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Hey everyone! Wanted to introduce myself because the tribe has grown! • • I’m Brenda and I have been passionate about talking about the importance of safe relationships and red flags for unsafe relationships ever since I endured extreme abuse at the hands of a malignant narcissistic supervisor. I was left unable to even read or write academic material for a year and had to take time off from my PhD program to recover. During that time I did a lot of reflection and reading and healing... and I learned sooooo much. Once I got past the first phase of healing I decided to share what I know with others so that they can protect themselves as well. • • I am finishing up my PhD in Organizational Behavior and Human Resources, and that’s what inspired the name for my IG acct and web page. I want us all to be the Chief HR Officer of our lives. We get to choose who is there and who is not, and we are best served when we take our nervous system into account and ensure we feel safe in relationships. Relationships in which you don’t feel safe, regardless of blood ties, are not good for you. Period. So I’m passionate about sharing all I’ve learned! I do consulting with individuals, couples, and groups so you can see the info on the home page of my web page (linked in my profile). • • Personal: I am married (but my husband set a boundary and said he doesn’t want his picture on my public page, so you’ll have to take my word on that!), and we have two children we adore. • • Fun facts: as a result of my supervisor’s relentless emotional abuse I ended up feeling incompetent and my inner critic became loud and really mean. So to combat it I applied for MENSA and got in. So take that, inner critic and former supervisor ✊🏼. Also, I love to sing and I play the piano and guitar (poorly) but have lots of fun doing so. I also love to garden but am terrible at keeping things alive. • Welcome to all the newbies!! So glad you are on this page, and once more, I’m so grateful for you and all my original gang. This community is very special to me 💗💗. #bechrooflife

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Many people find it difficult to believe that the sociopath never loved them because it felt real. In this quote, Dr Martha Stout, a leading expert on sociopaths, clearly explains their emotional limitations. __________________________________________ 📞📞📞📞📞📞📞📞📞📞📞📞📞 One on one support is available by phone anywhere in the world. Schedule your phone call with me today. Even a single appointment can make all the difference. (See website for rates, services & other information. Link in bio.) ________________________________________ Email @[email protected] IG @narcissist.sociopath.awarenes2 twitter @narcopathaware FB @ Narcissist Sociopath Awareness www.narcissist-sociopath-awareness.com ________________________________________ #CertifiedLifeCoach #narcissistsociopathawarenes2 #sociopath #narcissist #psychopath #narcissisticabuse #cheater #despair #healing #coercivecontrol #powerandcontrol #crazymaking #empath #abandonment #closure #narcissisticparent #gaslighting #childabuse #fu_slh #betrayal #pathologicalliar #traumabonding #boundaries #divorce #emotionalabuse #redflags #marthastout #sociopathnextdoor

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🚧 Only toxic people (or occasionally, good people who are unhealed or have poor boundaries themselves) will have an issue with you for daring to put yourself first for once, and set healthy boundaries. . 🚧 Whenever you start sticking up for yourself, or prioritizing your wellbeing, the people around you start exposing themselves. . 🚧 This makes setting boundaries extremely daunting, but it gets easier with practice so please stick with it! . ❓How to tell the difference between a good but unhealed person’s reaction, and a narcissist’s reaction to your boundaries? Here’s my opinion based on experience: - ➡️ A good, unhealed person who perhaps has abandonment issues or poor boundaries themselves may burst into tears, ask for reassurance that you still like/love them, and perhaps want to talk about why you’re setting the boundary with them. - ➡️ Toxic people on the other hand will react with extreme hostility. This is because boundaries elicit their narcissistic rage. Narcissists and other toxics feel entitled to get whatever they want, whenever they want, and from whomever they want! They will be extremely put out, and respond with one of the examples I gave in the post above, or worse. . 🗣 In closing, I was just thinking about this response: “you are putting your needs before everyone else’s.” Well yeah, that’s the idea! 😉 As survivors of narcissistic abuse, many of us have been people pleasing for the longest time, can’t something be about us for once?! 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️ ~ @dont_gaslight_me_bruh

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Many survivors of abuse struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries. This is because when we did try to set boundaries, we were told that we were "overreacting", "blowing things out of proportion", or other psychologically abusive statements in an attempt to gaslight us into questioning our perception, and accept the abuser's (or emotional manipulator's) version of "reality". Trust yourself. Listen to yourself. Does your chest hurt when you are around someone? Do you feel uneasy? Are your shoulders tense? Are you able to reason with this person, or do they seem unable to accept any sort of accountability for their actions and behavior? How does your body feel? Are you storing trauma inside yourself, while avoiding setting boundaries with someone? Is it because you are afraid of their reaction, *RED FLAG!* Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. Never let anyone convince you that you don't deserve to have boundaries. You are WORTHY of peace, and you do not need anyone's permission to grow. #selflove ❤️ #selfcare #selfrespect #boundaries #narcissisticabuse #detox #ptsd #warrior #recovery

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People don’t just change and become completely different people with the next person. People are who they are. If they are manipulative they usually will be manipulative again. The new supply is not better, they are just the next victim... they go on to victimize other people. Sadly but true..

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Tragically Ipswich woman Kardell Lomas who was 8 months pregnant was murdered this week as a result of domestic violence. ⠀⠀ Our thoughts are with her families and loved ones. ⠀⠀ If you are in immediate crisis please call 000. Or QLD residents 1800 811 811, National Line 1800 737 732 ⠀⠀ #domesticviolence #domesticviolenceawareness #gcdomesticviolencerefuge #DV #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #enddomesticviolence #macleodrefuge #domesticviolenceawareness #familyviolence #familylaw #queensland #changetheending

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It’s been 5 years, I’ve lost friends, family and time.... he made me believe no one could love me but him.. he isolated me, made me feel a bad about being me, brought up my past mistakes and threw them in my face, he promised me a future to only break me down... I believed his lies and said, if I didn’t want to be here I wouldn’t... he promised to love me.. he said he did over and over.. then every 10 days he’d change... he’s go to work and be a jealous insecure man while I was just being me.. spamming me I was sleeping with guys at the gym, or at conferences I’d be at... crazy insane all the while I would tell him how much I love him.. how much he meant to me... how much I did for his love, I gave up me. I loved him more than I loved me, in hopes he’d actually love me like I did him. He told me all the things I wanted to hear, I was beautiful, smart, way too good for him, amazing girlfriend.. he made plans for our future yet could make plans for the next 10 days... he’d love me for 10 days at a time... and that was the lie I held onto.. and I’m doing so, I lost everything. I lost me. People don’t understand, nor do I. I question, maybe if I didn’t go to the gym, so I didn’t... maybe if I don’t hang out with friends, so I didn’t. Maybe if I take pictures of me all day long at work he’s believe me... and I did and he didn’t believe me. I have given him 5 years... of me. Totally me. I loved him so much... but I need to love me more than him. The way he treated me, called me names, racial names.. he called me such terrible things all the while I forgave him... thinking his words were truth. I was wrong. I’ve finally let go... will I trust again, I dunno. Will I love again, I wish to believe I will. But the first person I need to love is me. His narcissist behaviour ruined me. I believed him, only to be shattered into a million pieces and lost my friends as they are tired of me choosing him. I was wrong. I travelled to escape only to have him message me all through my trip... professing his love and I believed him. #movingon #narcissisticabuse #unhealthy #relationships #narcissisticabusesurvivor #metime #loveme #relationshipproblems

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On Monday afternoon, my best friend of 18yrs lost her short battle with cancer. I held her hand as she took her last breath and faded away. How lucky I was to be with her until her last moment. I am hurting so badly, yet keeping up the role of a rock for her family. I’ve been in control of myself and been able to breathe through the rough waters, even though I feel as like I’m drowning a little bit at times. I’m trying to eat and take care of myself as best I can right now. I am doing everything in my power to avoid an episode and not let the bipolar and anxiety be in control of my emotions. I pray that it won’t come. I pray I can continue to process and move forward in a nondestructive manner. But I am hurting; I feel so lost. #grief #loss #bipolar #mania #hypomania #depression #rapidcycling #ocd #ptsd #insomnia #infj #empath #survivor #adhd #darkness #healing #progress #stability #suicideawareness #chronicpain #invisibleillness #therapy #narcissisticabuse #selfcareisntselfish #selfcare #endthestigma #medication #mentalhealth #mentalillness #projectsemicolon

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We communicate through a court ordered app. I remember the days when a message like this would’ve put me so on edge and I’d be explaining and justifying. Now I just ignore it and laugh. Remember, the narc doesn’t get access to you and your every move anymore. If there’s something that needs to be communicated, I find it’s best to put it in bullet point format and be as brief and simple as possible. There’s no reason for me to answer this one, but if I did, it would say “dentist appointment” or “flat tire” or whatever. #ex #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #domesticabuse #abuse #survivor #malignantnarcissist

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👧🏻Meet your inner child 👶🏼 . Your inner child is that part of your personality that is joyful, dreamy, playful, spontaneous, delicate and innocent.🤩 If you don’t feel that any of those words sound like you, you probably lost contact with your inner child.🙃 . As adults, we have been conditioned throughout our entire life to think, act and behave on a certain way. Anything apart from that is considered shameful and not “correct”. 😞 . During our childhood there were many phases we needed to go through to become independent, strong and courageous. However, due to traumatic experiences we might have not been able to acquire these characteristics.🔞 . I remember the first time I came across the inner child work thinking: « I don’t need this », I had a pretty happy childhood... Don’t get me wrong, I really did 💕 I had very caring, supportive and loving parents that gave me all I wanted 👨‍👩‍👧 But as I dived deeper into my past, I realized I had many traumatic experiences that unconsciously were running my life as adult. . My parents had also wounded children inside with many fears, misconceptions and traumas themselves. 💔 They did the best they could despite all the emotional baggage running them as well. 🥺 . Basically, I had abandonment issues, money shame and low self-esteem affecting my career, friends and romantic choices. There were a direct reflection of how messed up I was inside. 🙄 . The only way of healing those past traumas where through reconnecting with the original pain and releasing it.🤯 . As I was doing the inner child work, I felt a connection with a source of creativity, joy and happiness that I had not felt in years. It was like this wonder child was patiently waiting for me. “Little Tati” was there, ready to be loved and love again. 👧🏻 People even started telling me I looked 5 years younger 😏 . Have you heard about this before? 🤔 . Montreal, I’m offering a workshop on Dec 21st. 🗣This is a transformational event that has helped many to regain confidence in themselves. Get rid of their past beliefs and start owning their life again. . You are not reading this by coincidence. This is the signal you waiting for. Link in my bio ⤴️

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