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You feel worthless 🕊 * Alone. * Ashamed. * Isolated. * Where the one person you want to talk to, point blank ignores your very existence. * 🔻 JOIN - Narc Proof & Thriving Community 🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️ 🔻 Click the link in bio to watch video. * #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #ptsd #controlyourlife #unhealthylove #silenttreatment #ilostmyself #npd #manipulators #psychologicalabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #mentalabuse #narcissisticabuse #unmaskingmovement #liarliar #emotionalabuse #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #narcissisticabusesurvivor #youareworthy #domesticabusesurvivor #exhusband #divorce #lightworker #intuitivehealer #healer #selflove #iamworthy #covertnarcissist #narcissisticbehaviour #narcproofandthriving

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Narcissists select their victims... it was not by chance that you were chosen. They saw an opportunity with you.

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“WHY DIDN’T YOU JUST LEAVE?” • In the aftermath of my relationship, I was assured by professionals that yes, I was the victim of abuse. I was also informed, “this type of abuse changes your brain.” • Simply put, as a narcissistic abuse victim, your brain releases contradicting chemical cocktails during the affection/approval and neglect/abuse cycle (reward/punishment). You literally become addicted to your abuser via the neurochemical responses they elicit. This is what’s known as a “TRAUMA BOND,” more commonly referred to as Stockholm Syndrome. • COGNITIVE DISSONANCE occurs when your brain tries to explain away the conflicting emotions of simultaneously feeling threatened and comforted by your abuser. You make excuses for their behaviors to yourself and everyone around you. You convince yourself that they didn’t mean it, that you deserve it, or that it’s somehow your fault (especially since your abuser loves to tell you so). This is often referred to as “battered woman syndrome.” • This combination creates a fog so dense you can’t see what’s really happening, and even if you can, you can’t see a way out. Once away from your abuser, you experience a literal detox. You physically feel the effects of the lingering trauma bond. You crave their presence, and their absence gives you anxiety. It’s been said that this detox is worse than that experienced by heroin users. I can’t confirm that, but I can say that it’s a nightmare to find yourself thinking, “I can still jump on a plane and go back.” I now understand why I constantly forgave him, or felt like I couldn’t stay away. It’s an abuse so covert with effects so convoluted, we find it impossible to adequately answer questions like, “why didn’t you just leave?” • Victims, please be kind to and patient with yourself. You are likely experiencing what is known as “complex PTSD.” Your body and mind are at war, and you are quite literally healing and reconstructing in every way imaginable. Everything you experienced was designed to confuse and destroy you, even in the aftermath. Take your time. Feel it all, no matter how messy and confusing it is. Talk through it. Write it all out. Anything to help you untangle the web.

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I get it. It's so easy to shrink back from the work of healing. It would be so easy to respond to that baiting text, the gaslighting. Just to defend ourselves to our abuser that ONE time... It would be so easy to abandon ourselves when setting that boundary feels like lifting a mountain. And really, what will it hurt to just not say anything? It feels easier to stay small instead of take a healthy risk. Easier to wade the familiar than embark on the unknown. But the known was destruction, and the new is hope. If we need breaks from the work of healing (and we DO need breaks... sometimes a lot of them), CHOOSE YOU, friend. Choose to take a breath, a nap, a walk, a day off. Just don't choose to make yourself small again. Even on the hardest days of inertia, you know you're worth more. That's the light, coming in. 🌟 Thank you to @bts_healingthepain for this image. #RelearningNormal #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #cptsdsurvivor #domesticabuse #intimatepartnerabuse #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #toxicpeople #malignantnarcissist #narcrecovery #domesticabuserecovery #domesticviolencerecovery #codependencyrecovery #recovery #recoveryquotes #trauma #traumasurvivor #healingfromhiddenabuse #findyourvoice #healingfromwithin

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Game playing 🕊 * Hurting you is NOT love. * There’s no book out there with that as the definition of love. * Not from family, friends or romantic partners. * 🔻 JOIN - Narc Proof & Thriving Community 🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️ 🔻 Click the link in bio to watch video. * #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #ptsd #freedomiscoming #unhealthylove #loveyourselfmore #ilostmyself #npd #dontforgetwhoyouare #psychologicalabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #mentalabuse #narcissisticabuse #unmaskingmovement #liarliar #emotionalabuse #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #narcissisticabusesurvivor #thisisnotlove #domesticabusesurvivor #exhusband #divorce #lightworker #intuitivehealer #healer #selflove #gameplaying #covertnarcissist #narcissisticbehaviour #narcproofandthriving

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💗 A reminder for today – your righteous anger, depression and anxiety are TOTALLY NORMAL reactions to an EXTREMELY ABNORMAL situation. . 💗 There is a world of difference between victims of egregious, premeditated and ongoing abuse finally snapping after being perpetually pushed to the breaking point, and narcissists abusing others by design intending to inflict harm. . 💗 Unfortunately it is very common to second-guess ourselves after enduring years/decades of gaslighting from the abuser/s. Their onslaught of hateful messages – both subliminal and overt – that we are the ones with the problem, have systematically conditioned us to internalize blame and feelings of worthlessness. . 💙Always remember, there is NEVER EVER any excuse for abuse! 💙The perpetrator is always 100% RESPONSIBLE for their actions! 💙You’ve done absolutely NOTHING to deserve it! 💙Abuse is ALWAYS unjustifiable, and NEVER your fault! . 💗 Also, if you’ve ever found yourself wondering if you’re the narcissist, please don’t worry because narcissists don’t wonder if they are, nor do they care! . 💗💗💗💗💗💗 ~ @dont_gaslight_me_bruh

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And the crazier she seems, the more dangerous the abuser is likely to be! #darvo, #narcissisticabuse, #patriarchykills , #narcissisticabuserecovery, #believesurvivors , #feminists, #humanrights, #womensrightsarehumanrights , #equalrights, #communityiscomplicit,

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Just keep swimming 🐬 . An important lesson I've learnt is that you cannot please everyone. So don't bother wasting your time trying to prove yourself to other people. Good people with good hearts continue doing good regardless of what other people think. Some people get offended by your experiences and truths because they think everything is related to them. It isn't. So worry about yourself and stop projecting on other people. This goes for everyone. Narcs shmarcs or not. . Join the @thekhandiary squad 💪🏼 . #justsaying #gaslighting #narcissistsurvivor #narcsurvivor #narcopath #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissism #triangulation #flyingmonkeys #theotherwoman #traumabonding #traumabond #stockholmsyndrome #alhamdulillah #grateful #happy #youdeservebetter #behappy #turntoallah #loveyourself #overcomingobstacles #lifecoach #empoweredwomen #thekhandiary #hustle #healingfromabuse #inittowinit

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Who else is gearing up for 2020? While the New Year's resolutions generally begin 1/1, why not start clearing out the old now? Closets, garages and junk drawers aside, have you considered toxic, outgrown, or worn out relationships? If you are staying in relationships out of Fear, Obligation, or Guilt you are being held back from living your fullest, most joyous life. I can help you clear the relationship junk drawer so that 2020 can be your best year yet! #codependentnomore #healthyrelationships #abuserecovery #boundaries #manifesting #levelingup #cocreators #stopplayingsmall #2020 #declutter #outwiththeold #outofthefog #narcissisticabuserecovery #bestyearyet #goals #friscotxcounselor #friscotx #therapygoals

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