms give a sense of predictability to life that we all want and need to some degree, but are not a rigid thing.  ...  A rhythm might be that you get dressed after breakfast before you leave the house, and on work/school/nursery days that might be first thing in the morning, but at weekends you may get dressed later on, but still before going out, just the pace is varied. A rhythm helps children know what to expect, without feeling pressured, it give familiarity without being demanding. Routines can be a cause of stress if they give little time for going slow, for talking about how we feel, for connecting and for recognising that on some days, the things we manage easily most days feel really hard, and that maybe, we need to go a bit slower, stop the clock, step away from our routine, and embrace our family's rhythm. ...  If you loved this, you may find our ToddlerCalm course and the CRUCIAL framework really helpful. Find out more about routine & rhythm in Emily Fackrell's recent blog (blog page link in bio) & find your local consultants & ToddlerCalm courses (link in bio) ...⠀ CalmFamily is a not for profit organisation providing education to empower families. When we understand our psychology, the brain & development of babies &toddlers we can make the best evidence based decisions for our families, because we are each the expert in our own situation. If this sounds like what you need, then visit our website, we have consultants across the UK and further afield who can support you with courses, workshops, or consultations. If you're passionate about offering judgment free support to families & think you might want to train with us, then get in touch or visit our website to find out more about training opportunities....⠀ #calmfamily #babycalm #toddlercalm #birthcalm #motherhood #parenthood #mumlife #letthembelittle #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #honestmotherhood #ohheymama #kidsforreal #motheringhard #attachmentparenting #calmparenting #realparenting #responsiveparenting #familylife #selfcare #emotions #routine #rhythmoflife #relax #slowdown #slowdownyouovetoofast #familylife

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