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STOP SHOULDING YOURSELF!!⁣ ⁣ Yes, you heard me right. We need to stop shoulding ourselves. ⁣ ⁣ Be honest- how many times I’m the last 24 hours have you said “I should have...?” I 🙋🏻‍♀️ have been super guilty of this the past week. And I think that has played into my negative mood. ⁣ ⁣ Once I get going, it’s hard to stop. I should do the dishes. I should workout. I should fold the laundry. I should call my grandma. I should go finish Christmas shopping. I should learn more Spanish. I should be eating healthier. I should I should I should....⁣ ⁣ By the time I get through the laundry list of shoulds, I have overwhelmed myself to the point of exhaustion and just wanting to take a nap and forget about everything. ⁣ ⁣ But where does that get me? Nowhere. At least nowhere productive. ⁣ ⁣ Have you been falling into that trap recently? Especially going into the holidays, our to-do lists can easily be a mile long. ⁣ ⁣ 🌟My tip for you- take it one day at a time.🌟 One task at a time. Every morning when you first wake up, write down the 3 most important things that need done that day. And when you go to bed at night, you can stop shoulding yourself over what didn’t get done and instead feel accomplished for completing the 3 things you set out to do that day. ⁣ ⁣ Let’s do this together- comment below if you are going to try it this week!⁣ ⁣ #stopshouldingyourself #onedayatatime #todolist #giveyourselfgrace #overwhelmed #holidayseason #holidaystress

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‘Should statements’ produce anxiety and depression: “I should be able to talk to this person without getting so angry; I should be further along by now; I should stop doing this.” Self-defeating thoughts push us further into the hamster wheel of trying harder and not getting anywhere. Give yourself the gift of affirmation and encouragement: “I am learning how to forgive myself so I can forgive others; This is taking longer than I thought but I’m making progress; I’m getting better at using the word no and I will keep practicing, even though it’s hard.” MORAL OF THE STORY: #stopshouldingonyourself #stopshouldingyourself @eidemrocks @twostepsaheadpodcast @tarahokeschiro Check out our #podcast Link is in the Bio #twostepsaheadpodcast on #soundcloud #pandora #applepodcasts

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Are you letting the holiday “shoulds” stress you out and steal your joy this time of year? You know...”we SHOULD make homemade cut out cookies with the kids”...”we SHOULD send out picture-perfect Christmas cards”...”we SHOULD take the kids to go see Santa”...the list goes on and on 😑😩🤪 ••• To steal back a little more joy this season, ask each of your kids (and your spouse too), “what are the 1 or 2 most important things that we should do together?” You might be surprised by their answers. It could be something as simple and easy as curling up on the couch with popcorn and a holiday movie in your PJs. And by the way...all your PJs don’t even have to match! 😉 ••• You are likely to find that many of those “shoulds” floating around in your head are self-induced and can fall off your to-do list this year 🙌🏻 ••• #blendedbettertogether #choosejoythischristmas #saynotoholidaystress #stopshouldingyourself #remarriage #parenting #steparenting #stepgrandparenting #coparenting #marriage #stepfamily #blendedfamily #stepdad #stepmom #bonusdad #bonusmom

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‘Should statements’ produce anxiety and depression: “I should be able to talk to this person without getting so angry; I should be further along by now; I should stop doing this.” Self-defeating thoughts push us further into the hamster wheel of trying harder and not getting anywhere. Give yourself the gift of affirmation and encouragement: “I am learning how to forgive myself so I can forgive others; This is taking longer than I thought but I’m making progress; I’m getting better at using the word no and I will keep practicing, even though it’s hard.” MORAL OF THE STORY: #stopshouldingonyourself #stopshouldingyourself @eidemrocks @twostepsaheadpodcast Check out our #podcast #twostepsaheadpodcast on #soundcloud #pandora #applepodcasts

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Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Stop saying yes to stuff not meant for you. . #stopshouldingyourself #dreambig #levelup #priorities #coaching #doless #bemore

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Let's face it, the holidays can get a little ca-razy! So this year, I invite you to join me as I cover a few tips and strategies to ensure this is a stress free holiday season for you. This week we are focusing on how to identify resources available to you and then to delegate what you can. This can be a difficult pill to swallow. We often times fall into the pattern of, "well I SHOULD be able to do it all." Let me stop you right there and tell you that is total BS. It is time to stop "shoulding" all over yourself! Trust me, it's just not a good look for anyone and I am just as guilty of playing that card. However, none of us were born with a super woman cape so it is time to figure out our resources and access them. Like this and want more? Check out my online course, Make YOU a Priority, while it's on sale to help you get through the holidays with ease and grace. Go to http://bit.ly/MYAPCourse for more info. #stopshouldingalloveryourself #stressfreeholidays #holidayhacks #delegatemore #instacart #createalifeyoulove #chantalscreations #makeyouapriority #useyourresources #grocerydelivery #holidaymadness #healthyholiday #stressfree #lifehack #myap #calyl #overwhelmed #stopshouldingyourself

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JUST BECAUSE YOU SEE ONE PATH< DOES NOT MEAN IT IS THE ONLY OR BEST WAY FOR YOU TO GO . The path you are on in your business may look like this: Well traveled, the way to get to the mountain top. You believe that all you have to is go the way everyone else is and you will have everything you want. Clients, impact, your dream life are at the top of the mountain. If you do not have what you want it is time to WAKE UP to what is going on. It is just conditioning causing you to see this "normal" path, and think and believe it is the only way. It is one way, but I do not believe it is your way, or your would have gone to the mountain already. Do not worry, just because you do not see another path is not a problem. There are infinite ways to get where you are going, and the linear way is likely not the way you are meant to go. You are meant for more, and when you see and understand what you already know but forgot, you will see paths in ways that will blow your mind. You are not meant to be normal, to fit a mold or a box, you never were. You may have tried what you thought you should do, but I promise it kept you playing small, smaller than you were meant for. One of my fav doctor quotes ever "Why try to be fit in you were meant to stand out" Dr Seuss. (ok a different kind of dr, but I believe he was a healer) Just for today when you tell yourself you "should" do something in particular in your Biz, instead chose one thing off your list that instead makes you smile and go do that one. #womenbizcoach #normalisboring #dontfitin #adventerouswomen #womenmadeformore #womencreatingimpact #heartsonamission #wearethechange #stoplayingsmall #meantformore #itsyou #getoutofyourway #createyourpath #meanttobeyou #hereforareason #dontfollowlead #womenleaders #trailblazingwomen #womenofimpact #stopshouldingyourself #trysomethingnew #womenhealers #wegotthis

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Shoulds carry a lot of shame with them. “I should have known better.” “I shouldn’t have done that” “You should have said something!” “I should be more ______.” All these statements do is bring up feelings of shame, not good enoughness, inadequacy, wrongness, comparison, etc. I’m not saying that it isn’t important to acknowledge when we mess up or that it is never helpful to recognize an area we may want to grow in. Shoulding yourself just isn’t going to be what helps. Experiment with more compassionate ways of talking to yourself like: “I couldn’t have done it differently then because I was still learning.” “I made a mistake. I will do ____ to repair this.” “I want to grow in this area. I will do this by _____.” #imperfectistheonlyway #stopshouldingyourself #choosecompassion #selftalkmatters #yougrowgirl #selfawareness #selfhealers #therapistsofinstagram

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This is one of my favorite quotes. A guiding light for the work I do. And the person I am working on being . Underneath all of our "shoulds" is a fire burning and a heart beating. It takes some work, it takes some effort, but it is SO worth it to get your shoulds in check and live the life your beating heart wants you to . Trust me, older you will be glad you did 💜 #livelifeonpurpose #livingandtrying #intentionalliving #noregrets #liveyourlife #coachinghelpswiththat #stopshouldingyourself #examinethatshit #womenempoweringwomen #whatsyourgoal #gogetit

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So many times we are driven by things that society, our families, our bosses and our loved ones -- even ourselves, expect of us. ➖ But none of that is REAL. What IS real is that you are a perfect creature exactly as you are. ➖ You were born with the intelligence and drive needed to live in your full power, as you want to. Not as anyone or anything tells you you should. ➖ So on this particular Thursday, say YES to yourself. Say YES to taking the time to ask yourself what you REALLY REALLY want from life. ➖ And from there, you can start eliminating the SHOULDS. Either all at once, or one at a time. ➖ Because the Shoulds will never get you to Yes. They will only get you where society pressures you to be. . . . #selfcare #stopshouldingyourself #sayyes #wellness #attitude #yes #selfawareness #consciousness #consciousliving #femaleentrepreneur #womensupportingwomen #ladyboss #lifecoach #build #yourself

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Someone once told me to be dumber or I'd never meet a man. • So I went and got a Masters degree from Harvard. • Don't let other people write your story for you.

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SHOULD⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I literally hate this word.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No joke when I tell you literally every woman I know and client I work with "SHOULD" themselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I should be doing this.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I should have know that.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I should be able to manage this.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I should be better and that.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ SAYS WHO?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We are not doing ourselves any favours by shoulding ourselves. It lacks grace and self compassion. It is usually coming from a place of comparison. "Such and such is always doing this with her kids, I should be able to do that too". "So and so lost weight and then got pregnancy no problem, I should be able to commit". ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Just do me a favour. This week, try to notice every single time you say should to yourself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You will be shocked.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm not saying we don't need to set goals but shoulds lead to #momguilt and that ain't good for anyone!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Who's with me?!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #stopshouldingyourself #bekindtoyourself #nomoreshoulds #selflove #selfcompassion #yougotthismama #girlyougotthis #madeformore #bewell #mentalhealthtip

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I recently moved. Not just moved, but purchased a home, painted the upstairs, had carpet replaced, bought a ton of stuff because this is my first place with only my things since my divorce (had been living in furnished room then rental) and then moved. And unpacked a bit. And all the while I was working my full time day job, parenting, and running Become You. I’m effing tired. But instead of listening to my body and sleeping in this last weekend (as I usually need to do to feel rested), I set my alarm and did more stuff. Each day shoulding myself more & more. Until yesterday afternoon when out of no where my back seized up. And now I can’t do anything w/o so much pain I’m nauseous. Shoulds are shit (but I should’ve listened to my body and let it rest). #stopshouldingyourself #listentoyourbody #restingdoesnoteqallazy #itcanwait #shouldsareshit #annielamott #icantgetcomfortable #sendhelp #isitnaptimeyet

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Sometimes when I look at myself “Not good enough” is the mantra even with facetune 🤣. I should be this far in my career, I should be this kind of person, I should be motivated, I should be married, I should have it all together, I should, I should, I should...which is all rooted in “Not good enough.” “Should” robs you of the miracle of the present. The miracle that you’re still here and you’ve made it through things you never thought you could. I may not be where I think I should be in some areas but I’m also living a life I couldn’t have even dreamt of. Life is not meant to be a list of goals to reach. It’s meant to be a great adventure. Embracing every moment and everyday with expectation, letting go of the time clock that tells you what you’re lacking and waking up each day declaring, “I was born for such a time as this!” When you have a perspective shift like that, the “Not good enough” mantra begins to lose its power because when you are born for something you don’t have to prove anything. Just be unapologetically you and everything will fall into place. ❤️ #BornForThis #StopShouldingYourself

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🌸𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙𝙣’𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙛𝙡𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 🌼⠀ ⠀ So I’m very glad that my sweet peas haven’t listened to what they 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 or 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙𝙣’𝙩 be doing! ⠀ ⠀ How often do you tell yourself what you 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 be doing,, what you 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 be aiming for, or what you 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙𝙣’𝙩 ? ⠀ ⠀ When you do, try stopping, & asking yourself what you 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 to do, what you’d 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 to do, or to be. ⠀ ⠀ Screw 𝙎𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙!!!⠀ ⠀ #stopshouldingyourself #thinkbig #mindful #happy #goals #focus

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Have you been shoulding all over the place? Stop it! Now! Just a friendlyreminder: you don’t have to be an expert to be successful. You don’t have to be a makeup artist or an esthetician. You don’t have to have 10k followers or a network of people with money. You don’t have to have family & friends that support you. You don’t have to know every single ingredient and where each were sourced. You don’t have to know what to say when people ask you what you do. What you do need: passion, excitement and confidence. 🔥PASSION for the reason you started this journey. 💥EXCITEMENT for a company that is disrupting the industry. 💗CONFIDENCE in the fact that you are changing lives. Do you have these three traits? If so, let’s do this thing! I promise you’re only regret will be not starting sooner! Thanks for the quote @lorikennedyinc ❤️

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#motivationmonday • without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #TeamCWX #CWXUSA #TopoTeam #TopoAthletic #MoveBetterNaturally #FindYourStrong #LoveWhatYouDo #honeystingerhive #ultrarunner #runnerslife #GoTailwind #teambravesoldier #PushHarder #WaffleWarrior #StingerSquad #FueledByBeets #WinNeverTie #DarnTough #ToughTested #goodr #stopshouldingyourself⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ CW-X code teamcwxref ⁣⁣ Topo code TOPOJPIGNATARO10

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Another Personal Year nearly wrapped, and though I have been quite fortunate, I am certainly looking forward to what is to come from here on out, and who I will assist as I go. Photos from the leadership summit myself and my associates attended last weekend; I am extremely lucky to be in their presence any day of the week. Of everything I absorbed, one of my greatest takeaways (among many impactful others) is; "Stop 'should-ing' yourself". Indeed. Ready for my next year. Have a great weekend! Ja ne! #StopShouldingYourself #Growth #Grateful #Assist #LeadingFromTheMiddle #Indeed #PositiveImpacts

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Tbh at this point I’d rather 💩 myself than get stuck in another “should” loop. ✨ Seriously, one of the simplest ways to hold yourself back is to focus on what you “should” be doing instead of on the actions that will get you closer to your dreams. ✨ #tuesdaythoughts #stopshouldingyourself #befree #healing #quotestoliveby #mindfulness #mindset #beyourself #selflove #selfcare #listentoyourself #achieve #dreambig

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