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Day 22⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My husband came home from work today and said hi to our daughter, who was playing on the ipad. She didn't even notice him at first, which is surprising because he had been gone for the past 50 hours. We are used to life without him. His work schedule keeps him away from home for long stretches, and when he is home, my oldest is usually at school and my youngest, at daycare. Homecomings, for him, are traditionally warm and welcoming. Our daughter will hear the door open and the keys jingle and her big green eyes somehow get even bigger. "DAD'S HOME!" She runs to the door and they bear hug and laugh and kiss and he is the hero. Today was different. Both kids were busy on their screens, which trump face to face interaction every single time. They didn't hear him come through the door and I purposely didn't alert them. When he did stop in to greet his children, I said, "Say hi later. Get in the shower and do your part." No "Hi, hello, how was work?" No, "I missed you." And definitely no hugs. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My husband is a medic firefighter. He supervises all medical calls on the engine. So far, the covid-19 cases in our city haven't reached very high numbers but they're there. And if the predictions are right, the numbers will rise exponentially. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When he goes to work he is potentially being exposed to the virus that has taken over the globe and changed all of our lives. Every day that he comes home from work I have to extend our 14 day incubation period and wait for symptoms. We can either accept the risk of becoming infecting with covid-19 and hope that our symptoms are mild, or he can live away from us for the weeks and maybe months that lie ahead, while he continues to work for the city. Both choices are not ideal. (Cont in comments)

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When you try to talk back to ocd but then you still end up doing the complications😅 Ocd said: you tried🤭 #memestocope #ocdmemes #realocd #youtried #therapy #therapymemes #therapyiscool #therapyworks #ocdtherapy #ocdrecovery #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness

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Cant wait to see all your faces!!! 😄🤪🤓🤩

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"Why don't I feel anxious anymore?"⁠ .⁠ Or, "Does this content still makes me anxious?" "I am not anxious enough or how I should be," these are just a few of the commonly asked questions that provoke an urge to check to answer the questions. This checking is followed by anxiety- of course and what we call a backdoor spike. If you are looking for the anxiety, you will either find it, or we won't find it- both scenarios end in anxiety and both are unimportant.⁠ .⁠ Beware of the temptation to check on your anxiety and see how it's doing. It's a trap. Dr. Steven Phillipson coined this term and I believe it is a very accurate description. Try to sit with the discomfort of not knowing. Try to be present with your anxiety or without your anxiety. ⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ #backdoorspike#checking#obsessivecompulsivedisorder#intrusivethoughts#youarenotyourthoughts#ocdawareness#ocdproblems#anxietyproblems#healthanxiety#relationshipocd#harmocd#sexualorientationocd#realocd#anxietylookslike#anxietytips#mindful

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Do it again, do it again, do it again... those are the words that play in my mind on loop so since I’ve got nothing to do right now I made it a meme:-) #realocd #ocdmemes #realocdmemes #ocdrecovery #ihateocd #ocdproblems #therapymemes #ocdtherapy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmemes #mentalhealthawareness #ocdawareness

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💜What is your core fear behind not knowing the meaning of life?⠀ 💜Do you have a fear that you will be left unfulfilled, a fear of being punished for not doing ‘enough,’ that your afterlife will be impacted...⠀ 💜Existential OCD can cause intrusive thoughts about this very topic. We must first identify what your fear is about this unknown in order to precede with treatment and begin to sit with that uncertainty.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective #existential #existentialocd #existentialism

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In Sunday school, we were told that prayers were "letters to God". Seems like a totally normal thing to say. But my OCD went a bit berserk with it. - If prayers were letters to God, OBVIOUSLY I had imagine every letter of every word. And, just like the president has screeners to check his mail in case it's poisoned, God must have angels doing the same thing. Probably even four tiers of Angels screeners because four is a perfect number. Mix in a little Willy Wonka style squirrels sorting good and bad nuts, and the business of getting my prayers through God's mailroom to God to read was a daunting endeavor. - This was the kind of OCD symptoms in elementary and middle school that I took for granted. I thought they were normal. I wasn't actively hiding my OCD like I did in highschool. It just never occurred to me to tell anyone about the specific ways I prayed. Or how I had to sit perfectly straight to not "slouch". It's just how my world was. - Over time the praying rituals morphed. In highschool I was convinced that I had to pray by name for every person I spoke with during the day. Pretty quickly I discovered that not talking was easier, especially with severe social anxiety happening at the same time. - #ocdillustrated #ocd #ocdawareness #ocdproblems #realocd #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #pureocd #intrusivethoughts #prayer #sundayschool #anxietyawareness #anxietywarrior #anxietyproblems #socialanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #ocdvocate #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthishealth #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #breakthestigma #childrensmentalhealth #kidsmentalhealth #kidshealth #brainhealth

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When I was about 8, I learned in Sunday school that we were supposed to "put God first, others second, self last". And boy! did I take that to heart. I applied this to everything, including setting the table. I HAD to set my place last, or else I'd "be a bad person". Fun times. I don't know whether it was significant enough to be diagnosable at that point, but those obsessions and rituals stayed in place until highschool. - Edit: I realized that I do still have this facet of scrupulosity-i just apply it to more adult things. Case in point; I spent half my therapy session today explaining how I want to write an advance health directive so that just in case I get critically ill with covid, the doctors will know I don't want a ventilator if they are having to ration them. - And then there was praying. But that's a story for tomorrow. - What were your first symptoms? - #ocdillustrated #ocd #ocdproblems #ocdawareness #realocd #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #pureocd #intrusivethoughts #ocdvocate #anxietyinkids #anxietywarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthishealth #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #itsokaynottobeokay #itsoktonotbeok #childrensmentalhealth #childrenshealth

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Let the truth be told people. Difficult lesson I’m still trying to learn myself but it’s a good reminder for everyone, especially now that many are home with no escape from their mind. Much love to everyone suffering💕💛 #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #bulimia #bulimiarecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #eatingdisorderawareness #dietculturedropout #dietculturesucks #realocd #ocd #ocdproblems #ocdrecovery #ocdawareness #youareworthy

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Day 21 815 am: Hubby's been gone 25 hours already.  Just another 26 to go.  Kids are playing super mario while I look at fashion bloggers in chic sweats.  Meanwhile, I have already spilled coffee on my pajama pants and probably won't change out of them for a few hours.  I hope the oatmeal isn't burning. 845 am: Just yelled at my kids for yelling while on the class zoom.  I wasn’t muted.  On a positive note, Lucas logged in to his assemblea (italian school) without a fight.  We may have turned a corner here. 10 am: Tried to do some PE with the kids.  Massive failure as my 2 year old won’t stop crying unless she’s on my lap.  So I gave them applesauce instead.  Not sure how more sugar will help me.  If I had a job I would have quit by now.  This is impossible. 1115 am: Spent the better part of an hour trying not to cry.  I can feel it building up but I’m too busy playing Cindy Lou Who to let it out.  Also, wondering if it’s appropriate to be sad/stressed/overwhelmed in front of a 6 year old. 100 pm:  Finished a live session then ate lunch in the sun with my babies.  I feel better and probably won’t need to hide in the bathroom to cry.  Amazing what can happen in a couple hours. #quarantinetime #pandemicmom #ERP #realocd #timetotalk #motherhoodunfiltered #motherhoodintheraw #ocd #maternalocd #harmocd #postpartumocd #postnatalocd #anxietyproblems #anxietysupport #ocdawareness #mentalillnessawareness #intrusivethoughts #endthestigma #breakthestigma #feelyourfeelings #mentalhealthadvocate #itsoktonotbeok

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💜Relationship OCD: intrusive thoughts about the state of your relationship. Are you meant for each other? Are you good enough for one another? Do you really love one another? While everyone has these thoughts, some individuals get so stuck on them, they can’t think of anything else.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective #relationshipocd #anxiety #anxietyhelp

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Many people are experiencing a worsening of their OCD symptoms right now due to the pandemic. Please let your doc or therapist know! Or get help if you don’t have someone already! ❤️ . . . . #ocdawareness #anxiety #ocdrecovery #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #therapy #maternalocd #ocdproblems #ptsd #health #selfhelp #selflove #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #positivity #depression #endthestigma #mentalillness #realocd #recovery #itsoknottobeok #selfcare #ocd #doctors #doctor #medical

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“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.” -Bob Goff • #livelifewithuncertainty #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalillness #mentalillnessrecovery #ocd #ocdawareness #realocd

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This is actually me 😂 This quarantine has been very hard in regards to my anxiety and depression. One of my obsessions is that life isn’t real, it’s all just an illusion made up in our brains. Because of the quarantine this is making this thought feel VERY real. It feels like my life isn’t real. I feel as if I’ve been placed in some kind of fake world or a movie reliving the same day everyday and it is causing me SO much panic, I’m anxious all the time and can not stop thinking about this every second and asking myself “where am I?” Also, I was waiting this show called “unorthodox” on Netflix and I was having sexual intrusive thoughts. They’ve been popping up randomly while I’m scrolling on insta or watching movies or tv shows, which is bothersome. This might be tmi but idk why I get these thoughts on any gender or age. I’m asexual, and don’t even put in tampons bc I’m too grossed out even if my own body. Depression wise, I’ve been really sad and just feel like bursting into tears, and very agitated. I feel like all I do is annoy my family. I either talk about myself all the time, problems I’m having or issues with my mental health. I’m very annoying, but idk why I can’t stop talking about myself. Also I always feel the need to tell my mom every thought I have, which are usually intrusive thoughts, so she thinks I’m doing it for attention or trying to threaten her. I told her that all I do is bother her, cause her stress and problems and she would be better off without me but she was going to send me to the hospital. I feel like my family hates me and I have nothing to live for. It’s such a bad feeling. If u guys have made it this far, thanks! Is there anything you guys are doing to pass the time? I could really use some suggestions!

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Who would have thought that raising a child with anxiety or OCD could get even more isolating? And yet, here we are. The Coronavirus has managed to isolate us even further. Parents are really struggling. Some of you were in the process of getting a local therapist. Some of you have kids who are refusing to do video therapy. And some of you have kids who are not ready to work on their issues. So where does that leave parents? Not well supported at a time when they will need the most support. Even if you are one of the lucky ones with teletherapy, that still leaves another 23 hours where you are flying solo. Typically that wouldn’t be so bad, but right now we are all struggling to be okay. That means you need more support. Your child with anxiety or OCD will need more support. And your partner and other children will need more support. So where are you going to get your recharge from? Where are you going to get daily guidance on how to handle various anxiety and OCD scenarios that are going to pop up more frequently as we are in lockdown? My AT Parenting Community has been closed to new members for the last couple of months. In fact, it isn’t set to re-open it’s doors until June. But as I watched parents flail and scramble to find help, and as emails poured in from old members asking me when I am going to re-open the doors, I felt the tug to open my doors on an emergency basis. I know that parents can desperately use the daily support they get inside the AT Parenting Community. I know that parents can use the weekly live classes that give them concrete skills and support from a seasoned anxiety and OCD child therapist. I know that parents would love to get free access to online classes that teach them super easy ways to do therapeutic approaches like ERP at home. I also know their kids would benefit from our new AT Kids online support group that will meet virtually on a regular basis. Kids need to know they are not alone too. Budgets are tight right now, families may not be able to afford video therapy. But for less than one copay a month, parents can get 24-hour a day support from the AT Parenting Community. www.ATParentingCommunity.com

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I took advantage of an Old Navy fifty percent off sale at the beginning of the social distancing and bought some jeans (safe) and some summer blouses (EEEK!). - The transition from nice, modest, "safe" winter clothing to more revealing "unsafe" summer clothing is always a rocky one for me. Short sleeves and capris I can manage. Tank tops and (heaven forbid) shorts pose a big challenge though. - I decided to stretch myself and order this blouse that has no sleeves AND a cut-out on the chest. OCD says it's SUPER PROSTITUTE-ISH!!!! I'm steeling myself to wear it anyway. I don't have too many options because most of my summer clothing is in Cleveland. I didn't anticipate how long social distancing would keep me in Rochester. - What exposures are you planning on doing in the coming days? - #ocdillustrated #ocd #ocdawareness #ocdproblems #realocd #pureocd #intrusivethoughts #faceyourfears #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #mentalhealthadvocate #ocdvocate #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #exposureandresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #therapyiscool #therapyworks #therapy #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthisimportant #socialdistancing #summer #summerclothes #tanktop #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #icandohardthings

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Imaginal Scripts: Today I was cleaning my rooms Nd found my journal that I had while at my first time at Rogers. In it I found these three imaginal scripts I wrote about three of my worst intrusive thoughts. For those of you who don’t know, and imaginal script is writing about an intrusive thought. You take the thought and you write what would happen if that thought came true; for me, writing what would happen if I acted on my thought of stabbing my mom, hitting a pedestrian or another car, or surviving a school shooting. Even looking back and reading these, I still have anxiety associated with them, but the point of writing these was not to get rid of my fear, it was to make sure I kept using knives, driving cars, and going to school despite the thought. It was an exposure writing these, and then I would read them to myself, the staff members at Rogers and eventually the knife script to my mom. Sharing these things used to be extremely hard for me, and I am amazed to see how today I am posting these scripts with moderate, but not incapacitating anxiety! #realocd #ocd #ocdrecovery #exposuretherapy #imaginalscript #ocdproblems #ocdawareness #ocdesign #ocdrecovery #keeponfighting

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Today I was scrolling through instagram, like I do for 8000 hours a day, and I hated it. I was on the popular page and my eyes were scanning each row of photos. Hurriedly going from left to right, top to bottom, looking for something, anything that would put a stop to the endless searching. I don't know what exactly I was looking for, but I knew I was nowhere near finding it. My chest was feeling tight, I was becoming agitated and yet I couldn't stop. Just one more row, one more page refresh and I might finally feel satisfied. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ After some time, I noticed this feeling and pinpointed its familiarity. This was the same feeling I used to get when I would google symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, or lupus. I'd search and search, looking for an answer. Would I die from this? No matter how many times I changed my google search, no matter how many sources I found, or how many hours I spent looking, I never found the answer I was looking for. The urge to search was never quelled. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That was how I felt this morning. But instead of needing to know if i would die from a mystery illness, my question was, "What am I doing here on this platform?" I was obsessing about my place and my motives and my reasons but I didn't know it until I identified my latest compulsion- the instagram scroll. It seems harmless. We all do it. But when a behavior becomes compulsive, it is usually being done to distract or avoid a feeling. My feeling was not knowing. I hate not knowing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But here we are in a time of the most unknowing ever. If there was ever a time to practice sitting with those feelings, it's now. #ERP⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #realocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #timetotalk⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodunfiltered⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodintheraw⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #maternalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #harmocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postpartumocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postnatalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietyproblems⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietysupport⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocdawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalillnessawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #intrusivethoughts⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #endthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #breakthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #feelyourfeelings⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthadvocate⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #itsoktonotbeok

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Sometime between 5 and 6 am: I wake up in my daughter's bed again. No matter what I do, she refuses to let me sleep train her. I know how that sounds. It isn't about her 'letting' me. It's about me actually doing it. But whatever gene it takes to be able to listen to a kid screaming and crying and not open the door, I don't have it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 730 am: I let the kids turn on Netflix while I drink my coffee. I can't take another morning of screaming and crying over screen time.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 825 am: It's time for my son's online morning assemblea. He threw himself on the floor and started screeching so I decided to vacuum the downstairs. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 840 am: He finally agrees to login to his Zoom meeting. I never thought i'd be having to convince my 6 year old to get on a conference call. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 10 am: My kids choose a smoothie for their morning snack. My son pours the entire bag of frozen blueberries into the blender. It still turns out ok despite my fears.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1115 am: Online school live lesson. My daughter is listening to the frozen soundtrack in her room and my son tries his best to sit still. It's not going well. I take my temp for the 18th time this am.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Every day for the past week and i'm sure every day next week too. #quarantinetime

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My OCD is generous, it came with an eating disorder which is probably the worst gift ever. Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental health illness and this charity fights tooth and nail for sufferers and their families. Please consider donating to my JustGiving page and I pledge to shave my hair off as an incentive for you to slap some cash down. Their helpline has seen a 30% increase in calls during lockdown but charitable funding has stalled due to the Coronavirus outbreak. Please give generously even though you’re all skint. #Eatingdisorder #eatingdisorderrecovery #edrecovery #ocd #realocd #fundraiser #shaveoff #eatingdisorderawareness #anorexia #bulimia #osfred #ednos @beatedsupport

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Get ready folks, we are about to talk about S-E-X.⁠ .⁠ If you are reading this, you likely know that OCD comes at the most inopportune times, like when being intimate. It is common for all themes of OCD to do this. OCD can become particularly stuck on the following subtypes:⁠ .⁠ - Sexual orientation OCD: "you're not as aroused with your Billy, maybe it's because you really like [fill in the opposing sexual orientation]⁠ - Relationship OCD: "My, my, my, if it isn't Jimmy you are thinking about instead of your ex-boyfriend Billy."⁠ - Scrupulosity OCD: "I told you! You are sexual deviant after all. Heaven is out."⁠ - Harm OCD: "Just strangle her."⁠ - Pedophilia OCD: "Why do you constantly have images of children when you are here?"⁠ .⁠ OCD wants badly to find evidence the feared thoughts are important and correct. This is when we throw our hands up and say 🤷🏻‍♀️Historically speaking, OCD is a liar, so let's continue living our lives based on values, instead of fear. ⁠ .⁠ Active exposures and acceptance can help in allowing these intrusive images/thoughts/feelings to all be here when you are trying to get it on. Though doing an active exposure before or during the deed is often times the last thing a sufferer wants to do, going on the offense can change the game. Masturbation is also included in this topic.⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ #sexualobsessions#livinganxious#anxietytips#intrusivethoughts#ocd#rocd#pocd#moralocd#scrupulosity#harmocd#sexualorientationocd#ocdproblems#realocd#sexandocd#ocdtips#obsessivecompulsivedisorder#acceptance#exposures#exposureandresponseprevention#erp#cbt#act#onlinetherapist#helpforocd⁠ ⁠

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💜I expect with any treatment, for symptoms/intrusive thoughts/urges/behaviors to reappear at different points. This is not failure. This is expected. So whether you have an anxiety disorder, OCD, or a Body-Focused Repetitive Behavior, please know that ‘relapse’ (I don’t even like that word) is just an opportunity to practice your skills again and regain mastery of everything you had learned.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective #anxiety #anxietyhelp #anxietyrecovery

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This is my naive pre-exposure face😅😝🍓 • Weirdly, I have a good amount of anxiety that surrounds eating certain foods, which can cause my diet to be rather limited. During my last session with my therapist, Jenna, she told me that she wanted me to try a new “fear food” each day, with the hope that I will slowly, but surely, expand my diet. • This evening, I had yogurt with granola for the first time in years. My anticipatory anxiety surrounding eating the yogurt was pretty high, but once I tried it, my anxiety slowly began to decrease. • For the exposure, I put a 1/4 cup of strawberry yogurt into a bowl and added some vanilla granola to it. Generally, the yogurt wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be, and to some degree, I enjoyed it😋 I proved to myself that I make things out to be a lot worse in my mind and that I have the ability to face my fears💪 • #realocd #exposureresponseprevention #erp #faceyourfears #fearfoods

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I GIVE YOU the cats (and dogs) of Not Alone Notes ❤️😻🤔🐶 Pictured: 1. (Clockwise) Loki, Monty, Sasha, Louie 2. (L➡️R) Lily, Sully 3. Jade 4. Chance 5. Wesley

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I'm not a cat person. Not even a pet person, really. But before you judge me on that you should know that i'm allergic to dander. Not in the way that my doctor would give me a note, but in the way that if I'm at your house and you have a cat hiding somewhere, I'll know immediately because my face starts to itch. If I sit on your couch and then rub my right eye, which I do often because my astigmatism requires me to use a contact lens that only works properly if its positioned on my eye just right, within a few minutes my eye will be puffed up to look like someone's elbow had landed directly in my eye socket. I don't even mind that people have pets. I think they're cute and I like the idea of a soft, furry, non-biting friend. But I can't trust myself to wash my hands before I touch my face. Which brings me to the dilemma that we are all in right now. If I can't remember to not poke my own eyes with a dander covered finger, even though I am very aware of the immediate consequences, how am I supposed to remember to wash my hands before touching my face now, when the consequences either show up a week later or never? The whole thing has me worried. And like a cat that licks his own assh*le, I just can't stop worrying about if I remembered to wash my hands. But like I said, i'm not a cat person, so this analogy may not make any sense. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Quote sent to me late last night by a friend in my GOAL group. We have an ongoing text thread that is supposed to be an accountability thread for doing exposures, but it's functioned as a late night mental health hotline, a meme portal and also a place for venting. #ERP #realocd #timetotalk #motherhoodunfiltered #motherhoodintheraw #ocd #maternalocd #harmocd #postpartumocd #postnatalocd #anxietyproblems #anxietysupport #ocdawareness #mentalillnessawareness #intrusivethoughts #endthestigma #breakthestigma #feelyourfeelings #mentalhealthadvocate #itsoktonotbeok

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💜I am often asked how to share your OCD or intrusive thoughts with loved ones. First, it is your choice if you want to. Second, you are not required to share specific details and all of the themes. How I like to explain it: ‘My thoughts are attacking the things I love and value the most, like you.’ This would be a good example for harming OCD, in which your intrusive thoughts are about a person you love. This allows you to explain the general nature of OCD, that your thoughts cause you distress by attacking the things you value, without describing every specific thought. You are more than welcome to share more though if you want!⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective

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🎉 On Sunday, I hit 1,000 followers 🎉⁠ .⁠ To express my gratitude to all of my followers I am offering a giveaway of one of my favorite mindfulness books: “Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change.” ⁠ .⁠ As its title suggests, “Living Beautifully” addresses the uncertainty inherent to life. It also teaches us how to have a more helpful relationship to uncertainty. ⁠ .⁠ This book is particularly helpful for those struggling with OCD and anxiety, but can be useful in supporting people of all backgrounds and diagnoses.⁠ Given the strange circumstances the world is currently facing, we all could use some support and guidance on how to make peace with uncertainty. This book offers just that.⁠ .⁠ To enter:⁠ 💛You must be following me @laurenmcmeikan⁠ 💛Tag your friends! Each comment counts as one entry with the hashtag #bemindfulwithpema⁠ 💛Post on your Instagram story for more entries⁠ 💛A winner will be picked on Monday, April 13th.⁠ ⁠ ---⁠ Per Instagram rules, this promotion is in no way sponsored, administered, or associated with Instagram, Inc. By entering, entrants confirm that they are 13+ years of age, release Instagram of responsibility, and agree to Instagram’s terms of use.⁠ ---⁠ #giveaway #pureo #pureocd #hocd #rocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #ocdawareness #ocdrecovery #healing #recovery #bdd #intrusivethoughts #anxiety #anxious #therapy #realocd #ocdhelp #recoveryfromocd #ocd #freedomfromocd #ocdsupport #californiatherapist #losangeles #orangecounty#ocdtherapist #ocdhelp

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You know the drill... Other people create elaborate cartoons, I draw stick figures... But seriously, the speech bubbles are important. Please read them. Swipe to see each panel close up. - If moral thought action fusion doesn't make sense for good thoughts, don't let yourself fall into the trap of believing it for bad thoughts. - Trivia Tuesday is up and running on my Story. Give it a once over to stretch your thinking muscles. - #ocdillustrated #ocd #ocdawareness #ocdproblems #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #realocd #pureocd #intrusivethoughts #socialanxiety #anxietywarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #ocdvocate #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #cognitivedistortions #cognitivetherapy #therapy #therapyiscool #therapyworks #therapistsofinstagram #therapist #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #dontbelieveeverythingyouthink #thoughtoftheday #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthishealth #itsokaynottobeokay #itsoktonotbeok

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🌻 Thinking ‘My friend will get into a car accident today’ does not make that event any more likely to happen. Our thoughts do not have that kind of power yet OCD wants to believe they do. Graphic from @mindonfire_ocd! . . . . #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective

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Time has slowed down. I’ve lived next to this path for over 7 years and have only been on it twice. Just in the last three weeks I have been on it a half dozen times or more. So have my kids with anxiety or OCD. They have gotten more down time. More nature time. More mom time. Time has always been our enemy (or that is how it felt). Rush, we need to get to school. Rush we need to get to therapy. Rush we need to get to practice. Time is now a gift. An abundant gift we are soaking up.

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Catch Episode 3 of @madeofmillions_ NOCD series with Stephen Smith, @pureochrissie & @ethwriter about how they found treatment for their own OCD tomorrow at 3 pm Central. Link in bio to join live stream! . . . #ocd #ocdawareness #mentalhealth #nocd #mentalhealthsupport #realOCD #anxiety #rocd #hope #faceyourfears #wordstoliveby #erp #cbt #healthandwellness

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Beautiful cards made by Haley 💓💌

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Submit your own anonymously via link in bio! 🧠 Reminder: Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that do not agree with the persons values. These are fears not desires and not something the person will act on. For more information please visit apennyforyourintrusivethoughts.org.

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I’m at crisis point with my baking fat. This is all I have. What the flip am I supposed to do now to help manage my OCD during lockdown?! Perfect my Swiss roll technique? Make endless meringues? There is very little nhs mental health support out there at the moment. I get it, I really do. Unfortunately mental health can’t be postponed and the Coronavirus situation will be intensifying existing mental health struggles. It’s a very difficult time indeed. #ocd #realocd #ocdbaker #bakingformentalhealth #therapeuticbaking #ocdrecovery #edrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery

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💜While death is certain, the details surrounding death are not. When will we die? How will we die? What happens in the afterlife? And this is why anxiety and OCD are uncomfortable with death, as there is so much uncertainty. Treatment exposes to this uncertainty just like any other. Comment below with exposure ideas for ‘death’ such as writing a eulogy, drawing your own tombstone, or planning your funeral.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective #deathanxiety #deathfears #fearofdeath

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Welcome to another segment of Monday Meets, where I ask the therapists and advocates of instagram to share a little bit about themselves.  This week I feature psychotherapist, Alegra Kastens.  You may know Alegra from the mega popular instagram account @obsessivelyeverafter.  She serves content that is bold, educational and always relevant.  What I love the most about her is the way she squashes shame and stigma by being transparent about her own lived experience with OCD.  Anyone struggling with OCD or anxiety should either be following her or inquiring about her therapy fees. To read her Q and A head to the link in my bio and click on Blog. #ERP #realocd #timetotalk #motherhoodunfiltered #motherhoodintheraw #ocd #maternalocd #harmocd #postpartumocd #postnatalocd #anxietyproblems #anxietysupport #ocdawareness #mentalillnessawareness #intrusivethoughts #endthestigma #breakthestigma #feelyourfeelings #mentalhealthadvocate #itsoktonotbeok

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It's wild how many of my OCD's rules only apply to me. "don't stand unevenly" "don't turn on the lights" "only wear super modest clothing" "no makeup" the list goes on and on. - Anyone else in the same boat? - #ocdillustrated #ocd #ocdproblems #ocdawareness #realocd #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #pureocd #ocdmemes #mentalhealthmeme #mentalhealthadvocate #memes #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthisimportant #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #itsokaynottobeokay #itsoktonotbeok #anxietywarrior #rules #socialanxiety

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The email started with, “Home learning Begins Tomorrow.” For some reason my heart sank. I erased my “Mom School” schedule. My anxious kids have gotten into a groove. I’ve gotten into a groove. Yes, my daughter said she missed school yesterday and I know she meant it. She is a social creature! But in a world of uncertainty we have been allowed to let go. Mom School consisted of nature walks, netflix documentaries and cooking class. It consisted of late wake ups and nights around our fire pit roasting marshmallows. Our new normal has had some silver linings.

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I asked, you answered. “Why have you been resistant to a mental health diagnosis?” Reading your responses made me realize that there is so much fear that comes along with discovering who we may or may not be.  There is so much fear around people’s perceptions of us and how we feel we must be to be accepted and loved.  Fear and judgement are part of the human experience of fear OF judgement doesn’t have to be. #ERP #realocd #timetotalk #motherhoodunfiltered #motherhoodintheraw #ocd #maternalocd #harmocd #postpartumocd #postnatalocd #anxietyproblems #anxietysupport #ocdawareness #mentalillnessawareness #intrusivethoughts #endthestigma #breakthestigma #feelyourfeelings #mentalhealthadvocate #itsoktonotbeok

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💜Postpartum OCD may consist of fears of accidentally hurting your baby, purposely hurting your baby, any kind of harm towards your baby (a fire, kidnapping), contamination surrounding your baby, sexual thoughts towards your baby, health concerns about them, and more. What did yours sound like?⠀ (and yes, that’s my baby in the pic! 😍)⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ #ocd #ocdlife #ocdhelp #ocdrelief #ocdrecovery #ocdproblems #ocdtips #ocdadvocate #ocdawareness #ocdsupport #ocdclean #livingwithocd #erp #exposureresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #intrusivethoughts #pureocd #pocd #hocd #harmocd #rocd #realocd #uncertainty #thoughtsarejustthoughts #scrupulosityocd #religiousocd #ocdisnotanadjective #postpartumocd #postpartumcare #postpartumanxiety

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I've been using this time to not only compulsively take my temperature, but to also majorly reflect on what is important to me. What are my core beliefs? What am I working towards manifesting and how am I going to get there? And I sill don't fucking know. I really don't. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Most of my adult life has been spent working towards perfection in the hopes that once I got there, I would be happy and fulfilled and no longer searching for the thing that would make me feel settled. I imagine this perfect person would know what the end game looked liked. She would also know exactly what makeup colors suited her and she would definitely know how to choose a proper winter jacket. I imagine the perfect me would have the answers to life's questions, or at the very least be so busy being perfect that she wouldn't bother asking them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ After a session with my therapist I've decided that moving forward, my goal is to be imperfect. More imperfect than I already am, than we all are, really. Instead of doing things with the intention of becoming skilled, or because I think it will bring me closer to the "perfect" me, i'm going to do them for fun and exploration. And maybe i'll suck at it, and maybe what I produce won't be great and maybe people will think i'm just OK at something. But the idea here is that if I can be ok with failing, I have more freedom to try new things and then i'm closer to knowing what my end game is. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #realocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #timetotalk⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodunfiltered⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodintheraw⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #maternalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #harmocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postpartumocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postnatalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietyproblems⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietysupport⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocdawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalillnessawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #intrusivethoughts⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #endthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #breakthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #feelyourfeelings⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthadvocate⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #itsoktonotbeok

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The decision to seek treatment for any mental illness is a complicated one. People experience a kind of tug of war between "enablers", or factors that encourage them to get help, and "barriers", factors that discourage them from seeking help. To understand why people with OCD delay seeking treatment, we need to move from the world of quantitative research, where measurements are king, to qualitative research, where conversations are center stage. - Qualitative research is an organized way of eliciting people's experiences and finding patterns in their responses. Researchers ask a set of predetermined but open ended questions. They record participants' responses. Later on the "code" those responses by grouping similar responses together. This allows them to identify themes, and even present them in visual format. - In this study from the UK, a researcher who herself had OCD found seventeen other people with OCD through the organization @ocdukcharity . She gathered their stories to better understand why they did or didn't seek treatment. The mindmaps above show her findings. If you swipe to the next slides, you can see a the maps in magnified larger and brief summary of the results in paragraph form. - Which of these enablers or barriers have you personally experienced? Do any surprise you? Let's have a conversation of our own in the comments :)

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I wasn’t planning on posting twice today until I sat down to read the newspaper and found this article in @bodyandsoul_au : 5 signs you have Obsessive Compulsive Coronavirus Disorder. They claim ‘it’s a thing’ but it’s actually not. What IS a real thing is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, a mental illness that isn’t fun, or funny, or even all about cleaning. I don’t usually like to ‘call people out’ because I think people just make mistakes or don’t mean to do the wrong thing. But OCD is so widely misunderstood and that’s a problem because it contributes to stigma and delays in getting treatment (because people might not even realise what they’re experiencing is OCD). So it worries me to see something like this that misrepresents and trivialises OCD. Some people with OCD will find the pandemic really difficult, and this article is essentially about ‘pointing and laughing’ at people who try to manage their anxiety with compulsive behaviours. @bodyandsoul_au it would be great if you could share more accurate information, and for anyone who wants to know more about what real OCD is, @saneaustralia has some great info. • • • #ocd #realocd #obsessions #compulsions #anxiety #pocdcommunity #nostigma #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #coronavirus #healthanxiety #breakthestigma #covid_19 #mentalhealthmatters #mentalillness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #faceofocd #talkaboutit #bekind #sane #intrusivethoughts #ocdisreal #ocdisnotajoke #contaminationocd #pandemic #thoughts #stigmafree #ocdstigma #ocdcommunity #mentalhealthcommunity

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Strange times... the world is now justifying OCD for so many people and it’s a confusing time and we don’t really have answers on how to help one another. For me and many other ocd sufferers, now is a time of trying to stay safe from Covid-19 while not allowing ocd to manifest and it become a new ocd theme. But we’re all in the together and this too shall past so stay strong. 🤍 #thistooshallpass #realocd #ocd #ocdproblems #ocdmeme #ocdmemes #realocdmemes #ocdisnotanadjective #pandemic #ocdisnotajoke #ocdsupport #ocdawareness #wereinthistogether #ocdsucks #yourenotalone

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While OCD can be so consuming and it can take up so much of our attention and life, I think its important to recognize that there is so much more to talk about. We are rounded, dynamic individuals and OCD is not the defining factor in our lives. I talk about OCD so much that when I get on the phone or start working on my computer my 6 year old has started shouting, "OCD OCD OCD!!" That's gotta tell me something. So here is a list of topics I am interested in that also deserve some of my attention. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What are some things that interest you, that your OCD or anxiety may have prevented you from focusing on? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ERP⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #realocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #timetotalk⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodunfiltered⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodintheraw⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #maternalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #harmocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postpartumocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postnatalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietyproblems⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietysupport⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocdawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalillnessawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #intrusivethoughts⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #endthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #breakthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #feelyourfeelings⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthadvocate⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #itsoktonotbeok

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I've been blessed to be able to continue seeing my therapist via Zoom. The downside? I'm now able to see my own facial expressions during exposures. It's.... disconcerting to say the least. The anxiety/disgust combo is not a good look (though the animation made it look a whole lot more Disney villain than I think it does in reality). - Admittedly, I don't put nearly as much effort into masking my expressions in therapy vs in real life. I've actually got pretty solid "affect management" when I'm working. It takes so much effort though. - Do you make faces when you do exposures? - Check my feed tomorrow for the Sunday Science article! - #ocdillustrated #ocd #ocdawareness #ocdproblems #realocd #pureocd #ocdvocate #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #intrusivethoughts #exposureandresponseprevention #exposuretherapy #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #anxietyawareness #anxietywarrior #anxiety #anxious #disgust #aremoji #facialexpressions #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthishealth #teletherapy #telehealth

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𝗟𝗲𝘁’𝘀 𝗴𝗲𝘁 #𝗨𝗻𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗼𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿! ⁣ ⁣ Free screening of #OCDkidsmovie⁣ March 29, 2020 - 5pm Eastern Time ⁣ ⁣ Live on Zoom and our FB page⁣ ⁣ 𝘡𝘰𝘰𝘮 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘐𝘋: 𝟷𝟼𝟽 𝟽𝟺𝟺 𝟿𝟽𝟺⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #ocdkids #intrusivethoughts #kidswithocd #exposuretherapy #youthmentalhealth #childmentalhealth #ocdandparenting #parentinganxiouskids #exposureandresponsetherapy #freescreening #zoommeeting #documentary #ocdrecovery #evidencebased #harmocd #realocd #ocdtherapy #ocdcon #ocdclean #therapyadvice #inpatienttherapy #faceyourfear #pureO #ocdlife #therapistlife #mentalhealth #ocdtherapy

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WE ARE RAPIDLY APPROACHING WRITING OUR 1,000th Not Alone Note! And we need your help to celebrate. Record yourself saying a hopeful, encouraging message to someone with OCD (10 seconds or less), and email it to [email protected] ❤️💌 Deadline: April 5

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In our next Facebook Live event, we explore when OCD goes meta and obsessions focus on one’s diagnosis, symptoms, and/or treatment. Guests will include Amy Mariaskin Ph.D. and Kathryn Booth. 🤗 . Dr. Mariaskin is a licensed clinical psychologist and director of the Nashville OCD & Anxiety Treatment Center in Brentwood, TN. She works with individuals across the lifespan (ages 6+) with OCD, anxiety, and related disorders. Dr. Mariaskin provides supervision to both pre-licensed therapists and student trainees and is adjunct faculty at Vanderbilt University. @ocdnashville . Kathryn Booth is Kathryn is a student and a mental health advocate who shares her OCD story on her Instagram (@the_road_to_recovery_from_ocd ) and through presentations to a wide variety of audiences.

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These thoughts are making me feel like I’m going insane and I will have these thoughts for the rest of my life. It’s been 7 years and these thoughts still cause me SO much panic! On top of thinking nothing is real and life is meaningless I’m also depressed. I’m sad, have no energy, agitated, feel like crying and so unhappy. I have no reason for being alive. Either anxious or sad. Can’t get a break and it’s not a way to live 😔 Hope everyone’s safe and doing well mentally and physically with social distancing!

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In the first photo you’re looking at a very broken, confused, depressed and OBSESSED young girl seven years ago. In the second photo you’re looking at a very happy, healthy girl in full blown OCD Recovery today. With a published book in Barnes & Noble detailing every step of the way between these two pictures. 🤯What a difference between that fake smile and real one. That difference is nothing more than the immense difference in my quality of life after I cracked the code and FOUGHT HARD against the only thing that was holding me back. #byeocd #dontmissyou #obsessivecompulsivedisorder

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In many ways, involving a partner, friend, or family member in your mental health journey can be a positive thing. I know that once I opened up to my close circle, I felt a release of shame and fear of judgement. Knowing that they knew what I was going through also strengthened our relationships. But telling them what I was going through meant that I also had to tell them how I had previously been involving them in my OCD cycle- the reassurance seeking, compulsive confessing of thoughts, spending time with them so I didn't have to be alone and feel my feelings. They want to help me and want me to succeed in my treatment so they abide by their new rules: do not give me reassurance and do not participate in my compulsions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If your partner loves you, they want to see you recover and they want to do their best to support you. Before you involve them in your OCD, assuming you want to beat this thing, it's best if they know OCD's rules. They need to know what your compulsions are so they can remind you that you're doing them. They need to know the negative impact of reassurance giving and how to identify when you are sneakily asking for it. They need to know enough about the disorder so they can see how big of a part they actually play in it, and they can decide whether to not to participate.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ERP⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #realocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #timetotalk⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodunfiltered⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #motherhoodintheraw⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #maternalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #harmocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postpartumocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #postnatalocd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietyproblems⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #anxietysupport⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ocdawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalillnessawareness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #intrusivethoughts⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #endthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #breakthestigma⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #feelyourfeelings⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #mentalhealthadvocate⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #itsoktonotbeok

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Shelley Hohe is an OCD sufferer and advocate, living in Portland, Oregon. She runs the instagram account @theocdcafe and she was OCD Oregon’s opening speaker for 1 Millions Steps 4 OCD. When I asked Shelley if she would like to tell her mental health story, she enthusiastically obliged. There are so many different ways that OCD can present itself. Shelley’s story is just one. To read Shelley’s mental health story, head to the link in my bio and click Blog. If you have a mental health story you’d like to share, head to my DMs. #ERP #realocd #timetotalk #motherhoodunfiltered #motherhoodintheraw #ocd #maternalocd #harmocd #postpartumocd #postnatalocd #anxietyproblems #anxietysupport #ocdawareness #mentalillnessawareness #intrusivethoughts #endthestigma #breakthestigma #feelyourfeelings #mentalhealthadvocate #itsoktonotbeok

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